How does a pothead change his ways?

@maezee (33009)
United States
October 10, 2010 7:08pm CST
Hmmm... well, I hate to have to point out that this guy is a pothead, but it kind of clues you in to where he spends his money and how he spends the majority of his time. ANYWAY - back to the story. So one of my good friends has this boyfriend she's inseperable with. They've been dating for a little less than a year, I think, and she's been living with him in his dad's basement for about 6 months of that year, at least. I hate getting so involved, and stepping on my friends toes, but here's the sitch: D, my friend with the boyfriend, is really trying to push to help him to find a real job, and to get an apartment with him. Of course, I'm biased and think this is a horrible idea, just as of right now. I just know that her credit is going to be ruined by it and she's going to be footin' the rent by herself. The problem is not that he is a pothead, though, as he doesn't light up after working a full-time job. It's a full-time job to be a pothead and play video games apparently. It's just weird to me because him and D, my friend, are total opposites in that respect. She goes to school (full-time) and works 30 hours a week and is really responsible in that respect. And he has not had a job.. in 2 years, I believe? And has been leeching off of his father and my friend since they've been dating. Anyway, it's not that I'm trying to convince her to quit dating him, or to not move in with him, because that's her decision, and if it does end up being a mistake, it will be one she learns from. But rarely do I see these types of people turn themselves around. I mean, can someone who is just utterly LAZY and living off of other people ever really change their ways? Give me an example..Please!
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@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
11 Oct 10
This may sound like a dumb question... or even a nosy question... But has he ever told you in depth *why* he smokes? I know... a few people... who suffer from various mental disorders ranging from problems with rage to depression, mostly stemming from PTSD, that smoke 1-2 joints. Sometimes everyday, sometimes every few days. When you ask them why they cite that it is more effective, and much more cost friendly, than their $600/mo per prescription that carry the typical nasty side effects of weight gain, loss of libido, and that general "zombified" feeling. But as a whole, agreed, the "leech" types never really do change, permanently :(