When someone walks out of your life, should they be able to walk back in?

@Bambi09 (227)
United States
September 30, 2010 11:42am CST
I'm totally losing my mind right now. For those who read my last post, Ryan & I didn't click like I thought we were going to, but it's okay :). But now... Out of nowhere, and ex boyfriend popped up on Facebook, and we were talking. We have a child together and really haven't talked since my son was born. (He has always been in our son's life though). Well, we were IMing each other and he said "So when are you going to come see me?" And I laughed it off saying I couldn't leave then state til Nov. And He replied with "Well, maybe I should come down there." I'm a little bit confused at this point. Then he tells me that he thinks about the old days all the time and misses me really bad and if he came down here we should try and work it out. Now, we broke up last year, while I was still pregnant with our son. And all I wanted was an apology and such and he just took it as a sign and left. And I haven't had really any contact with him besides our son. So, really what I'm asking is, if a relationship was perfect, and it ended because of hormones, should I really give him a second chance? Should I go out on a limb and try it again. Or should I just let it be and keep going the path I am. I have been missing him lately and I think it's a sign. BUt I need some other opinions. Please help me out :)
2 responses
@Jagokonte (123)
• Greece
1 Oct 10
The rule is that when someone walks out of your life they should never walk back in but I think this man never really walked out of your life. As long as you have a son together this connects you deeply. Probably there was a serious reason he left you from the first place and there is high chance it will happen again. If you get together and then break up second time you will feel all sorts of bad feelings and you will feel even more hurt. This guy left a pregnant woman right when she needed him (he knew you where pregnant right?) and now he comes back and wants to remember of the "old days" and is flirting with you... I would suggest you let him be a part of your son's life but avoid getting back in a relationship with him without knowing his real intentions.
@morgn010 (31)
• Egypt
30 Sep 10
to answer your guestion i dont think so people how walks out of our life especially if they our x-lover they shouldnot come back they with this way mess with our life hesitate in love make it destroy buttttttttt if he or she was your husband or wife i think he could come back avoiding not to destroy the family vut you must give him alesson at first not to keep you away and when he or she need you he easily come back hope be helpful