Interracial Relationship

@Lore2009 (7378)
United States
October 8, 2010 5:37pm CST
Have you been in an interracial relationship? If so, what were the charms and not so charming moments of this experience? I haven't been in one yet, but I'm not open or closed to the idea... it will just depend on who I fall in love with. But the other day, I came across a show where people were talking about it and how some races may 'die out' eventually if there is interracial relationship. What are your views?
2 people like this
15 responses
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
9 Oct 10
I don't consider myself a racist, but I wouldn't have a serious relationship with other races or other nationalities.( and by nationality I refer to ethnic affiliation, not citizenship). The main reason of this is the danger of my nation to die out, and I want to proliferate my nation not to mix it with other one. I have no problem having friends from other nationalities, or races, but I prefer my nationality. Of course, I wouldn't refuse a one night stand with girls from other nationalities or races if they were pretty, but no serious commitment with them. A child has to raised in only one culture, and not having his/her parents to argue about this. At least this is my opinion, and nobody can change it. Maybe many would consider this thinking a racist one, but I don't care.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
12 Oct 10
Would you have a serious relationship with someone who is Romanian(checked your country) but was born and raised... say in.. Mexico with a Mexican citizenship?
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
13 Oct 10
That's interesting... so do you consider Hungary or Romania to be your country?
• Romania
13 Oct 10
No I wouldn't because I am not Romanian, although I live here. I am Hungarian and live in Transylvania which was a part of Hungary but now it is a part of Romania. So I would only have a serious relationship with a Hungarian woman who knows Hungarian. Where she was born and what citizenship she has is not important. Only the nationality.
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
8 Oct 10
I'm currently involved in a inter-racial relationship. I don't even like labeling it as that because the way I see it, I'm not in a relationship with a tree or monkey or dog or snake or any type of non-human race so I don't see it "inter-racial" relationship. Me & my girl-friend are a part of "human race". I think the term itself is little mis-leading. Term "inter-cultural" relationship makes little more sense to me, doesn't it? Guess it depends on how you look at it. I know I'm being little silly & playing with the words here but I knew a white couple who moved to Korea because the guy was involved in "exchange professor" program. They had a child there & the kid grew up till he was 14. People thought it was interesting because he (child) spoke better Korean then English. He behaved more like a typical Korean kid then his counter parts in U.S. For all intents & purposes, he's basically a Korean. He thinks & behaves like any typical Korean kid. If he were to marry someone from U.S., would that me considered as inter-racial or inter-cultural? Well, anyway, getting back to topic here... I'm Korean & my girl-friend is white. Well, technically, she's part Irish, German & Scottish. I have a daughter from my previous relationship, which also was inter-racial relationship. My daughter is part Korean, German, Irish with small bit of French. We have had few people stare but it's not that big of a deal. I wouldn't consider that as disadvantage at all. It's typical everyday relationship just like any other people. I don't want to disapoint anybody but that's just it for us.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
12 Oct 10
No, you make a good point, it's not silly at all. I would think about the cultural differences rather than racial differences when it comes to relationships. But I have been reading some books about different countries and how there are some races disappearing. In the end, we may have to 'dissect' how the races were formed and it may be concluded that people are already a mixture of many many different cultures so.. I guess the races wont really 'disappear' and rather just create into new ones.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
12 Oct 10
PS. Maybe the people on that show were rather worried about inter-'national' relationship... and more worried about the loss of their country. That makes more sense.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Oct 10
I read not all that long ago that blond hair and blue eyes were being bred out of the species, so I suppose it's possible. Yep I was in an interracial relationship with an Asian guy. He was very polite and sweet, except when he wasn't. Once the relationship got serious, he almost felt as if it was his duty to try and change me to be what he expected. Once that started happening, it did't last too long.
@veromar (1453)
• Argentina
8 Oct 10
Hi Lore. Yeah. I've been in one. Not only was it an interracial relationship, it was also lesbian. I'm a lesbian. I met a woman and we "fell in love". It just so happened that she was black and I'm white. It was an eye opening experience for sure. I think us gay people are a bit more sensitive to prejudice than heterosexuals. As a lesbian couple, we experienced things on a daily basis. As an interracial lesbian couple, it was a whole different ball of wax. Not only did we experience bigotry and prejudice from straight people, we got it from "our own kind" as well. Our relationship ended after 4 years and not for a lack of our trying to make it work. It just seemed the things we had to deal with were insurmountable. As far as races dying out....well, I'm sure it's eventual for some of the lesser ones. Like rare native or aboriginals that don't have an opportunity to mix with others. Time will tell.....
