I am so Upset!
@starlight_starbright (810)
Philippines
October 8, 2010 8:53am CST
What would you do if your friend borrowed a particular thing and you told him
you will need it the following day but he failed to return it and didn' give you a word about it (through phone atleast)?
I need to do my term paper. My friend borrowed my laptop. I told him to return it the next day since I need to do my stuff. He did not show up. Didn't answer my text messages nor my calls. Finally he took it back just tonight but I was so upset. I didn't say a word to him. I took my laptop and left him.
Did you have similar experience to mine? How did you handle it?
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9 responses
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
8 Oct 10
yes it did happen to me in the past. I have started to be careful about lending things to people especially when I need them. There are times when people take your things and forget about giving them back. Maybe they are so busy doing the thing they needed to do that they completely forget about our need. I think your friend might want to return it back but was so busy he forgot or could not respond to your messages or phone call. Your attitude has already informed him not to perform the same mistake again. Don.t be upset, he will be careful next time.
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@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hi GoldenAsh,
That's the thing. They take time coming to us to borrow our things. They always find a way because they need it, right? Then what? They can't find a way to return it? Is that it? I don't understand. Really. He does it again or not, I don't care. I am certain of just one thing. I don't trust him anymore and will never do.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
8 Oct 10
so sorry for it :( you were sweet to him lending him that and he didnt even answer your texts neither your calls? also when he returned it he didnt say sorry? well i would ask him why didnt you answer me? you knew i needed that for school work. next time please warn me that you need it more days. but not answer my calls thats too bad of you after i lend you my laptop. you should tell him how you feel and say that he hurt you with his attitude :) i wish he says sorry and dont do it again^^ about me i lent things before and people forgot but i didnt need so fast^^ so was ok^^ but i felt shy to always ask did you take it today? but i asked after long then after long bcs didnt want bother the person^^ but sure you needed to ask bcs you needed for a work is completely different^^
@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hello sweetloveforever,
I actually said, "why didn't you return it yesterday? Have I not told you I needed it?"...he smiled sweetly as if like he wants me to just ignore it. He was not aware that I am damn angry for what he did. I just can't hold my temper so I walked out. After a few minutes, he came to me and said sorry with a smile. I got even more angry. So i went inside and banged the door. He was sending me a message that he is sorry but I get even more angry when he says it. This is not the first time he did some thing like this. Maybe I got so pissed off and he already reached the ceiling of my temper. He is like a younger brother to me but I am not his mother who would just forgive and forget easily. I have been very generous. So I don't understand why he didn't pay even a little respect to me.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
8 Oct 10
Hi Starlight,
I think I would look at something like your situation as a learning lesson and probably because I have been in similar types of situations like that. I would not have lent the friend the laptop knowing that I absolutely needed it back the next day. Even if he had all the good intent to bring it back, well, things happen. He could have broken it...lost it or any number of things could have potentially happened. For example, I work out of town. I absolutely NEED my car to get back and forth to work. I will give rides to friends but I won't let them take my car. I know that I'd be furious if they did not bring it back on time or if something happened to it. In your case, a better plan would have been to let him use the laptop at your place. And there is no excuse for him not calling you.
@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hi sid556,
Yeah, you're right on that. This must serve as a lesson. The problem now is it seems that it's hard for me to get over the feeling. I still don't want to talk to him. And I can't tell until when would I be like this. Anyway, maybe I'll be able to have things the way it was before but things will never be exactly the same. ThankS!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 Oct 10
Have you talked to him and told him how much he messed you up by this? I think that when you are not so angry, you should tell him exactly why you were upset. It is understandable that you would be. Ya, I don't think I'd trust him again for something so important. He doesn't sound to be very responsible.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
8 Oct 10
You have to take care when you lend something of value to another person. They don't always return it when they promise to. A lot of friendships take a wrong turn over something as simple as a borrowed item that doesn't get returned.@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hello sender621,
Exactly! Look a what had happened to me and my friend. Our friendship was ruined just because of a laptop. Tsk!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 Oct 10
I would have been blowing up there phone requesting it's return. Then when they mosey in with my property I would immediately tell them do not ask again, as when you where in need I was gracious to loan it to you and you did not have the descensy to remember that I needed it right back.
It is an act of being inconsiderate, it would teach me not to loan out my things again. It is a hard lesson to learn as I am very kind hearted but how far do I continue to do this and people take advantage. I mean time okay shame on me for being nice, second time shame on them for being inconsiderate.
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@kendrathil (308)
• India
9 Oct 10
It is really embarrassing when this happens. he only thing is that one should have to keep a cool mind and from the next time not to share anything with the friend.
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@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Well, I had the same experience as yours, not only once and not only with a friend. Actually it happened even within my family. Of course, it was disgusting. But when I got to know that they don't have this sense of responsibility, and doesn't even bother how it will affect or what problem it might caused me, I informed them right there and then that they should not be offended when the next time they will borrow something from me and I know I would need it, I would not be able to lend it to them. Of course, they would understand it. So it is better to tell them what damage it caused you rather than just tolerate them in doing so. They should know their mistakes for both of you to avoid conflict.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 10
This happened to me many times in the past before I decided to take is as a big lesson to never let anyone borrow my stuff especially if I'm going to need it the day after. One thing that I would never let others to borrow from me is my laptop, I dunno why I just can't let anyone use it and I'm not comfortable letting someone else to have it. Your friend is not really someone that I would consider as a friend. That is sounds more like using you, otherwise it would've been nicer if he did at least reply you by sms saying he's still in need of it so much. Now, you've learnt your lesson, don't let him borrow your laptop ever again, ugh! If I was you, I would blow up and tell him how angry I am.
@Mackenzie_jad228 (556)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I will probably do same thing. But I've learned it from someone that I should not be that mad to those people, all I have to think is that I was a great help to them. Maybe he was not able to returned it due to he really needed it badly, he just think that he will take all the consequences, it may sound selfish and mean but he had no choice.
