Is life unfair to you? How
November 7, 2010 11:10am CST
May be all of us have experienced or still experiencing challenges in life.Those challenges not only strengthen us but also reshape our values and our personality. Life indeed is a very long journey, where all of us choose the path or road we want to passed by. Everyday of our lives were full of struggles and sometimes no matter how hard we fight to win we end up facing disappointments and failures. Did you ever feel that during hard times? Did you ever feel that sometime life is unfair, because you were born live to a life full of misery and if you compared yourself to other people you see them living a wonderful life with just doing nothing? How do you view your life's journey? Are you happy with the path you choose to achieved your greatest dreams? Can you share us your experiences where you face trials and finally overcome it?
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7 Nov 10
I think nobody said that Life is going to be fair. I think all of us might have had incidents when we felt this is not fair. Then there are some moments when you start thinking that all the luck in the world is going for you. So I think all of us go through such moments. I have had many such moments. One such incident happened very early in my career when I was called for a Under 12 nationals for the Indian Volleyball team. When I went for the medicals, the medical practitioner there said that your selection or not is in my hands. I really did not understand what he meant as I was young. His meaning was that he needed some kind of a bribe. Then the next day I came to know the results of the medicals and I was told that I was overage when I was 1.5 years under the age bar!! Another person in our team who was 1 year above that bar had cleared the medicals!! That was a real hard lesson pretty early in my life that it is not fair!! Cheers! Ram
7 Nov 10
I really felt in the dumps for nearly a year. Decided to quit Volleyball altogether. But then a couple of years later, I realized the damage done by him was only temporary, but the damage done by myself by giving up was more permanent. Now I have learnt to take such things on the chin and move on!! As they say, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going." So I follow this motto every time I feel hard done by life. Cheers! Ram
7 Nov 10
I can't really say if life has always been either to me... i've had my ups and downs like us all as we all enjoy certain things and go down different paths of life with jobs and ways of life. I have managed to get married at a young age and have two wonderful children and we have managed to buy a house... but on the job side of my life its been up and down for years, we are all getting through it.. i'm just glad i have a job at the moment.
7 Nov 10
Life, I don not believe life can do something good or bad to me. I just believe in God that do that. I just live my life as I am. I do not understand the concept of fair and unfair in my life. What is my part is while I'm living in life, I have to do fairly towards others. It is OK if I'm treated unfairly, but I will struggle to treat them back fairly. That's the life should be.
7 Nov 10
I am quite happy with my life right now. Even if this life of mine is not full of joys, I know in the end I learned. And these learnings will help me shape to a wonderful person. I don't believe that we were born to live life full of misery. We make our own decisions, we act on things that we wanted to do, so it is safe to say that WE make our own misery one way or another. Everything that is going on in our lives is worth it. If you keep saying that your life is a waste then it will be a total mess. Coping up is very difficult but is worth a try. My life's journey? It's doing very good. There were wrong directions I have turned, but in the end, I was on the right without noticing it. I was happy choosing those paths because I know I learned. I've met different individuals. I've shared some good relationships to several of them. Advise to those individuals who always says that they are not worth it, I've been there, done some atrocious things but I was lucky to realize that LIFE is a BEAUTIFUL thing. ;)
• United States
7 Nov 10
I agree, life is not always fair, but life is a learning experience. I have had my ups and downs but life challenges you. Praise when things are going good and pray when things are going bad. Your attitude will determine how you perceive your life. I continually improve on learning experience and everyday I enjoy my company more and more. You love yourself, have a good attitude, you win.
8 Nov 10
I agree with you that different challenges in life strengthen us but reshape our values an personality. Every one has some sorts of problems and challenges in life this does not mean that we should give up and stop our struggle. Some time our strategies to cope with these challenges fail and some time we over come these challenges, we should learn from these failures and challenges, this is life and this is the beauty...:) In my life, I had challenges from the start and till now, ups and downs are there but I am happy that through those ups and down I got lessons and now am at a good position and can say though there were challenges but it was my life which taught me how to cope with this, which give me experience and strength. I ll never say that life is unfair for me but it depends on me that how I live it and how I struggle for its and mine betterment...:) Happy Lotting...
8 Nov 10
Well, I don't think this as an unfair experience but it could be somehow. I confessed to the girl that I like and then I got rejected. I was so sad when I heard it from her. I thought my world has ended already. I don't know how to face her again when we had met in our organizations Final Rights. I felt ashamed when I saw her. I became emotional after everything that happened. I envy those couples that I see in my way to school or while in the mall. I always want to be with the girl that I love and just wondering why I was rejected. Am I always like this? I never been in happy in my love life throughout my existence. I feel that someone is playing trick on me just to make fun and fool me. I have thoughts already that I will never be happy again like the way when I haven't confessed my feelings to her. Everything has been like that but time passed and something happened. I realized something about what happened. Maybe, she was not the right girl for me. I just have to move on and live life the way it should be. Things will just be in their places in the right time. live your life to th fullest since you will never know when it will end.
• United Kingdom
8 Nov 10
I look at life as being what it is I guess! Sometimes it's easy and sometimes it's extremely difficult. I try to remain positive throughout though. I'm not sure I'm even walking along my desired path. I think I would like to be rich, everyone would want this I think but if this is not the case then we have to put up with our lot in life! I suppose the best thing I've done to date is to take a course in computer maintenance and installation. I passed this course despite it being difficult at certain sections. It's a skill for life and I consider this a challenge that I conquered. I take each day as it comes otherwise and I guess the weather helps to improve my mood when it's nice! Andrew
8 Nov 10
Life is never fair. Some people are luckier than us, but then we are also more blessed than others. We can't control how life treats us, but we can control how we see life's inequities and deal with them. It's all about the attitude. I look at these inequalities as a chance to improve myself. It's a positive challenge. If we sulk in the corner, life is not going to give us something to make us feel better.
8 Nov 10
i am experiencing that until now. i never win in this life,... i am always a failure in everything and everyday of this life... i don't have the power to do things that i want and things that i know can make me happy...i am 24 years old and yet i don't feel any achievement in life...i don't want to think that life is being unfair to me,...but., i can't help it... but to think that way,because of what i am experiencing now "unfair" is the best word to describe my situation. i don't know if when will it be to be life comes fair to me...