Why most men cheat? Care to comment on this?

Philippines
October 14, 2010 9:36pm CST
It had always puzzled me on why men can't be contained in one partner? Why do they have extra marital or extra relationships outside their relationship? I can count in my fingers how many stays faithful and loyal with their better halves. The rest, well, I don't really know the real score on why most prefer to have someone on the sides? Is it the thrill and excitement of the mystery and secret of having a forbidden relationship. I hope there's some guys or gals who could give us an insight on why most men cheat.
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@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 10
From past experiences the number of cheatinng women is higher than what the majority thinks. Women in general seem to be better at hiding their extra-marital affairs from the eyes of even those close to them. Why men cheat There are various reasons as to why a man would look for another woman. In brief they include 1) Partner is interested in other men, thus not treating the man as it should be. 2) The woman does not take care of her physical appearance. 3) The woman does not take care of her hygiene and health. 4) The woman keeps on making comparisons between the man and other men, especially those who were in her life. 5) The woman tries to control the man's daily life. 6) The woman is always busy with her work, working excessive non-paid hours, and comes home complaining of tiredness. 7) When the man falls ill the woman tells him to take care of himself, but when a male colleague falls ill she takes great effort to visit and offers help. 8) The woman buys nothing for his birthday, but remembers to give a relatively expensive gift to another man. 9) The woman tells the man to 'self-service'. 10) The woman never appreciates what the man does for her, but is quick to praise another man even though the other guy does almost nothing. Why the argument that most mean cheat is most probably a one-sided evaluation. In order to cheat on their partner men need to have at least another willing partner. This partner is most likely another female. In many cases this woman is already married or has a partner in life. A man simply cannot cheat on his own. I still remember the case of a woman who was found out cheating on her husband with a married younger man, after she was found murdered in a hotel room. As they say it, it takes two to tango.
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
Women nowadays are more empowered to do this because they were pushed to do so. If you'll check history, most women gets tempted to cheat on their man because their man is cheating on them. It's really not an argument why most men cheat because I'm a woman and I already know why most women cheat on their partners so I wanted to know why most men cheat. It's not really an argument. I just posted it as means of finding out why, what's the reason. What good can they get out of it? I'm not really pertaining to one-time cheaters but to those who cheat always and makes a hobby out of it.
@Pyroo8 (121)
• United States
15 Oct 10
im gonna keep it 1000...with u hun but u also have 2 look at females cheat 2....but there are meny reasons a man could cheat 1 could be u aint laying down in bed right....or ....like the first dude said he is not content with u..its been going on for ever so dont even tripps
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
As I always had defended the discussion, I asked because I'm a female and would know why some women cheat on their partners. What I want to realize is why "some" men cheat on their better halves or girlfriends though they still want us girls to consider the fact that they still do love us. You know what I mean? I mean, I'm a girl who has a lot of girlfriends and we could talk over why some women cheat. What we cannot comprehend is why some men does that. Please do not be offended. I'm just wanting to know. Curious on why this and why that on our male counterparts.
• United States
15 Oct 10
well it really is up to the guy. I mean if he honestly really knows what he has for a woman and how beautiful and desirable she is on the outside and inside than he knows that he would be completely insane to go outside of that relationship for a moments pleasure. because long term happiness with a partner to me defeats any type of small carnal pleasure one can have from a fling or one night stand out of a relationship. How do I know? because I used to be one that would cheat now don' t get me wrong I was not looking to cheat you see I talk to females with respect and since I had a woman I did not cross the boundary and start flirting with other woman. all I do is talk to females with respect and i don't know if since everyone else always flirts with them. so i don't know if they are attracted to the fact that i an disinterested in them that i make no attempt to flirt. Idk but i've learned the hard way that I had a good woman that i let go because of cheating.. and i regret it every day of my life we broke up over a year ago and i'm still trying to win her and her trust back no longer how long it takes. but most men cheat because it's like a double standard as mike in a tv show said everyone sees a man ho gets a lot of females as a pimp or player so it's a psychological game men play because it feeds their ego to have more than one woman because it makes them feel attractive.
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
Well, I also thought about that and somehow, that's one of the many truths about why men cheat. It's like an ego thing. the macho concept of yesterday. Only that there are more discreet cheaters before than today. Thanks for commenting and happy mylotting!
@Chay428 (65)
• United States
15 Oct 10
In my own opinion, most men cheat because they are looking for an excitement that they don't find in their chosen one and they can't back out. Or maybe, they cheat because after a long way of togetherness, he feels like he wants a new face, new environment..or maybe he is not contented at all.
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
Some of my guy friends says that. They tells us that they need something fresh to see. In a long term relationship, sometimes it becomes boring and boredom kills the excitement. That's why my college professor suggest that though we are married to our partners, we still need to find something new to rekindle the old flame. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
For me,I think most men cheat because they are not contented with what their partners giving them.They try to find the comfort into another woman because they have been taken for granted with their partners especially with time. In a relationship, it should be a give and take relationship.Both partners must understand each others needs and they should know the likes and dislikes of their partners.And they should value one another and take time to spend some quality time with your partners even on your hectic schedule.So they will feel that they are important to your life.
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
Yes. In a relationship, we should practice give and take. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting.
@vrianna (185)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
I think men is not contented especially when it comes to S--. both men and women are cheater but it ends up looking for someone to be with forever when they think cheating is sometimes boring.
• United States
15 Oct 10
Both genders cheat the same. People who cheat, have many different reasons for doing so. There is no one answer for why people cheat, both genders.
@daiweian06 (1408)
15 Oct 10
My father always like this. May be not satisfied on his life. But they dont even realize that they have their own family that hurt about what they are doing. Feel bad.