When regrets and shame haunt you.

when the painful (and shameful) events were new, they used to haunt me every second of my day, every day of my life. they have given me sleepless nights. but i came to terms with myself by talking alone that it was over and done with. prayer also helps. most important thing is you have conviction. it makes it easier to accept your weaknesses and hope that it will not happen again in the future.

I used to always ponder about my past and be bothered by some of my actions back then that it sometimes affected me very much. But I've decided that I cannot be always sad about those selected thoughts since I cannot undo what happened before so I decided to be more careful of my decisions and actions in every passing moment and I think that whatever happens, it is my best decision at the present situation and hold a happy thought with it. And now whenever I think of the past, I just try to think of what I can learn in it to improve my present.

The effects of living in regret are very crippling. Helplessness is one of these effects. When you dwell on what you did instead of what you could have done, you will become helpless. You will be helpless because no matter how big the decision was it is far to late to change your mind. When you are helpless like this, it will be very hard to escape the trap you have set for yourself. Your thoughts will haunt you and happiness will elude you. Do not obsess over your regrets, for they can't be changed, or you will dig your own grave.

Well i just generally block out such things and try to keep myself busy so that i dont think about such things ...cause it just does not helps anything .. whats done is done .. if an apology makes it better i tend to finish it off faster ... but ya nothing helps during the sleepless nights ....