I am very upset, down and frustrated...
By maean_19
@maean_19 (4655)
Philippines
October 28, 2010 8:45pm CST
I just came from Metro Manila to my hometown for the long day weekend due to the All Saint's day Holiday. I am supposed to be resting because of the long travel, but I cannot find the word "sleep" because I have a hurt feeling. I was crying over the bus because my boyfriend was unable to see me and we were not able to give each other hugs and kisses for a safe trip.
However, that is not the issue. I was upset and crying because we had an argument over the phone. I just could not take what he said and was so hurt. I am not sure if he was angry at me because he was irritated with his work or because of something I am supposed to do and left it undone or perhaps another reason.
I am not even sure if what he said are meant and until now he is not talking about it. I feel so hurt because it has been the most painful argument we had. It is as if my heart is breaking literally.
Consequently, I am very frustrated and down with other things. What happened to me and my bf is just one of the things that caused me in pain. How can I go through of this pain?
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10 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Hello Maean,
It's part of his work to get frustrated. for some reason when he is in pressure, you were accidentally mean with his remarks because of his work. probably he's whining about it and some how you got upset too with his words that made both of you have this painful argument.
Let it heal down and don't think much of it. if it's really work pressure related am sure that he will call and apologized to you.it's part of the relationship to argue. just let it be and don't think about it too much.it can hurt you more that way
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Hi Letranknight! It's been a while that I have not seen you around or perhaps I did not notice you. Speaking about the topic, I was silent with his sudden burst of anger. I was even shocked because I was thinking about myself leaving without seeing him. That was actually my question to him last night. I cannot understand why and it kept me hanging. I am hoping he would say sorry and that he did not mean what he said. Thanks for the advise my friend.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
It's been a while that I have not seen you around or perhaps I did not notice you
No, you didn't
@ElicBxn (63252)
• United States
29 Oct 10
God created us to handle these things.
Yes, it seems like the end of the world now, but even if you never see him again, what will it mean in a year?
I try to remind myself that what is a BIG deal today, will be replaced by another one soon enough.
So, even if you break up, there are plenty of fish in the sea, at least at the moment, it won't always be this hard.
In fact, I strongly advice you count your blessing this Holy Day. Who's Souls are you praying for this year? What are their families going thru? Do you still have family to be with, mom, dad, brothers, sisters?
Think what it would be like to lose one of them? Do you love this fellow that much?
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Yes, I love him that much. Well, the other reasons why I am frustrated relates with my family. I do not want to discuss it here as the moment. That what breaks my heart much because it seems like I am all alone now. As if no one understands me even when I am trying to reach out. No one appreciates what I do. Even the person who I expect to be with me is as if going away.
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@ElicBxn (63252)
• United States
29 Oct 10
Oh, family can be the source of much heart break. At one time I would've done anything for my brother and then he changed.
Still, its like these kids who kill themselves because of bulling. If they (and you) can hold on long enough, God will make it right.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Just pray that everything would be okey. Pray that your boyfriend would realize he might hurt you and call you up to clear things. It's alright to apologize if needed just to patch up things. Rest a little, attend mass and when yourself is quite compose and if you think there's a need to call him up, do it. I wish you all the best.
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@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Sorry to hear that dear but the only thing you needed to do is say sorry even if it wasn't your fault. It sounds crazy but it works all the time because pride should not be the hindrance in a relationship.
If you really think that it was your fault, then admit it and say sorry and patch things up. We may have spoken words to each other that is painful but don't linger on those things, face what is the future and see to it if you can still be of good terms to your beloved.
In a relationship, understanding and being patient is really needed. So no matter how ugly things are at the moment, think time to be quiet and when you are ready to speak, then do say things nicely that will not stir anger. Remember that whatever you do, you will also suffer if you have hurt him too.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
13 Nov 10
A week had passed since my bf and I had an argument. Now that we are together again, it seems it was not resolved yet. It was long forgotten. That is what I hate when issues passes being unresolved. I do not want to dig in the issue either because we might end up arguing again. I want to confront him thought but have no courage because it is over due.
@mhy_pie03 (68)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
So sorry to hear about during a lonesome holiday. I'm sure that will come to pass and you'll get to talk about it in a cool manner and tell each other sorry about anything that might have hurt you or him. Hope for the best dear. =)
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
I just hope that we can talk it out. I was really very hurt then because it went as a surprise for me that he got mad for something very petty. Besides, I did not see him when I left. I felt bad that we did not kiss before I left. I felt bad that he just got mad over the phone. I felt bad that we cannot be able to see for few days. I felt bad because when we will be able to see, we could no longer discuss what went wrong.
I love him so much that I cannot go to sleep without any issue being solved. I cannot take away thinking about him.
@vangie26 (445)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Good or bad situations are given to you because you can handle them wisely and that is definite. You pray first, read the Bible and ask the Lord to enlighten you on what's happening. That will give you a great relief. try to relax for now. maybe you and your bf need a space for the meantime. For sure, even him could not be at peace, if he really loves you, then he will not let these things to go on. Just carry on, friend. :-)
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
I think that is the most proper thing I can do for now my friend. Let God know what I feel and pray harder. I will just keep silent for now and wait for the day that my bf and I go back to our apartment next week. I wanted to talk to him in person and clear things out than talking over the phone again.
@torchablazed (3218)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
I think its normal to feel it that way, but when either one of you would at least say a sorry that pain you feel would eventually be alright. All relationship will go through tough times, maybe he can give you a call or you might as well give him a text message. Nothing can ease it up unless each of you has the ability to forgive and forget what happen. I hope you would be fine very soon. hugs.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
I had been expecting him to say sorry, but he never make an effort to do so. He even do not care to call or send a message. I can always forgive him, but I can no longer do the initiative to say sorry when I know I have no fault. I do not want to let it just pass away without solving the issue. I always do the forgiving even when it is his fault and I think I should not tolerate that because he might abuse it. I want him to take away that pride aside since I am not that hard to listen when he explains.
@xenachinah30 (597)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
It's not the end of the world.Yes,take the pain but don't take it seriously.GOD has a better plan for your life,maybe your not meant for each other.Time will come that you accept what had happen to both of you.The things you should do is of course make a prayer to HIM lift up all your pains and worries unto GOD.& HE will take the rest of you just believe in him.
@silverfire (2)
•
30 Oct 10
ouch! you're in a situation which needs really extra courage to get through with. But Deal with it. Talk to your friends. Tell them what you're experiencing right now. I'm sure you'll get some good advice. You'll get through it!
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