3years of relationship ends in Break ups

Philippines
October 19, 2010 7:46pm CST
Have you ever been into long relationships that ends in breaking up? I dont know if its only a co-accident but most person i know who've been in 3years or more of relationship ends with break ups. usually the couple have a lot of fight before reaching the 3rd year of relationship which cause break ups. i myself had been in this situation my relationship with my bf upon reaching the 3rd year was so difficult, too much fight, differences, misunderstandings to name a few. How about you have you been into this?
9 responses
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
I was in a 5-year-and-a-half long relationship and even got engaged when I called the whole thing off. We both went on separate ways because of some differences that we both shrugged off in the earlier part of being together, but which became really apparent and couldn't be dismissed in the latter part of our relationship. It wasn't a nice break-up, and I think no break-up is nice, however it wasn't a nasty one. We're both civil and we didn't shout at each other nor had a very rough argument. We talked things through and agreed on ending the engagement and the relationship. There was no third or other party involved. It was our belief that was different, which made everything different. He's now happy with his new-found love, and I am happy with mine. We haven't seen each other nor talked to each other now that we're in different relationship but I know that we will still be civil towards each other.
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
good to hear that both of you decided to end up the relationship in a nice way after all you've loved each other before.im glad that you both moved on i hope that your decision to being civil to each other could lead to the door to friendship.
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
hmhmh no actauly in my past bf,, i've been in experience only in 11 months ,,, and for me it is so hard to move ,,, and especially you had been encountered many obstacles in the relationship..,.,., and for me if i am in that sitation,., maybe i can move on in a years.,.
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
having someone to share your life with is a blessing but when you were in a situation of loosing that person it is really hard to move on. but as the saying goes things happen for a reason if relationship ends up in breaking up the only thing to do is be thankful that you've experience being love by that person & move on & love yourself more. thanks for viewing my post.
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
I've never been in that kind of long relationship.If I in your shoe,for sure.i can't move on easily.
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
moving on is the hardest cause it reminds you of losing the person you love, it is painful remembering those moments you've been together specially if its years already.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
I am in a 4 year relationship now and so far we are still holding on to each other..fortunately!! We always have petty fights and misunderstanding but we make sure we make up afterwards. It's not until we reached our 4 years that we keep on fighting and we have a lot of misunderstandings that it came to a point that not a week that pass that we don't argue. Mainly because we are far away this time and you know how hard a long relationship is. Good thing and i should thank God that he keeps our relationship really strong that no matter how hard the storm that pass us by, we still continue to be strong and stand up. Luckily we are still happy together even if we are apart :)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
first thank you for taking time to read my post, i also would like to congratulate both of you for holding on to your relationship despite many problems comes your way. it is very important that both couples are willing to hold on that you two were giving your very best to save the relationship specially now that you were apart.
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
Well it is just normal to have misunderstandings, but not to fight on a regular basis okay. I have been into that stage as bf/gf and for 4 years of being sweethearts we have learned a lot from each other even if we are geographically far away during that time. Location can never be an alibi to break apart, nor does misunderstandings as long as both of you loved each other more and patch things up before it gets ugly. If differences are just the reason, well I don't regard that since we are of both different cultures and belief before, but because we have love, it overcomes the rest. Now I am 3 years married to my husband who is also my bf of 4 years and we are going to be in love for the rest of our lives because the love of God is the foundation of our relationship.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
I have been together with my boyfriend for 2 years and 9 months, we had and have a lot of fights before. And he has tried breaking up with me a number of times, I think its because it is hard keeping up with me, I am such a stubborn girlfriend hehehe. I do not want our relationship to end after our third year, and I know it won't. Maybe it all depends on the couple, how they handle things.
• United States
20 Oct 10
I am currently in a five year relationship and although it is not perfect it is working nicely for the both of us. I was married for 12 years and ended up divorced, long story but he was not prepared to give up his single life. So it is difficult to let go, but in the long run sometimes when in the this type of relationship where as you just do not get along you have to learn to move on. Not an easy task but how can two people be so miserable all the time.
@diana82 (56)
• Indonesia
20 Oct 10
in a 5year relationship i did not get a meaningful impediment. i was happy still be able to share with my partner. we only make an agreement that we must respect, love and trust one another. and we try not to do violence in our relationship. in our emotional state is often not controlled and easy to anger but once we realize we're sorry and we apologize to our partner.
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
I never tried that one. But I just want to add my opinion about that scenario. For me, it's just a test.Since, you already reach years, they just want to test your relationship.