ur brother ask u to have a baby for him and his wife bcs they cant. would u?^^

Portugal
October 2, 2010 8:24am CST
hi guys^^ imagine that your brother/sister ask you to have a baby for him/her and his wife/hubby bcs they cant have kids together. they ask for you to carry their baby in your belly bcs you can have kids :) in case of girls. and in case of boys if you were a girl would you do it for your sister/brother?^^ about me i would do it for my sisters if they needed to^^ they would be happy and if i can have kids why not help them?^^ and you guys? would you?^^ please share^^
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13 responses
• United States
2 Oct 10
You should really make this discussion about if "a friend had asked you to carry their baby in your belly" or something. Cause, that's just plan wrong to have a sibling's genes mixed with your genepool, it can actually create huge problems for the baby. If you are talking about the scientific version, I do not feel it is right to ask your own sibling for that. It's wrong, just plain out wrong to have a sibling carry a sibling's baby. Instead, I would tell them to adopt a child because there are so many children in this world that need a home. They need love too, and maybe those who cannot have children of their own, should adopt an orphan.
• Portugal
2 Oct 10
aw i see^^ you didnt understand. i mean like husband of my sister would put his sperm in a place and the doctor would put in me :) like this you understand?^^ thats what i meant. if my sister was the cause for them dont have kids. sure brother and sister genes together would be dangerous. and i wouldnt want my sister to have a baby that could have mental problems. you just misunderstood me :)
• United States
2 Oct 10
I understand what you are saying now. I would still say no to it. I understand that if say your sibling wants a child with their "blood", but there are still so many children who would love to have a home. It would also mean that I would care for this child for 9 months, give labor, just to give that child away. I don't know if I could handle that mentally and physically, especially since I have not given birth, I do, however, have daughter-in-laws. Also, I am thinking about adopting children in the future.
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
yes sure would be hard bcs you would feel all in your belly and then had to give it away^^ yes i understand you^^ and yes there is many children for adoption so you would tell your sister that maybe she could adopt^^ well im sure she would understand. anyway is good that you want to adopt too you should^^ bcs even having your daughter in laws you didnt see them as babies yet right? so maybe you wanted adopt a little one right?^^
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
For me I Don't because the baby would get mad in you they want to have the original mother and father.
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
aw but wouldnt be like that. the baby would understand for sure^^ or that way no children would want to be adopted ever. mother and father are those that give the love^^ also if you care for your sister and could get pregnant why not help her? everyone should help. we must care for our family too. i have no doubts that if one of my sisters asked me that i would say yes^^
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
you think you can asked you're JEHOVA GOD about that?
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
but im not a jehova testemony. i just think that if we can make our sister happy by helping her why not? wouldnt you help your sister if she couldnt have a baby and asked you? would you refuse that to your sister? i love my sisters and i would never say no to them. if i would make them happy by having a baby for them i would for sure do that. thats my beliefs only.
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
3 Oct 10
i would have to say yes as i have been in a similar situation but the situation was in reverse, i was the one wanting the baby (but everything ended up working out and we didnt need anyone helping us) but if i was asked to help someone out and i could, i would as i know what it feels like to be on the end of asking someone such a life changing decisions.
• Australia
5 Oct 10
thanks, my sister said if i needed such help she would help me out, i also had a friend offer to help if needed.. it is a life changing decision to have to do such a thing.
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
it changes life sure but im very happy that your sister and your friend would do that for you^^ that means that they love you so much that wouldnt mind to do that just to see you happy^^ they are great people^^ im happy that you found a way to become a mother and if didnt use that way you would have people to help you make your dream come true^^
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
aw you been on that situation?^^ thats great^^ i mean great bcs is good to have opinion of someone that was on that^^ im happy that you solved things and wasnt necessary that your sister did that for you^^ anyway did she accept it when you asked her? i wish so^^ and im happy that if she needed you would do that for her^^ you are a good sister and a good person ^^ thanks so much for share with me what happened to you^^
• China
3 Oct 10
I wonder what's your point of starting such a kind of topic. Don't you think it ridiculous? Can a brother seriously asks his sister to have a baby for him? However illiterate a person is, he/she can't be so ignorant of the consequence of incest. You said you would do it for your sisters if they asked you, but have you ever considered about the result? What will you do if you give birth to a deformed baby only because you and your sister have similar genes?
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
first you shouldnt talk rude to me and second you misunderstood. what i meant was if you are a girl your sister would ask you to go to a doctor and put her hubby sperm in you so you could have a baby for her. and if you are a boy and your brother ask you to give your sperm so his wife can get pregnant. so thats what i meant. in girls case her sister cant have kids and in boys case his brother cant have kids. now do you understand what i meant? next time before say my discussion is ridiculous ask me first. i hate rude people really.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
2 Oct 10
I would never allow my wife to do this, and I think it would be pretty selfish of her family members to ask her to do this for them. That is like trying to get someone else to buy the car for you so you won't have to go through the hassle of getting the loan in your name. All the risk would be on my wife, not to mention we would have to go through a pregnancy for a kid that wasn't even ours. Also, using her brother's sperm to impregnate her would be the same as her getting pregnant through incest, which could cause some serious health problems for the baby, so it probably wouldn't be advised by medical staff anyway. However, even if she got the sperm from another donor, I still would not allow it...
