family matters

Hi lisa, that is not fair for your mom to say, but as I am a mom myself, and one who cannot hold hurting words when I am angry enough with my daughters, I do say such inappropriate words, too. One time, my elder daughter answered back, and that jolted me. It is not right, especially for a mother, to say bad words. But we say it anyway, else our hearts go into cardiac arrest. I can only hope that my daughters, and you perhaps, can forgive us. Most of the time, mothers don't even realize they have hurt their children gravely until it is too late. Your mother might be erring but she is your mother. Give her that due respect but resolve to be a better person than she is. Find your corner of the sky and live your life to the fullest. It does not matter who your father is. He ain't worth your worry. So look upward and focus. When it's your turn to be a parent, be a good parent, an exceptional one.

If your mother knows who your father is, it is grossly unfair that she will not tell you his identity. You deserve to have a relationship with him if you choose to and as you get older there is an entire side of medical history that you are entitled to know. I hope though that you will remember that you mother is the only mother that you will have and when she is gone you will remember all of the things that you could have done and didn't. Keep that in mind