you catch your lover kissing person. would you forgive? O_O

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Portugal
October 22, 2010 12:38pm CST
hi guys^^ imagine that you catch your lover kissing other person. would you forgive? O_O about me i wouldnt. if he kissed other girl is bcs didnt love me enough. so i would leave him. if he kissed a girl and told me he regret what he did i would maybe forgive but if i catch him i wont bcs i will never find out if he would tell me or not. what about you guys?^^ if he said sorry would you forgive and give him a second chance? or not? please share^^
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20 responses
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
cheating - yeah it happensq
Hello sweet, If it's a guy, then i get furiousunless the person is gay. if it's a women, then it's a lesbian thing, i got no problem with that but of course, the first initial reaction is that i get really mad about it. probably act sulky like you're bf did. all those evil, hate, darky darky thoughts starts coming in and out of my head. but you know it's just that. part of life and it's easy for people to fall prey into temptation
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
so you would get furious^^ and if she was gay you wouldnt be angry? wouldnt you feel used by her to hide she was lesbian? for sure i guess you would feel chocked wouldnt you? ahah maybe not. many guys love to see two girls kissing so maybe you would like it after all ahah anyway you would forgive her? if saw her kissing a guy?
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• Philippines
23 Oct 10
of course, i will forgive her. right after i get furious and mad first
• Portugal
24 Oct 10
you would forgive her?^^ ahah thats strange^^ guys dont easily forgive a cheating^^ anyway is good that you would forgive her and give her a second chance but if she did that again you shouldnt forgive anymore^^ you are a good guy by forgiving her^^ but dont let her take advantage of that ok?^^ by the way how are you these days?^^
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
Well, as a man. I don't I still stay on the relationship if caught my gf(if ever I have gf) kissing someone else. That is a big trouble and a big disrespect to my side...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Yes, I don't want to stay in relationship I see my gf kissing someone else. Because it lessen my credibility...I respect people and I them to respect me also. That act is an acts of disrespect on my part
• Portugal
24 Oct 10
you wouldnt stay in the relationship with her? yes i understand^^ that would be a big disrespect and also you would lose your trust in her^^ so you do the right thing by leaving her^^ you deserve to be happy with a girl that you love and that she loves you too^^ and even we girls should do the same to guys too^^ no one deserves to be cheated^^
23 Oct 10
It depends on the case as you said that if you find out yourself then your going to have doubts if he would have ever told you or not that means it would be very hard to forgive. If the person comes and tells you that they have done a mistake and they are very sorry then their can be two things which can be done your either going to forgive or forgive but not forgive by that i mean you will always feel scared about the situation and you would not trust that person for a long period of time.
• Portugal
24 Oct 10
yes but if the guy told me i would forgive him. bcs he told what happened. if he didnt tell maybe i wouldnt find out. so if he was honest is bcs he regretted and loved me. so i would give him a second chance. but if i saw him kissing a girl i wouldnt forgive bcs i wouldnt know if he would tell or not if i didnt have see it. so i better dont be with him anymore than have a relation where i cant trust the guy anymore.
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
I will forgive him but not that quick. Kissing another person would really mean a lot, considering that he's in a relationship with me. Of course, he is committed so he knows that doing it is not right. Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting, so there. I will not trust him anymore.
• Portugal
24 Oct 10
yes im sure you would feel hurt if you saw your bf kissing that girl but thats good that you would give him a second chance ^^ but if you couldnt trust him again thats not good bcs that way your relation cant work well :( if you cant forget what happened maybe you should leave him. or else you could try to forget what he did :(
@jharia20 (365)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
i will forgive him..it was just a kiss..i will accept the consequences because i truly love him..:)
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
i see that you really love him much to say that you would forgive him^^ is needed love really to forgive someone cheating. anyway i wish that he doesnt do that to you^^ you dont deserve that. you are a sweet girl so you deserve that your bf respect you and love you^^ wish you the best really^^ and have a sweet and happy weekend with him^^
• Greece
23 Oct 10
NEVER!!!but i did it sometime....i was with one of her friends and suddenly she kissed me...but a friend of her saw us and....!
• Portugal
24 Oct 10
i see that a friend of your gf kissed you and a friend of her saw it and told her. well but you answered the kiss back? bcs if you pushed the girl away would be ok^^ but if you didnt then is cheating. but if you push the girl wouldnt be. anyway im happy that she forgave you and continues being with you^^ that means that she really loves you^^
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
23 Oct 10
First i would have to consider the person and the kiss. if i truly love the one i am with, I would probably forgive the indiscretion. Everyone deserves to have a second chance. if it were to happen again with the same person, i might not be as forgiving.
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
i see that you have a good heart^^ you would forgive him^^ but sure if he did that with same person again is bcs was lying to you. you shouldnt forgive him again and leave him. twice with the same girl would be too bad. anyway im happy that you would forgive the first time bcs yes everyone deserves a second chance but you wouldnt be for sure if he wouldnt do that again. so maybe you should forgive but try to find other guy. one that you could trust completely. have a happy day^^
• China
23 Oct 10
sorry for your story here. and i will not forgive anyone for this situation. and its a great press to me in my heart. especially my lover . if she does so . i have to divorce for this. i cannot accept this .so what will you do for this?why not try to do something? good luck.
