ruined friendship

Australia
November 1, 2010 11:17pm CST
we had this so called circle of friends . and it's so sad that right now, our relationship is not the same as before.. it began when one of my friends lend money to my other friend. the said money was not paid on the date that they had agreed.. after that, my friend who is the lender, exchange bitter words with her..and as expected.. their friendship was broken.. and it affected also us... now i know it is so true.. that money is a tool that can ruin friendships.. can you share some story like this?
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6 responses
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
This so called saying might be true, but all things in friendship should always depend on the basis of the reasoning of each person. Let say that you are my friend, and you very badly needed money for an emergency case? and I; being a friend had graciously lend you the much needed cash,on that bridge; You promise to pay on said date; but was not able to because of a much more needs that you knew would benefit from it... I will make a room for another deadline, and you knowing that I am so considerate enough to give you another time to pay; will eventually have to make it on that said deadline! won't you? It is not very kind to know that friendship should be broken just because of Misunderstanding and pride... it is also true that a friendship built on trust; Is a friendship built on rock.
@Jiabsa (511)
• India
2 Nov 10
I'm agree with you, money is a problem creator. It is the main tool of ruining all the relationship. It can destroy not only the friends relationship but also the blood relationship. Money is the main reason for breaking relationship among friends, families and relatives. Can we live without money? Everything is possible with money. So we must be careful to maintain the relationship with others and don't give chance to money to destroy the relationship.
• Canada
2 Nov 10
If a friend wanted to borrow money from me I would ask them why me. What about a family member or other relative? If not a wealthy relative I would encourage them to go to a bank or another financial institute. Why ask a freind? Asking a friend doesn't seem right to me. I wouldn't want to risk not being able to pay it back. Just no way no how I would ask a friend! Now that you have been through this with your friends would you ever borrow from a friend?
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
It's true that money could really ruin a friendship. There are many countless stories of how it has affected relationships - not just friendship but also romantic relationships or family life. This is why we really need to just trust when people say 'do not talk about money with friends'. Though yeah there will be days when you need to discuss such. I guess it wouldn't hurt if you're willing to lend something that would not really be affecting you if you won't get it back. That way, the friendship wouldn't be ruined anymore.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
For me money is Roth of AL evil because friendship is ruin by that matter.
• United States
2 Nov 10
Money to me is the root of all evil especially when you loan out in good faith then the person who borrows it treats in different when they can't pay you back. So there is some truth into the saying that says that unless you are prepared to freely give it away we must never loan out money to friends and or acquaintances. I have never had this misfortune but know of many other that have and somehow it always ruin the relationship.