• United States
2 Oct 10
OK...so it makes more sense to me now LOL However, I still would not change my opinion on this issue. I feel that this could only cause problems in the future for everyone involved, no matter how much the people wanting us to do this sort of thing would claim that it wouldn't...
• Portugal
2 Oct 10
no no i meant like your wife has a sister right?^^ so your wife would have the sperm of her sister hubby for them to have a kid. also i meant brother like if you are a guy and your brother cant have babies you would give your sperm to his wife for her to carry the baby. thats what i meant^^ maybe i should had explain better^^ anyway i see that still you wouldnt allow that :) even if was for other man that that was what i meant^^ but would you donate yours for your brother's wife for them to have a kid? :)
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
yes^^ i understand you^^ and the baby could look like you and then people could say ohh this one fuc*ed his wife's sister or something ahah so maybe not a great idea ^^ anyway is ok your brother would understand and would find other donor^^ there are a lot of people that donate sperm so find it is not a big issue^^ i understand your point in not wanting it^^
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
I don't think I will go for that. It is against nature and I do not want any complications in the future. The baby will still be my baby even if I was only used as a surrogate mother. No, I don't think I will do it.
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
aw i see^^ ok i respect your decision but it was only for help your sister. and ys the baby would be in your belly but would be to your sister. anyway i know is a complicated situation^^ i dont judge you but i think your sister would be too happy if you could do that for her ^^ at least if i needed it and my sisters did that for me i would be too happy^^
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 10
Hi, In this kind of situation, I must have everyone agreement to do it before making the full commitment. It is about a life of someone and everyone must really agree to it,then I can go ahead and do it. In the first place, to get myself pregnant,it means I need a help from my partner and I have to get an agreement from my partner to do so. It is not a small issue and of course, if everyone has agreed to it, for sure I will help up since I am able to get pregnant.
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
im happy that you would do it for your sister^^ and yes sure you needed to talk to your bf first to see if he agreed too or not^^ sure things have to be decided with calm and caring also for what others have to say^^ anyway im too happy that you would help your sister to fulfill her dream^^ thats very sweet of you^^ you are a good person^^
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hello Sweet, I am a guy and if such situations happened and my brother asked me to do such. am afraid i may have to be honest, YEAH, I'll do it alright. but Artificial Insemination is way too expensive for us. so, i think am gonna do RAW(if you get what am thinking) otherwise, they should go find some one else to seed "sister in law" Sure a lot of people here being hypocrite, thinking it's immoral here and there. give me a BREAK! this is a situation where not only they need kids, but the family line needs to be continue. the only immoral thing is if the Sister asked his younger brother to impregnate her in secret. so that she and her hubby can have a baby. pure and simple.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
3 Oct 10
Bringing a child into this world is a miracle of life. if i could something to make my sibling's life more beautiful, than I would. It might seem strange and awkward to have a child for someone else, but I would definitely be up for the challenge.
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
im very happy that you would do that for your sister^^ thats very sweet of you^^ and yes i think like you^^ if we can make someone else happy with our actions why not?^^ i would do the same^^ even is a bit strange situation but would be for someone you liked happiness so for sure should do it^^ if was me i would also like my sister to do that for me too^^
• United Arab Emirates
2 Oct 10
if i was a girl and i was asked to conceive for my brother and sister i would definately do it. There is nothing more than sharing love with your brother or sister. But definately it will be a mutual understanding with me and my husband.
• Portugal
2 Oct 10
aw edward^^ im happy that you would do it for your brother :) that means you really care for him^^ donate your sperm so his wife could have a kid for them^^ and yes if we can help why not?^^ family is important besides you only had to give your sperm and was all^^ if was a girl helping her sister and carrying the baby would be worse^^ like me im a girl but i would do that for my sister if she asked me to^^
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
2 Oct 10
I'll bring up Phoebe from sitcom friends, just remind me about that, I love that series. I don't think I would. It's such a big thing and if he couldn't have I am pro of adoption. Even those who can have kids should adopt I think. I know I won't have kids because they are all souls and there are so many orfans around the World that when my time comes or $$$ I surely find my kid. Maybe two, but hopefuly 3 kids. :D
• Portugal
2 Oct 10
yes thats how i remembered ahah my sister was watching it last night in her laptop so i remembered to create a discussion about it ahah^^ my sister loves friends series and me too like to watch with her sometimes^^ she watched it so many times already ahah ^^ is cute that you would adopt children :) there are many children to be adopted so if many people adopted instead of just have their own kids the world would be better^^ like adopt one and other one have it from you :) that way would be happy even more bcs for some people is very important to also have kids from them so could do both things that way^^
• India
2 Oct 10
well adopting is really good if you can't born a child you can adopt one ya if my brother would have asked me I would have give him even in my family my there are four brothers including my father so only my mom can born a child so there were three brother one we gave it to my uncle...
• Portugal
2 Oct 10
aw ^^ i see. so your mother gave one of her childs to your uncle to create it?^^ thats too sweet of her :) she sacrificed one son to see her brother happy :) not everyone would do the same she did^^ besides she can still see her son :) is like your uncle is the father but your mother can also consider him her child too even if doesnt live with her :)
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
A little bit confuse about your topic - is this like for example me I have brother's wife to something with the consent of my brother in the purpose of children. This kind of situation unable to do because for me it is un-decent action for both.