Would u be happy being with ur love/lover ?
By Karunvig
@Karunvig (714)
India
October 20, 2010 2:01pm CST
U luv ur gf a lot and it has been 3 yrs long now nut suddenly u come to knw tht ur gf has a kid with her X BF... thn will u leave her or will continue the relation ?? Irony is both of u luv each othr a lot... And she has kid but never married :) Bread with butter... would u like to eat or throw :P
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6 responses
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
20 Oct 10
Okay, did this girlfriend have this child before you met her? Because if she did, it's not a big deal.
On the other hand, if she had this child while she was with you, then you better reconsider that relationship because she clearly cheated on you.
One of my nieces had a son from a previous marriage, now she is looking for a new man, but she also knows that it won't be easy because she has a child.
People have this stigma that just because a person has a child that they are undesirable, when this is simply not true. I have met people with children who managed a relationship with another person who wasn't their child's father very well. It can be done.
My mother had me before she dated my step-father, and my step-father had four children before he dated my mother. Children clearly not an issue in this relationship.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
21 Oct 10
Okay, in Western culture, just because people have children prior to their next relationship doesn't mean that they are undesirable or that they can't be with other people.
My uncle's wife passed away and he had six children. After his wife passed away, about a year or so later he met another woman and her married her, and she did not mind at all that he had other children.
In Western culture, especially a long time ago, if a women didn't have a man, then she had to live with family or friends, or she had to find another mate. Again, it's not a big deal. Things like this happen all of the time.
My friends girlfriend had a daughter from a previous relationship and he still loves her and goes out with her, once he graduates college, he is going to marry her.
My other friend has a son, and she is with a man who is eight years younger than her, but they don't mind it, and again, when they all get their degrees and their lives back on track, they too will get married, that is their plan.
Again, this is nothing you, you guys just have to learn to move with the times.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
21 Oct 10
Sorry, I meant that this is nothing new. People do this all of the time. If you love the person, you won't care if they have baggage or children.
@shaggin (71663)
• United States
20 Oct 10
Well I would be pretty disgusted that they had hidden something like that from me for 3 years. I dont want to meet other peoples kids unless I have been dating them for at least 2 years but I would expect to at least know they had a kid. What would be the point in hiding that you know. I mean if you love each other you should be able to tell each other anything.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
I'm gonna keep the kid and ditch the girl. That is, if i'm financially stable. I've always wanted to be single dad.
