Thinking myself soo lucky, with my choice of partner

@jugsjugs (13045)
October 12, 2010 4:45pm CST
I feel soo lucky that i am with a person that do not do drugs,sells drugs,wants to blow money on a load of tattoos,going out to the pub every night to blow our family money.I love the thought that he wants to spend time with me aswell as our 6 children.Tonight my husband said that he is happy about that i was not none of what i have mentioned either aswell as that i like to spend as much time as i can with our children,as he has seen that there are a few of the mothers around where we live that will do anything but spend time with their children,as there are always children out when it is dark,aswell as there are children being looked for as their parents had not seen them nearly all day,also the mothers that just always want to go out without their children,little do these parents realise what signals they are showing their children.A friend of mine just walked out of her relationship as her partner put drugs before her, which is no good to her if he is drugged up and they were going to have children.She has moved back home with her parents,but she had the pleasure in telling the police a few addresses where the drugs are being sold from,aswell as to what people and their addresses.About time we got some of the druggys out of this area.
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• United States
13 Oct 10
I suppose I too am very lucky with my partner as well, as he too does not do any of the things you mentioned. However today I am kinda a bit blue, as I know he is really busy these days, however he has yet to wish me a Happy Birthday today. I want to convince myself that it is merely an oversight, but I don't know after 5 years together and his birthday 5 days away, I would think he could remember. Okay re-read your post and yes I am truly blessed.
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@nikramos (701)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
deary! so i hope i haven't overlooked details here...happybirthday! i experienced the same and believe it or not i have to wait 2 days for him to greet me thinking he has a big surprise or me something but i just got frustrated... no greeting, no surprise either. but we are still together and still find myself blessed with my partner even it had been a struggle working things out with him. i hope you have a great day
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• United States
13 Oct 10
nikramos Thank you so much for your response as I was feeling a bit blue, but I do understand that something do out weigh other things, I was just so hoping that it would be a bit different today, as this has been quite a difficult year for me in total and well I have felt so unappreciated by so many people that this made me re-count my ill feelings I have been having lately. Thanks again - it meant a great deal to me.
@jugsjugs (13045)
14 Oct 10
Happy birthgay for yesterday.I remind my husband when my birthday is aswell as when everyone elses birthdays are,lol,then if he forgets he is in trouble,lol.I felt like you this time last year about people not appreciating me,so i know how you feel there and everything else was going wrong at the same time.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
now this is a kind of discussion that my wife needs to read . i guess she can say that she is lucky too and i too in the other hand is one lucky person as well. she is not other wife that wants to go out and buy expensive things. she is a wife who gave up her career and became a hands on mother. i am lucky for having a wife who is very sensitive on what we need. so i can say too that i am lucky with my choice of person to be with.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
14 Oct 10
Its a shame that not all mothers are the same as your wife,as there are alot of parents out there that put what they want first and the children last.I know that there are parents out there that hate to have time with their children,also the children do not know where their parents are.
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
that is one thing that i salute my wife. she is a professional singer and she left that one thing i know she loves to do and became a hands on mom. but i realize that singing is one thing that she loves to do but being a mother is the most thing she loves to be. our son now is four and i know she miss singing but i know she wont change singing for being a stay at home mother.
@GardenGerty (102535)
• United States
13 Oct 10
Yes, hubby and I appreciate each other for our personal standards. I think that is so funny that that friend of yours turned in the dealers. A community needs to band together to get clean.
@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
12 Oct 10
Lucky you and good for her! I wish more people would do that!
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• Canada
12 Oct 10
I see too many parents that seem to want to do anything else other than be with their children. Why have children if you are constantly telling them to shut up and leave you alone? Why have children just to leave them with a different babysitter every night while you go party? People should not have children because of biological urges or because society expects them to, but should really think about everything that is involved with children, at all stages of their lives, and be honest with themselves if that is what they really want. I am glad you and your husband both enjoy you children. I am sure they will grow up well-adjusted!
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@jugsjugs (13045)
14 Oct 10
I see this alot aswell,i also feel soo sorry for some of the children, as it must seem to them that their parents do not want to be with them.It is not easy bringing children,especially if they have health problems,aswell as things like adhd.I am pleased that my children also like to spend time with me or should i say us,rather than being put out the door etc and other people having to look after them.
