Is It Worth the Confrontation?
By vjenkins86
@vjenkins86 (1478)
United States
September 30, 2010 12:03pm CST
Me and my boyfriend were talking last night, joking around about who's in charge of the relationship. We both knew we were just bantering and not taking it seriously. Then he said he knew he was the boss after I called him up crying because he was angry at me for some reason (he doesn't remember why he was angry at me). When he brought that up, I was stunned because I remember the event clearly.
I called him up because I received a message from he accusing me of not loving him and not caring about our relationship. I didn't know what prompted this attack on me so I was hurt and I called him to ask him why he thought that. That was why I was crying.
Now he brought it up in a joking conversation and I didn't know how to respond. I guess he must have felt that I was stunned because he changed topics quickly. However now I'm wondering if I should have told him that I didn't appreciate him bringing up the fact that called him crying as a way to prove he's the boss of the relationship. Maybe I being too sensitive about it, it just kind of hurt.
I probably should just let it go. It's not worth the possible confrontation, right?
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4 responses
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
30 Sep 10
You are hurt and you have a right to be, but I think he genuinely didn't remember why and if he had he wouldn't have brought it up. If you do bring it up just mention that that is why you were crying, and then drop it. He'll realize he made a mistake and should apologize. That's usually how things work out with my husband and I.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
30 Sep 10
It might be better that you go ahead and let him know. If he brings it up again you might get angry instead of just quiet. That's atleast what happens with me.
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
30 Sep 10
You think so? You might have a point. I'll definitely think about it.
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
30 Sep 10
Yeah, I think you're right. I might just let it go unless he brings it up again, then I might say something then drop it. Thanks for your advice.
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
30 Sep 10
It's probably not really worth the confrontation right now. Let it go so it doesn't cause problems. There will be times that we should just let things go in a relationship. We all joke about being the boss but when it comes down to it we should all be equal partners in a relationship.
@mosquitofree (19)
• United States
3 Oct 10
I agree that we shouldn't have boss in a relationship if we really love each other.Now ,you can just let it go,but if he menthion it again,you should just tell him that you dont like it which makes you feel upset.
@IoanaBI (494)
• Romania
30 Sep 10
YEs, let it go and he will always get his way one way ir the other. I do not understand why girls are letting the partner know how much they care about them and cry when they can see. You are giving him a power and at some point he will show you that power. I think is better to let him know as less at your hearts loves at possible, and because theyhave a big ego, they will try to be better and make things more perfect so that you will love him. I think this is the power..
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
30 Sep 10
I try not to think of a relationship as a power struggle because it seems like once that becomes the priority then the relationship becomes more of who's in control and who's the dominant person.
Then again, that's just my opinion. Thanks for you input, though.
@renanfreitas (68)
• Brazil
30 Sep 10
does not compensate, this is the kind or conversation that each one has his own argument...
to talk with me, my wife need to be on her knees, she kneels by the bed and screams, get out from under the bed (joking)
relax do be frustraded... is this we call as relatioship