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
12 Oct 10
Hi Veromar. Wow, talk about an experience, and I can only imagine. It's sad and irritating to know how so many people can be so closed minded. When I wonder what it is like to be with someone from a completely different background, I think I would get lonely if there are some things we can't understand due to our cultural differences... even food. But it's not like being with someone of the same background will make it any better.
@pjnjclyn (176)
• Newton, New Jersey
9 Oct 10
I am in an interracial relationship we are married he is Puerto Rican and I am Italian ( Along with some other things lol) I feel that I am inlove with the person and not the race if you think about it we are all interracial even though we may not know it we are all human and it does not matter what we look like on the outside it is what we are on the inside. Take the Puerto Rico they are blonde hair and blue eyes through the darkest color skin and black hair with everything in between so is it interracial if one PR is white skinned and the other is Dark skinned??? About some races may die out our world is always changing and what will be will be maybe if we where all one race it would be a better world and I mean by everyone being mixed that is my opinion
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
12 Oct 10
I agree. Now that I think about it, I think on that show, the people were worried about their nationalities rather than the race... they're probably worried about their country being 'gone' if 'nationalities' mix.
• Bulgaria
9 Oct 10
I don't care about the color,I care about the charachter of a person.I don't care if you're white black latino or purple,If you cool,You the man
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
12 Oct 10
Haha, what if they are women? J/k j/k. I'd like to meet a purple person.
@shaggin (71663)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I dont mind interracial relationships. It doesnt matter what color a persons skin is. Its about loving each other. Where I live its about 99% white so when a white person brings home a black boyfriends its like WOW lol. I dont have a problem with it at all but in our close minded town a lot of people do. Oh well tough luck they will have to get over it. I've never been in a relationship with anyone who wasent white but I'm not against it I just havent met anyone of a difference race to date.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I have never had an interracial relationship. There have been attractions and flirtations though. If i found the right person to love, race would not matter to me.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
For me I don't know it is work but better that your relationship is base in love to each other.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
9 Oct 10
I am in an interracial relationship, and I don't see the big deal about it. I'm going out with my boyfriend because I love him, regardless of his gender, nationality or race, as that's not important. I don't think that some races will die because of some interracial couples, as some people will go out with people from the same race and some don't, so we will go on with the same diversity as now.
• United States
9 Oct 10
Not only are we interracial, we're long distance as well! Physical distance aside, the "race factor" kinda helps us maintain a mutual awareness that the other one is hot :) We find ourselves talking about our future kids. My mother's features might skip a generation and she's got strong Spanish genes in her veins. Match this with my man's pasty Irish features, we might get hybrids that look like purebreds :P Although this makes sense...race might just disappear if the races constantly intermarry. Another documentary I saw says that everyone will be gorgeous if everyone's races mix.
• United States
9 Oct 10
i dunno if this counts as interracial but my girl is scottish and im american, i think if you love someone it doesnt matter what there race is, and if people have a problem with it thats there issue not yours
• United States
9 Oct 10
I have never been in one, but my room mate was. And she would just have horror stories of just going to the market with her boyfriend and the nasty things people would say to them, how it was impure or something awful. It's really crazy how people react. And if some races 'die out' it just means they're giving way to a new race. I don't think it's a big deal. I think the focus should be on love not race.
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I'm in an interracial relationship and I love it. Although, it's not really about the race of the person that matters here, but THE person. Although I have to admit that the reason why it goes smoothly for my fiance and me is because we don't really have that much differences in our upbrining. He's American and I'm Asian. However, my upbringing isn't really that much different from his and he's very curious and tolerant about my little quirks. Like my love for rice and fish sauce and Hello Kitty. :)
@savypat (20216)
• United States
9 Oct 10
We have several of these in our family and true there has been some adjustment required on the part of some of the more conservative members the children are beautiful.