Which is the worse feelings REGRET or GUILT?

Philippines
September 23, 2010 5:01am CST
I am in a situation of losing myself and on the verge of giving up. I dont know if i have to really write it here, but this is very private. I just to know which is the worse feeling to be guilty or have regrets? All i know is that whatever my decisions is, one of those feelings i have to suffer. I just need a little advice. :(
4 responses
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
23 Sep 10
That does seem like a tricky question on the surface but really, if you think about it, regrets can be far more helpful than guilt. Guilt is something that is going to cause my mind to be distracted time and time again. It is going to give us some thoughts in the back of our minds. To the fact that it's going to ruin our lives, if the Guilt continues to eat up at us. So on that note, guilt is far worse than having regrets. We're going to have regrets. Things that we wish we done. Still, regrets are something that we can still inspire ourselves to succeed with. Perhaps there is something that can be done to build upon what we regret doing or not doing. Guilt will hang us up a lot worse than regrets and it has far too less of an upside. So, I would rather have many regrets, than a little guilt.
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
Hey you made me think twice. I agree with what you just said. Im really confused right now. I need more time to think which is which. I dont wanna feel guilty nor regret for something. I need to weight things, its really hard though. But thanks for sharing your thoughts, really appreciate it. Its really helping.
@sinliong (88)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 10
That would be very depend on the person who experienced the feelings, but as for me, I would prefer to feel guilty than regretting something. When I feel guilty, usually I can make a promise to my self, that someday I will pay for that guilt. As an example, when I feel guilty to somebody, a friend or even one of my family, usually I will make a promise to my self, that someday, I will do something for them or their family that makes them happy, as a payback for my guilt, for something bad that I did to them. And as long as I know, that is a quite good way to erase my feeling of guilt. But for regret, I never know what to do about it, since as I what to do about it, since as I by something that never can be repaired. Regret will come to you when everything is too late.
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
i believe that's true, when your feeling guilty for someone, there is still a chance to make it up to them, but regret is something we cant stop thinking, because we'll never know what will happen because we never tried to do something about it... all we do is just wonder till forever. thanks for sharing :)
• United States
23 Sep 10
I think that it depends on the situation and the cause of the guilt or regret. If you had an opportunity that you did not take, then you might feel regret that you did not pursue the opportunity, because you do not know what the outcome might have been. If you make a bad choice and hurt someone, then you might feel guilt over your decision. However, I think that these are similar and sometimes interchangeable emotions. If you feel guilty about something, then you might also regret your choice or decision. On the other hand, you might not regret it but feel guilty about certain consequences while others you are happy about. Therefore, it is a very difficult question to answer and would most likely depend upon the situation, especially when there is a chance that you will not only feel guilty but also regret your actions.
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
The worst one is guilty! Regrets are normal but guilt is something heavy for the conscience to take.
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
thanks for sharing :)