Do you really have to say thank you??

@saphrina (31740)
South Africa
September 28, 2010 8:35am CST
This is probably such an awesomely stupid question. So when you are done laughing and all that goes with it, please feel free to show me how stupid this is. Whether you are married or just in a relationship, do you thank your partner/wife or husband for loving you? Do we have to say "thank you for loving me?" I mean, you are married or in a relationship. You wouldn't have been there if you didn't love each other, RIGHT? Now, do you thank that person for loving you and does that one thank you in return? TATA.
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• United States
28 Sep 10
I certainly do not think I should be thanked and or I thank my boyfriend for the love comments. I feel they are earned and well something earned should be appreciated with reciprocal actions that is. I think I would feel silly to say thank you especially 100 times a day that I am told that I am loved.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
Hello sweetie. Well, my boyfriend tells me at least a 100 times a day he loves me. I won't ever complain about that. But when he thanked me i actually thanked him back. Strange but it didn't felt stupid or weird. Maybe i can get used to this. Thanx. TATA.
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• United States
28 Sep 10
How cute, I suppose if I said to my boyfriend I love you and he says to me why thank you.. Then I would chuckle and say no thank you... hehehe..
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
Don't you dare say no thank you, sweetie.
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@maclanis (1514)
• Belgium
28 Sep 10
When my boyfriend says I love you I don't reply with thank you. :p I say I love you too, which kind of includes the gratitude, I guess. "Thank you for loving me" is kind of a weird thing to say, you can just reciprocate by saying I love you.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
I do think it strange, sweetie. I love you and vice versa, no need to thank, though. Thanx. TATA.
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@vandana7 (62575)
• India
28 Sep 10
I think love is cheaper than thanks... I would be ok with thanks because - the person who says thanks is in all probability suffering with inferiority complex - unable to believe that he or she is worth loving. If he or she is that bad, then I guess, he or she should be thanking me. After all nobody else loves him or her.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
I think we need to have that little talkie, Vannie.
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@aurorastorm (1136)
• United States
28 Sep 10
I am married and I have never said thank you to my husband for loving me. I have said thank you for lots of things but have never thought about saying it for that. It really is not a stupid question, kind of interesting to think about it.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
I never thought of this, sweetie, until my boyfriend mentioned the thank you, today. I was impressed and then i wondered how many people do that. Strange how we never really think of something like this. Thanx. TATA.
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• Philippines
28 Sep 10
my boyfriend mentioned the thank you, today. You really should not considered it funny. when a guy says things like that, is when he gets serious. it takes balls/guts for a man to even say such. most men abuse/take for granted of their gfs. that when they make it up they just do it.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
Letran, i do not think this is funny at all. I appreciate him even more for being that honest and open. What got your knickers in a knot like that?
• China
28 Sep 10
First, I don't think that's a stupid question. In fact, although most of the Chinese people are in a relationship(a big family), we don't say "thank you for loving me" because we are afraid to feel embarrased. We usually do something to let the others feel that we appreciate their love. But I think that's a roundabout way and a wast of time. We should try to say thank you as often as possible.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
I don't think it is something to feel embarresed about, sweetie. I have never heard or done it, until today. Seems we learn new things each day, though. Thanx TATA.
@vandana7 (62575)
• India
28 Sep 10
Ok blondie, I know you love me, and since you are so averse to the words, I will not use them even though we are not married, and even if you choose to give me Robert Mugabe's palace.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
You can have his palace, Vannie. As for that love, uumm, NOPE. TATA.
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@gunagohan (3415)
• India
28 Sep 10
Mel--u are a boy or a girl ??
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
I will leave this box, SILENTLY.
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 10
hmmm...when he say 'i love you' and then i said to him back 'thank you'. hahaha... that is so funny!!!i don't know how to say saph...i just find this weird and strange....
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
Try it, sweetie. Believe me that makes a huge difference. Thanx. TATA.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
Should i prove that you are wrong, meluan. Not all of them are the same, believe me.
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
i just think it sounds weird. it should be 'me too'. but i will try it. it will be something different.
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@primeaque86 (8113)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
For me 'Thank you' are not for two strangers, let say 'thank you for the ride' or whatever. I mean this phrase could still excess between two heart so close together---for couple, for lovers... I love saying thank you, I should share the story about one of these days, I had even written and posted it before here, unfortunately no readers... and even me, I can write a book of my own thank you's... hello my B...
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
Hello Prime. I know you love saying thank you. That is what makes you so special, you know. Write that book, i will read it. Thanx. TATA.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Okay I will think about it my B, You know I am not yet done with the other story I am trying to write, or make a video at picasa, when I am done with it, I may proceed to thank you book, what do you think?
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
You will think about it?? I know you will get that done. I will love both of those, you know.
