Single or In Relationship with ...
By creyos
@creyos (275)
Indonesia
November 3, 2010 2:02am CST
A status on facebook may mean nothing or everything. Especially now there's the function to link our relationship to our spouse account.
As I know, some peoples put the false status on Facebook, some puts the actual. And some will directly change their status when they have a spouse then link to their spouse account but some, with some considerations, prefers to remain the same. More on the status story, surprisingly, it could be kind of tool to declare your relationship, to test your spouse, the tool to commit with your lover, or tool to revenge to your ex.
So do you put your actual status? Will you directly change your status when you're in relationship? Will you declare your relationship by linking your account to your spouse name? Do you think status on facebook is real important as the official notice to others when you're in relationship? Do you think status on facebook will help to avoid or lessen your spouse to cheat on you?
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14 responses
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 10
I don't really mind about this status on facebook. Because people can put false fact about their relationship.
But, however, I have friends who did the same thing as you said, they link their spouse account to their facebook profile.
What comes to my thinking is why all people in the world should know who you are in relationship with and when you are going to end it or develop it? Relationship should be only you and your spouse, and nothing comes between them.
Anyway, it is individual point of view.. ^^
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 10
Horas dari Medan, then. ^^
You friend might got a point. I mean, that it must be right, that her bf's exes will find that he already involves in a relationship. But, nothing is really bind in that. When a guy wanna cheat on you, they will. No matter what.
However, once again, that it's all going back to each person's point of view. ^^
I mean, don't set the boundaries, how to keep your partner from cheating on you. Or you will be disappointed when things come not as you want it to. ^^
@creyos (275)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 10
Hi Hesty, salam dari Jakarta :)
Yeah, it depends on the individual point of view, and maybe how active they use Internet or Facebook.
I have a friend who is recently in relationship with a guy that she knew from dating online, then now, they continue the long distance relationship. So she asked her bf to change and show the status as in relationship which link to her, she's not sure it will avoid the cheating but she assumed at least the new or old girl friends that listed in her bf's account will recognise it and it will reduce the chance to cheat.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
3 Nov 10
I have got two facebook accounts... one is for my partner and the other is for my family... my family doesn't approve of our relationship that is why we need to hide from them.. it sucks to have a family who isn't cool at all.. they don't like the idea of us having boyfriends at this age.. i am 25 and my sister's 18.. we are at legal age to know what is right from wrong, etc... my sister's profile is customized too.. her relationship status and her posts are not seen by the family members except me.. i approve of her relationship with her boyfriend... i just always remind her to take things slowly and don't do silly things that will spoil her ambitions in life..
@creyos (275)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 10
Hi Gracie, this is a new case that I ever heard about the status on facebook. There are family, like my brother and his wife, and my cousins who don't really pay attention with my status as they already know me.
But it's lucky, my parents didn't join Facebook. If my parents joined, I think I will directly set private to them too, sometimes just so many unbelievable questions.
@mariusFcs (1)
• Romania
3 Nov 10
it is sad that your parents do not let you have freedom to have an open relationship at your age...:(
@teenymarie (107)
• United States
3 Nov 10
I have my husband's FB linked to mine as being married. I changed it the day after our wedding because I was so excited that we were finally married! LOL I'm not sure it really makes any difference as far as cheating goes. I think if someone is going to cheat they will find a way to do it regardless. Not meaning my husband or me because that's not an issue but just in general.
@helmyxyahya (88)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 10
i always set my status: "single", even i have a girlfriend. Why?? because i want keep my relationship hidden. Why must set relationship when in relationship with girl/boyfriend?? The most important is she is my love, not just show, " hey, i have a new girlfriends, dude!" but i don't love her
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
Yes, I agree with you some of my friends I know are writing their status wrong.
But in my case, I want to change my status from single to in relationship but I dont know when that day would come.
My friend when engaged he changed his status from single to in relationship before entering to home, So I think we should be speak truth and should write reality of our life, if you dont want to share any thing then just dont share but atleast speak truth....:)
Be Happy and Be the Reason of Happiness in others lives...:)
@marriedman111399 (1207)
• United States
3 Nov 10
I dont think that a status in facebook would determine whether or not my wife is going to cheat on me or not. The status are just words and if your partner really loved you and cared about you they would not cheat on you no matter what your status said on face book.
@ravend (659)
• Malta
4 Nov 10
I have mine hidden. I realise from other friends, that when you break up with someone, the thing you least want to do is go on facebook and update your status. Also, another reason - once I received a call from someone at work to do psychological supervision for me - and when she told me her name I had to refuse - she was my ex 's new gf. If they did not put it up on facebook, I wouldn't have had to refuse it. :/
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
3 Nov 10
My live-in boyfriend and I have both our facebook accounts linked. We did so truly as we have a great many mutual friends. But I can see your point about others using it for many other reasons. I know some people who intentionally list it is complicated just because they want their mutual friends to feel that they are somewhat still single.
I do not think that my boyfriend and I wanted it to be listed as official as truly anyone who knows me and or knows him know that we have been together for a long time. Will it lessen my partner to cheat? Nawwh, I do not think so as a cheater does not require any changes as once a cheater always will be a cheater, and despite the fact that a cheater lists on their status that they are taken in someway does not preclude them ever cheating. HA! Too funny.
@pankajgarg (797)
• India
4 Nov 10
i actually think that social networking sites are a disaster to our private lives. i can prove fatal if you like dating people you met online because they rely completely on the information given by you on the networking sites and you can not know what a person is online.
so for me it is not only not to update but i will prefer to keep this thing limited to myself only.
and i will not consider the option of committed as a relationship option.
we must choose single if we are not married or in a live in relationship and otherwise as applicable....
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
3 Nov 10
Yes, for me status in facebook is very important and I hope others can realized that. In facebook not only you can socialized, having friend, gaming and chatting. This kind of social network can show your real person not in physical but how you can show to others your character and etiquette.
On my first time in facebook I completed my profile and other including registration without checking I thought all are correct. Then my wife and children link with me. You know they found my status I put before was "single" so the uncertain and un-expected situation came. Long explanation and huge words I reap. but in myself I have no intention to do that... From that situation I become honest to myself, careful and transfarent.... see you around
