passion is slowly dying

Philippines
September 25, 2010 11:32am CST
Some say that years of being together in a relationship is getting boring...the flame is slowly dying...the sweetness fading...sometimes the hugs and kisses are given not out of passion but out of obligation. If you are in that kind of relationship, how will you turn a boring, rocky relationship into a deeper connection?
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@kara18 (135)
25 Sep 10
Is this because of the lack of time you have to be together? If it is then may I suggest that you two should spend more time together and really make sure that both of you find that time to nurture the relationship. Talk about it, talk about your feelings towards the current situation. ANd make it possible that you two still go out on dates! No matter how long you've been together it doesn't mean that you two shouldn't go out on a date. Both of you should be creative as relationship itself won't last if it's not nurtured.
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
25 Sep 10
My relationship is not on that point, and i wish it would never happen, but unfortunately, routine is unforgiving, if we like it or not. When the flame is gone, and the kissing and the hugs are only an usual thing to do, is hard to bring back the flame, but not impossible. I think that you can do some interesting things, or going to a trip in the mountains, only the 2 of you, or doing some other things that you use to do before, and you stoped doing years ago, the idea is to take a vacation just the 2 of you to spend some time alone, away from the problems, jobs, and other things, to bring back the flame.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
25 Sep 10
Some people may say that passion is dying,but that maybe in their own relationship,but it is not happening in mine,far from it.I have been married for nearly 14 years and i will say that the passion is the same as it was when we first met.Spending time together and not holding on to all the past things that have happened in a relationship helps.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
26 Sep 10
Any relationship can be a struggle. they all need to be nurtured to grow. The length of the relationship has nothing to do with the passion in it. when you feel that your relationship is losing some of its passion, it's time to do something to give it back that spark.
@exx007 (167)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
so sweet!
@pinoycity (422)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
For me, passion will only die if you really do not love each other. But, if it does happen, I guess, a good way is to give yourselves (you and your spouse) some space. If you really care about your spouse you will miss him/her.
@jovie899 (112)
26 Sep 10
As for me, relationships would really die if we do not do something about it. I recommend that one's perspective towards relationship is that you continue to court your partner each day. You have to make the person feel he/she is special to you and that does not change. You can go out of town, spend the weekend together, or do any kind of activity that involves just the two of you.. Makes sense?
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
25 Sep 10
i don't see how one can if that's what really is happening.
@bagputza (504)
• Belgium
25 Sep 10
Good evening dear friend bokal2703 , well i actually am not yet at that point of the relationship , since me and my fiancee are only havong four years of relationsip , and we love us very much , and off course i am not saying that me and her do not have fight , we do have fights like just every couple , but we always end up agreeing at the end of the day , so we never stay angry at eachother , and of course that there are days or nights when there is not all like in fairy tailles , and maybe that we dont have the crave to do something special for the night , since we both work everyday , she works from four to six hours per day ( a part time job ) and i am working in a factory around eight to twelfe - thirteen hours per day ( i am making supliment hours ) so there are days when all we want its to eat together and if lucky take a shower togheter , and then just simply cuddle in the couch , watching a movie , and then going to sleep. So i guess that its only normal whats going on in my relationship , and if the persones that are involved with someone for a longer , much much longer then mines ( let say fifteen twenty years ) and they have a very cold understanding and relationship , then i only blame them both , since maybe they are caring alot less for eachother , so they dont want to make an effort anymore , but i will always want to and will have the motivation to make an effort for my second half . I wish you all the best , as well as in your love life as in you dailly life. Florin , Over and Out
@akn1961 (1035)
• India
25 Sep 10
passion will not die if you keep on experimenting and inovating things weather love,relatioship ,keep on enjoying ,be happy and let other live happy ,thanks for sharing.