the benefits of living together before marriage
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
October 24, 2010 3:36am CST
when a couple has been together for a while and are starting to think about the possibility of marriage, it's only natural that the course the relationship might take in the time before the actual wedding is one of living together. there is no reason to pay the cost of living expensses for two places when you plan to be married in the near future. plus it also gives you the chance to find out things about one another, to get to know each other better. so from my point of view it's ok that you live together before marriage.
so what about you?
what do you thing about this subject?
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11 responses
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Oct 10
When people live together before marriage, they learn a lot about each other. when they marry, there is no surprise of who the other one is. The more we know about each other, the smoother the road to relationship can be.
@his0yir (258)
•
25 Oct 10
I saw many couples ended up in bad terms after they got married and lived together. Although they thought they loved each other deeply, nothing can defend relationship when daily trivia intervene and gnaw all the good feeling away. You will never understand a person until you spend 24/7 with him/her. It is not just about love, it's about life.
@dodo19 (47133)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Oct 10
I do think that living together before marriage can certainly be beneficial. I think that you can actually get to know the other person on a different and more personal level. It's true that you get to know the other person before marriage, prior to getting married, but it's just not the same. I'm really glad that my husband and I lived together prior to getting married. We did get to know things that we might not have know otherwise. It would have it a little more difficult for us after marriage, had we not lived together. At least this is the case for us.
@Karunvig (714)
• India
25 Oct 10
u go to a ice cream parlor and there r 3 new flavors and if u choose to have any of them and u fnt lik it... u will feel YUCK and dnt try remaining two... so its better u hav a relatio with the person whom u want to get married so u dnt blame all of guys :P and if one guy is nt as per urr personality kick him out and try the other... i knw i am insulting the word LOVE here but i think Love's definations has been changed to selfishness / LUST and many more...
@gahoi1785 (121)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
hi swissheart,
i am an advocate of marriage first before living together as a practice of my Catholic faith.
so live-in is a no-no for me.
you can live together after the marriage but dont do so if you're still unsure.
happy mylotting. :-)
@mnteanco (5)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Living together is a decision the couple makes. That depends on the values they believe in. Based on the bible, when the couple is married, a man leaves his father and mother and be united with his wife and they shall become one. Only when they are husband and wife shall they become one. Living together before marriage is no no for me.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
i see no flexibility for there will be days that all the two do is to ignore each other because of work. its going to be lonely for the weaker real lonely. that is why divorce aims to reduce the pain that the weaker feels.
@lionheartguru (208)
• India
24 Oct 10
i think Live-ins are inn these days . Especially people who are away from their families due to work or studies or anything. It actually helps you share your financial loads ( under certain circumstances only ) and even helps in discovering the possibilites of a life time lasting relationship. However, it has its own disadvantages as well ! One has to make sure of not being 100% depended on the other for finances. I have been a live-in for some time. It did not work out well due to financial insecurities and her monogamy.
@sjlskl (3382)
• Singapore
24 Oct 10
I agree. Being in love with a person and staying with the same person is two different matter. The partner might have little habits which is not obvious unless you have stay with him/her for an amount of time. So staying together before marriage will expose you to them and to prepare you for life staying together.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
24 Oct 10
i agree with you^^ marry is normal if you have a relationship with someone for long^^ but is ok to live together first^^ there are some couples that have a happy relation and when marry things get bad and they get divorced. so they should live together first to see if things work well or not^^ so for sure i think couples should live together before marry^^ is a good way to be sure that that person is the right one^^
@dk0245 (8)
• Singapore
24 Oct 10
I think living before marriage actually benefits the relationship and actually prolongs marriages. Living together allows partners to learn more about each other like living habits, likes and dislikes etc. Along the way couples learn to compromise each other, and basically trying out how marriage with your partner will be like.