@doormouse (4619)
12 Oct 10
my boyfriend is pretty much the same as yours,apart from we don't spend family time together very often,as the kids find it boring,which is fine i don't mind,they would rather be out with their mates,but i think i'm lucky to have my man,coz i could've ended up with another deadbeat like my ex husband
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@jugsjugs (13045)
14 Oct 10
Thankfully my children love to spend time with us,rather than being on the streets in all the rain,etc.This way i know where my children are aswell as what they are doing,also it gives them time to talk to us if they have a problem.My two younger sons are 7 and 8 years old, so they have friends come here to play,even when my 7 year old gets older,there maybe issues with him going out,as he has adhd and even when he is medicated sometimes it do not work,like we have found out again in the last two weeks.My 8 year old has dyspraxia,so knowing that both my younger sons have problems,i would not just let them go out,i would rather they be safe then sorry at the end of the day.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
14 Oct 10
Really, u are really very lucky to meet such a man in your life, and even luckier to end up spending rest of your life with him.. haha =D So far, i have not heard any negative things about your husband, and only good things about him, such as his understanding and patience towards u. Not that many man can achieve a level like he does and that goes to show, he really loves u lot.. haha Good for u! Cherish him well!! hehe
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@waazula (117)
• China
13 Oct 10
Congratulations to have such a loving life-partner accompanying you in the journey of life. Generally I'm quite satisfied with my bf though judged from the average view he is just average. Neither handsome nor bad-looking;Having speciality in computer technology yet there are a lot more people with stronger abilities than him in this aspect; Loving me yet being lazy overall and rarely wash the dishes or clothes; Earning an average living that we needn't worry much about bills and daily expenses, but also we couldn't afford to buy a house of our own and couldn't go shopping lavishly and travel constantly. He is upward-moving to some extent for he is busying with his website after work every day yet not much progress has been made so far and he seems to waste time in too many trivial matters. That is the objective description of my bf. The most important thing is that he loves me deeply. Every evening after getting back from work, he would hug me, play with me and tease me. My laughter would resound in the room for a long time. I'm prepare simple supper after work every day, sometimes meals, sometimes fruits, snacks, or sometimes none, whatever I do, he'll be satisfied and kiss me on the cheeks. Happiness, in my view, is the psychological contentment from the love and caress of your intimate ones on the basis of decent material satisfaction. waazula.com
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
13 Oct 10
it is the parents' responsibility to do their best for their children and ia m happy to see both of you and your husband are such a caring parents to your children and family.your friend just did the right thing.there is no use of having such a relationship.
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
13 Oct 10
Really you are a luck person that you have a partner of your choice. I think here are many fewer peoples who have their choice of partners. I think if you have your choice of partners then you always feel happy and always understandings between both of you will be very good.
@jugsjugs (13045)
14 Oct 10
My husband has a fulltime job,when he has finished work he has to come home and look after me and his children.I am soo pleased that he wants to provide for us as a family,also being the kind of family man that he is.Where as there are other peoples partners that have never worked aday in their life,also they have no intention in getting a job.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
You're lucky indeed; because you're full of love, you have a loving and understanding husband and good kids. This is very seldom in some American homes. Keep it up and more luck to come.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
15 Oct 10
I too am very lucky with the partner that I have. There was a time before I knew him that he was on the wrong side of the law, but he had a reality check and at the time that he came into my life, he was the best thing that had ever happened to me and I've been the best thing that has ever happened to him. We were made for each other and we do everything that we can with our children trying to make sure that they have the best childhood possible.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
15 Oct 10
yup ya lucky . My hubby was all about family too but we did get our time to be by ourselves a little when they grew up. I was a stay at home mom too he did want me to work wanted me there when the kids got home and I was he worked late hours alot so they could be in bed when he got home but would always look in on them. and we had some weekends to do fun things like fishing!
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
well.congratulations my friend for having a good and responsible husband.Im kind of envy you because i never encountered a good partner.Now i choose to stay single mom an hope i can meet the man of my dreams in the future and be lucky like you with the man i choose to love.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I have always wondered what it would be like to grow up in a family that treasures it's children instead of feeling that they were just a burden. Your kids may not know how lucky they are at this time but as the grow up they will understand how wonderful your family life was.
@eshaan (6193)
• India
13 Oct 10
its very rare in this world that people are very happy with each other...so its very great to hear that you both make perfect pairs for each other..the good and bads vary from people to people...but if you both are happy its all ok
@piya84 (2591)
• India
13 Oct 10
hii there Yes you are very lucky to get this person.It is rare and rare now a days to see people who are so family centric and take good care of their children.
@bestboy19 (5482)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I believe I have told you before how blessed you are in your marriage, and your children are blessed too that they have parents who put them before their own (the parents) pleasures. Too many parents today don't seem to want to be bothered with their own children, so they pass them off to grandparents, day care, schools, churches, anyone who will take them off their hands. It's nice to hear that there are still some responsible parents in the world.
• India
13 Oct 10
Jugs...hi now u stop thinking and start realising that how lucky u r to have such a lovely...honest...devoted partner. b proud and enjoy blessings of god......bye
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
13 Oct 10
U are really lucky, to end up with a good men. He's one of those few rare ones around, the dream man of many woman, including me. My bf is only half as good as your husband because he smokes and he has got some bad streaks in him. In fact, it's those bad streaks in him that attracts me to him and so i won't say it's a bad thing. All i care for is his responsibility for me, and our future.