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
no it didnt happen to me^^ i just was thinking what would people do in a situation like this^^ but if it happened i would forgive my bf bcs we are far away very far. and if he told me he kissed a girl is bcs he regret. but if i catch my bf kissing a girl in front of me i would leave him for sure. i agree that you got divorced of your wife. but im sure she wont do that^^
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
no ,, i will not.,., maybe i will break him up immediately.,.,,. in that time,..,no i will not give a second chance.,.\
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
yes thats good that you would break up with him right away. he didnt respect you so he didnt deserve a second chance. bcs you would like be always thinking that he did that again. if he told you he kissed a girl is bcs he regret and maybe you could forgive and give a second chance but if you catched him how could you know if he would tell or not? so yes i agree with you^^
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
I will not forgive . That kind of matter was just showing me that He doesn't love me or He is not contented to me.
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
yes it would show that he doesnt love you sure^^ i understand you^^ and sure if you forgave you couldnt trust in that guy again. so is normal that you would leave him^^ we all deserve someone that really loves us and respect us^^ so is too hard to just forgive if guy we love cheats us. so i maybe would forgive but wouldnt be with him again^^
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
23 Oct 10
I don;t think i could forgieve him. if I don't kiss other guys why would he have the right to do it?. this doesn't seem normal to me. and if I forgieve him once I'm sure he'll do it again. i respect him and I want him to respect me too.
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
yes swiss i understand you^^ if you respect your bf you would want him to respect you too^^ im happy that you wouldnt forgive him. you already got hurt bcs of guys enough so you deserve a good one now^^ why be with one that cheated if there is so many guys that you can find and are not cheaters?^^ and sure we cant forget that we deserve to be respected^^
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
If a guy caught by his girlfriend kissing another person that tells that he doesn't really love his girlfriend. Actually for me it is a sign of cheating. Maybe I wouldn't forgive him instantly or right there and then. If he said that he felt bad about what he did and he regretted it I'll give him time to prove that he still deserve another chance because I know that eventhough I still love him, my trust to him already decreased. Remember trust is very important in every relationship. But if I couldn't see his sincererity in explaining his side of course I'll dump him automatically. There is a saying that "I trust you is better than I love you."
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
yes i understand^^ and thats true trust is very important in a relationship. and when trust ends the relation also. is good that you would give him a chance to explain himself^^ but sure if seemed he was lying you should just leave him sure. i think that your saying is not completely right bcs we need trust and love in a relationship the same^^ why trust is good if there is no love? have a good day^^
• India
23 Oct 10
It is very hard to forgive my lover if she does that. if she is kissing like that, then I think that she is not loving me but him only.
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
yes i guess you are right. would be very hard to forgive that^^ and about love that guy i dont know. maybe she was just kissing him but not bcs of love. anyway dont worry i dont think she will do that to you^^ you are sweet and caring to your wife right?^^ so she doesnt have any reason to lie to you or to cheat on you^^ wish you the best^^
• Indonesia
23 Oct 10
Yes, I will forgive. As long as the man she kissed is his father, grandpa, uncle, brother, nephew, or other family members ^^. But, if it happens to another man, I won't forgive. It is heavy 'criminal' for me. I will never hear what her reason is. Simply I will leave her. I won't trust betrayer forever.
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
yes i meant kiss other guy^^ not family members^^ ahah kiss family is all ok^^ and not need to forgive at all. but i meant if she kissed other guy and i see you wouldnt forgive^^ thats normal ^^ if you forgave then you would always think that she could cheat you again. so is good that you wouldnt be with her anymore^^ you deserve a girl that loves you^^
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
no. i don't think i will ever forgive that person caught in the act of being unfaithful to me... i might answer differently when i am in the situation but i would say that as of this time... my decision is not to forgive and tolerate/
@ravend (659)
• Malta
25 Oct 10
I'd walk in on them and shout and shout and call them names. Then I'd slap her merciless. Than I'd run out. :D.
@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Hmnn.. We can't answer the question unless we are in the situation. Love can make us blind that is why, sometimes, even if we caught our lover in action of doing stupid things, we tend to forgive them.
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
yes i guess you are right^^ we cant really answer without pass through that. is true that sometimes we forgive all bcs we love the person. anyway i wish it doesnt happen to you^^ is ok to forgive but give a second chance is almost impossible bcs then you wont trust completely again. you will always think that she might cheat you again. so is a hard situation.
@hushi22 (4928)
22 Oct 10
hmmm...i guess i would forgive the guy but not that right on time. it will take time and yes i will give a second chance. but i hope this wont happen.
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
is good that you would give him a second chance^^ is bcs you really love your bf much^^ and sure it would take time to forgive. anyway for what you tell me about you and your bf he doesnt seem the kind of guy that cheats^^ you always say he is amazing so is bcs he really loves you^^ you are lucky to have a guy like him^^ is hard to find a sweet guy^^ the best for you
• India
22 Oct 10
Well I would forgave her but I wouldn't trust her again and I wouldn't give a second chance to my relationship with her and I would be really hurt by this reaction of her as I love her so much and she gave me this.........
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
yes you would forgive her but wouldnt be with her anymore^^ i understand. yes would be hard for you to trust her again. to trust that she loves you^^ i agree would be too bad if she did that bcs i know you love your gf very much^^ but i dont think she will do that^^ i guess she loves you more than what you love her^^ bcs was always her trying to make you be together^^
@vangie26 (445)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Trust, once broken is very hard to fix. It is earned by time you are together. I would be forgiving but that would also be the start that I may not trust him anymore. He has to prove that he is really sorry for what he did and if I can see the sincerity, there's a chance that I will give him another chance to prove himself faithful.