@gunagohan (3415)
• India
28 Sep 10
I think this is a pretty confusing question in my category.. I am not married, but i don't feel thank you is necessary for saying in return for Love u.. If ur partner is saying Love u , u should say the same or tell Love u too..But thank u is some kind of improper relationship i guess, but i'm not sure of it.. I have seen this in "Big Bang Theory" a TV show, where Leonard and Penny were Lovers once and Leonard will say I love u in the night to Penny and Penny would say thank you, Leonard in Return would say u are Welcome...The next day they broke up !!! Leonard was expecting the Love word from Penny, but she wasn't interested in saying due to some odd reasons !!
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
You are not the only one who is confused with this, guna. I would say as long as you say it to each other, that is fine. No need for thanx. You and your tv shows. TATA.
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@vandana7 (62575)
• India
28 Sep 10
Guna - kiddo get married, find out from your wife - and report to us - pronto.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
Leave him, Vannie. He is too young for that, you know.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
28 Sep 10
Saying thank you is just common courtesy. it shows that we do have some manners. it is just polite to say thank you when someone has done you a kindness.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
Yes sweetie, that i know. Will you say thank you for your partner's love? I want to know if you do that and if it comes naturally? Thanx. TATA.
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
28 Sep 10
Hi saphrina! Yes I do! It's not only graciousness, it's also a way to express my appreciation and gratitude. And when I hear the same I feel appreciated, loved and needed. All these feelings are good.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
Hi sweetie. How are you? But why thank that person for the love. It comes naturally, doesn't it? Thanx. TATA.
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
28 Sep 10
I'm fine saphrina, thank you. While the feeling of love is natural the choice of being someone's husband or a wife is not.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
I know sweetie.
@vijayanths (7878)
• India
28 Sep 10
No sweetie, we don't thank each other though we know very well that we love each other. May be we think it's too formal to thank, We usually don't thank family members. we rarely say thanks to them. But we do say thanks to others, BTB I can't thank you for this discussion sweetie,
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
To formal, sweetie? Okay now that is one thing i never heard off. Seems like you never say thank you to anything?? Don't thank me, i will send you the bill. Thanx. TATA.
• India
28 Sep 10
Sweetie, I thank quite often. If I don't thank some one, it means I am close to that person. For example if mel does something good to me(??)then I won't thank her,
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
Oh brother.
@shibham (17025)
• India
29 Sep 10
Thank you saphie. Hahaha...
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
My pleasure, Shiby.
@shibham (17025)
• India
29 Sep 10
Thanks melua. U know what does the word melua mean in my local language?
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
Enlighten us, Shiby.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
29 Sep 10
Of course you "need" to say thank you for loving me or someone saying it back to you!! Just cuz you are married doesn't take the courtesy out of marriage.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
I do say it, sweetie. But i am not married. Thanx. TATA.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
29 Sep 10
Makes it even better !! TATA 2 U 2
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
Thanx sweetie.
@LIENROSE (911)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
wow you have so many friends who commented ,on your discussion, great job...
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
Thanx sweetie, but are you going to answer this as well? TATA.
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• China
30 Sep 10
I also frightened by your momentum. as the saying gose ''strength in numbersā€˜
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
30 Sep 10
Yip that is the best saying ever, sweetie.
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
29 Sep 10
Just show her with emotions like hugging. If you say thanks for loving then they might not believe you
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
He is a bit far for me to get or give a hug, sweetie. But as he thanked me for my love i thanked him as well. I actually find that it shows how honest he is in what he feel for me. Thanx. TATA.
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@vandana7 (62575)
• India
30 Sep 10
OMG Saphy - did you have to be that boringly romantic....:(
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
2 Oct 10
Yip.
@tammytwo (4304)
• United States
28 Sep 10
You should never take their love for granted, so yes you should say "Thank you". And you should say it often. Love is a two way street and it's one that couples tend to give up on very easily. Your question is not a stupid one. In fact it may open the eyes of couples when they read the responses. We should find something every day to thank our significant other for, whether it just simply be for being there or if it is for the major sacrifices they make each day for the family.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
So true, sweetie. I have learned a lot through this responses. I will thank him every time i talk to him as he thank me for my love. It really makes a difference. Thanx. TATA.
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@tammytwo (4304)
• United States
29 Sep 10
Just a simple "thank you" can make a world of difference in a relationship. It can also make the significant other realize that you don't take them for granted and that you really do appreciate them.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
I have noticed that, sweetie. The more we give, the better the relationship. From both sides, of course.
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@chaoz674 (80)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Probably I'll say thank you to the person who loves me whom I can only love back only as a friend.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
Why only as a friend, sweetie? Does it really make that much of a difference? Thanx. TATA.
• China
29 Sep 10
yes,i agree with you!but,,haha !i have my own idea!
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
Hello sweetie. Glad you agree. Take that idea of yours and start a discussion with it. I am sure it will be a good one. Thanx. TATA.
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• Indonesia
29 Sep 10
In my heart I always pray to God to bring my girlfriend to be my wife. But I am always speechless to said to my wife
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
Why speechless, sweetie? Open your mouth and just say it, okay. Thanx. TATA.
• United States
28 Sep 10
Heck no I don't say thank you, I would respond "I love you" back or "love you too".
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
Oh come on, sweetie. What do you have to loose, by trying this. I dare you to try this one. Thanx. TATA.