Is it ok to send our kids in high school far from our home?

October 24, 2010 3:33am CST
I have a grade 3 son right now, and I am planning that when he is in high school i will send him to an academy that is far from our home.The problem is, this is the first time that my son will stay away from me.I don't know if I can control my feelings with out him because he is my only son.The only thing that I send him to academy because of scholarship offer from that school.Can you give an idea of what to do as a mother? Thank you.
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8 responses
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Hi, I think we have the same feeling. This school year I send my son in academy far from my house. I have feelings of missing him but because I am sure that in that academy it can teach him to be an independent. Don't worry, you can adjust yourself by and by.
25 Oct 10
thank you so much for your response, you made me strong yes maybe i can adjust later.
@youless (93055)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Oct 10
If it is possible, I won't send my child in high school which is far away from home. As at that age it is easy to go to a wrong way in my opinion. It is OK that he studies far from home when he goes to the university. I love China
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Well, in my own opinion, if your child is safe in that school where you want him to study why not send him there? We are always looking for the good for our children.
@hakuyo (201)
24 Oct 10
I believe that it is good for you son as he can get scholarship from that school and he can also learn to be dependent. I know it is going to be extremely hard for you but you have to think about your son's future.
24 Oct 10
Thank you guys for your advise, but the problem is my emotion I can't control it, as a mother its hard for me to think that my only son is far from me I know he is safe in that academy, but I'll be missed him so much.
24 Oct 10
I understand what you mean about letting him go to high school further away from your home. If he wants to go and you trust him and that he will be ok going then theres nothing wrong with it. You could try finding him a high school closer that he would be happy going to, but thats all up to you and your son. If you both keep in contact and you visit him or visa versa quite often it won't be as bad as you think. Its hard letting them go, but they grow up too fast don't they.
25 Oct 10
Thanks for your response,maybe at first its hard for me to adjust but later i can control my emotion because this is for his future,your right i can call him everyday and visit him maybe twice a year because its very far.thank you..
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 10
There are pros and cons of sending your only son to study far from home. One is that you will definitely miss the period of being with him and seeing him growing up. Children grow up very fast and once they leave the nest, you will spend less time with him. But on the other hand if the academy is offering scholarship then it will benefit him and cut your expenses.
25 Oct 10
That is right! Thank you for your comment.
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
hello motorstar! i understand your feelings, having a first year high school son myself. since your kid is only grade 3 now, you still have at least 3 years to train him to be independent, and not to be too clingy to you when the time comes. At such age, your son should be fairly independent and should be able to cope well with his new surroundings. At this time, you have to start training him to sometimes be on his own, so that he will not have a difficult time when that time comes. will he be leaving within that academy's campus? if so, you must train him to take care of himself, his things, and everything else that he will need if ever he is to stay in a sort of dormitory in the school's campus. Another thing, do not show your apprehensions to him. It would convey that you don't trust him to be on his own.
25 Oct 10
Hi Thank you so much..I like your opinion yes i have 3 years to train him to be independent good advice.Thanks
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 10
Hi, Since your son can get the scholarship from that high school,why don't let him go and study there and same time he can learn to be independent. I believe he is able to takecare of himself at this stage of age. Is the academy at another town? if you have some relatives who are staying at that town,then you can consider to get help from your relatives or else let your son stay at boarding school if there is any. Boarding school will have strict rules and on his school holiday, you can always fetch him back home.
25 Oct 10
Yes you are right. This may help him to be independent. My parents are there but I am planning to let him stay in the school dormitory. My problem is my self because this is the first time that we separate from each other. The school is very far from our house it's 8 hours travel and I cannot fetch him anytime. Well, it's just a plan and I hope that I can adjust myself when the time will come.
@wadabski (764)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
I think that is okey considering the area will be safe. Also provided that they will be walked with an adult to school and fetch by you or any adult whom you trust. Mainly we send our kids to school to give them a good education so if you see that school can give your child a good education then go for it. Its for the child's future. That is only for my pint of view? What do you think?
26 Oct 10
Thanks for your response, i know if I send him to that academy he is safe there but as a mother i cant control my emotion and i think i need a little time to adjust. And your right this is my child future.