Do you trust your best friend?

Indonesia
November 3, 2010 4:59pm CST
My experience was bad about best friend. All my best friends betrayed me. When they need me they came to me for help like money or doing a favor. After they got my help, then they left me. When I need their help, they never gave me some helps. Good friend ( not best friend ) said, when u give some help to other, don't ever hope he or she will help you one day. Just pray and ask the God to help you. So now, I never say I have best friends, I just say all are my friends. No good or bad friend for me. If I can help I will help. That's it.
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25 responses
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
Hi coollady9! I do trust my best friend. I would not even consider the person my best friend if I do not trust him/her. The people you thought were your friends have betrayed you and therefore are not worthy of your friendship. Well, one day, maybe you will be able to forgive them for what they have done to you but it sure is difficult to forget. I hope that you will be able to find good friends.
@allamgirl (2145)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
I do. I can tell them all my secrets. But sometimes I feel like they don't have time for me. I know that we're all really busy but I would really like it if we can have time for bonding sessions. So that is the thing that disappoints me the most about my best friends. I have no problem with them on the trust issue though.
@ellyza (29)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
I am glad that my best friend is a person that I can trust on. I know she will not put me down in what ever situation..
@Memnon (2173)
8 Nov 10
My best friend is my partner. Other than that most people are acquaintances. This might be as much because I work mainly nights, as anything else. I don't think that I would ever trust anyone I know physically, to help me if I were in a jam, or repay a kindness. It's not within many people to do so.
@celticeagle (117178)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Nov 10
We shouldn't really help others with the intent of getting the same when the time comes. We help our friends because we are good people and should help our fellow man. And, hey, isn't that a bunch of hooey??!! Ya, we should but we don't. Everyone is out for themselves now days and we should not depend on a one of them to help us when we need it. Sad, but horribly true.
• Boston, Massachusetts
6 Nov 10
Hi Coollady, Yes i trust my bestfriend. She's my bestfriend since college and we shared a lot. She is simply the best. But of course i too have lots of friends and like you i am ever willing to listen and extend help if needed. i love reaching out to them too just to let them know that i am just here---i am just a text, chat, call away when needed.
@betlynfrnds (1193)
• United States
4 Nov 10
It's a shame that you had to go through what you did. No one should ever be betrayed by someone who is supposed to be a friend. I don't use the term friend lightly at all. I have many of what I call casual friends. I know a thing or 2 about them and they know a thing or 2 about me. If the need arises, we give each other the support required and then move on with life. There are others who are just aquaintences. I may share a smile, a wave or a hello. Maybe I'll hold the door opened for this person but that's it. Then there is my best friend. I didn't know that I would have a best friend but I do. I know that I'm his best friend too. We help each other out all the time. He knows almost everything about me and, yes, I trust him. In fact I trust him with my life. And he likewise trusts me. It's unusual to find a friend like that in the world we live in but it does happen. I and my best friend are living proof. I only wish everyone had a friend as special as mine.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
4 Nov 10
I would have to say that I trust my best friend. if you can't trust your best, then who can be trustworthy in your life? a best friend is who you should be able to count on.
@Jiabsa (512)
• India
4 Nov 10
I have many friends. But i don't have best friends. Actually i like to keep many friends. But i don't have time. Don't share your secrets with your friends. They will cheat you. All my friends are 'hi hi' friends. I don't want to keep a close relationship with them.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
4 Nov 10
I dont have a best friend so to speak. Friendship is a very important thing to me. I try to keep friends close and help them in any way I can. I have been thru alot of drama and unnecessary crap with so called friends. I would have to say that the person I would label my best friend is my oldest daughter. I had her at a young age and we were always close. I try to mind my own business and be the best person I can. I dont have the time or inclination to get involved with he said she said crap. dl
@saqi78 (1405)
• Malaysia
4 Nov 10
Yes, I think this is normal behavior every where in the world, but my experience with my best friend is different from you, when ever they need my help I do, and when I need their help in any form they always come up and if they cant they ll try to arrange it for me, they never disappoint me in any regards. Whenever I help any one, I never expect that they ll help me in response, I always ask for help from God and He is the one who is helpful and friends or other human beings are just sources which He send on earth for help.... thanks for nice discussion...
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
For me my best friend is not at all I can trust her because we apply the knowledge of Jehovah God and continue to apply his law so now until this day I would said I can trust my best friend.
@dedkur76 (14)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 10
i think it ought to be friends need each other if we need their assitance to help it was a friend if they do not help us is not a friend but, if you;ve seen our friends already like it better we do not ever give him great hope better mediocre, because if we are to hopely there was just disappointed
@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
Trusting other people is a very essential part of life; it makes it a lot easier and truly happier. If you live or experience people around you that you cannot trust, it makes the days to follow that much more awkward as we deal with each of these individuals.
4 Nov 10
For me if i call that"best friend"i will trusting them,be cause if not i won't call a best friend,so if i get some case same you i will call them just friend.
@emerillus (477)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
That's good to hear you are a helpful person no matter what they do to you in return. I also have a friend who betrayed my trust but thankfully she's not my bestfriend so it doesn't hurt so much. I do trust my bestfriend and haven't done any betrayal.
• India
4 Nov 10
Yes, your words are obsolutely correct.We have to help friends without hoping that the money will come again.If we expect that our friend will giveback the money,then it is not a good friendship.
@asendud (318)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 10
me too.. i didn't have a best friend. everyone just friend. i can't trust anyone just my self. beside i don't like to make anyone get in trouble. so i always trying just with my self and some time need a help to my brother because brother who can i give some trouble not a friend.
@anNiTa (126)
• United States
4 Nov 10
i have to say that i do consider one of my friends my best friend. she has been there for me through so much. no so much for help but she has proven her loyalty one too many times. and i have done the same. we have had several confrontations throughout the years but we have been able to face each other and work things out. i know she hasnt betrayed me and i havent either... our friendship is solid and we are not affraid to tell each other whats on our mind, regardless. i have other friends but i do not trust them the way i trust my bff.
@kadaj21 (12)
• United States
3 Nov 10
I kinda don't trust my best friend either. I'm told she's jealous of me (why i don't know) and will try to take every guy who's even somewhat interested in me. I love her completely but I'm definitely keeping my distance. My boyfriend will never go for her but I'm taking no chances. When we get married I'm just gonna suggest we go to vegas and elope lol