Do you believe religion is something that should be discussed amongst friends?

United States
November 7, 2010 8:45pm CST
If you and your friends have different religious beliefs do you believe it is a topic best left out of conversations? I have found that religion is such a deeply personal journey, and people have such strong feelings about their beliefs that differing opinions can lead to problems, especially among those who believe theirs' is the only way. If both people know there is a difference of opinion, do you believe it is more respectful to keep religion out of the relationship than to air a difference of opinion on something that is such a big part of how we identify ourselves in the world? What are your thoughts on this?
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@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
8 Nov 10
I think it depends on how good of friends you are. I use to discuss religion with my friends all the time. I'm Christian, one of my friends is Jewish and the other grew up Catholic but she doesn't follow it completely. We use to have discussions all the time about our beliefs, especially around holidays, but we always made it a point to state that these were our beliefs. We never tried to convert one another or anything like that. However, it is so easy to offend someone when it comes to religion, when you disagree or don't believe what they believe. Also, I have met people who will flat out tell others that they are going to hell because they are following a "fake religion."
• United States
8 Nov 10
I have friends of many religions, Christian, catholic, Jewish, Buddhist, pagan, agnostic, Jehovah's witness, and even a Mormon friend. With most I find open discussion a healthy exchange of ideas. But as you say there are some people who will tell you that you are damned to hell for not believing as they do, and if these people are otherwise compatible with you, that is a very difficult thing to overcome.
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
I believe that religion is a personal thing however, it is also meant to be shared. Among circle of friends you can talk about but it must be put in healthy level for purposes of viewing whatever the things that are good for each other or comparing differences. Not to the point of hurting or insulting your friend/s who happen to have a different belief, respect is the key to everything.
• United States
8 Nov 10
Thank you, I agree whole-heartedly with respect being the key. If the two people are capable of having a respectful conversation without trying to change a persons beliefs or berate them it is great. You can learn a lot about a person this way. And you can also learn a lot about different cultures, beliefs, and religions. Unfortunately sometimes it is such a personal belief that any opposing beliefs are viewed as an insult to some. I have some friends who love the topic, and others who believe it best to keep it out of the friendship, which is why I wanted to pick other people's brains on the matter.
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
Well i cannot see anything wrong is talking about religion or personal beliefs so long as respect for others opinions will always be there Some people feels so strong about their belief that they tend to push their belief so hard and forget that the other person may not like it.Discussing about religion should not lead to serious arguments. And some people should stop thinking that they are the only ones who are right. Self-rightous people just annoys me, and the very opinionated ones too.
@mohseen (26)
• Kenya
8 Nov 10
No i do not, if you can talk with your friend comfortably about religion then that mean one thing. YOU HAVE A GOOD FRIEND!. friends should always respect one another right to have different opinions even if they do not agree with or condone them. if you cannot talk with your friend about sensitive issue's chances are your with narrow minded person and no one wants a narrow minded person for a friend right?.
• India
8 Nov 10
I would like to narrate a very popular Indian story: Five blind indian friends went in a forest and they came across an elephant. One picked up tail, second-its trunk, third-its legs, fouth-its ears, and fifth-its large stomach. All five excitedly started describing the elephant: The first blind man said the elephant is like a rope. The second one said it is like a pipe, The third one said it is like pillars The fourth one said its like big flaps. The fifth one said it is like a large box. Now imagine. All of them started fighting how the elephant look. This moral story tells that all of us are like blind men. None of us truly know what religion is and about God. Beliefs must have concret supporting evidence. Blind faith and beliefs must be avoided at all costs and belive me they most of the time prove fatal and history tells us that they even resulted in wars. So friends, never discuss anything that you really donot know.
@kreznan (16)
• Bulgaria
8 Nov 10
I don't think religion is something that can be discussed among friends, because they will either be another religion or they won't want to talk about it. I don't know about the other people but my friends aren't very religious and they don't care much about religious things.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
8 Nov 10
Religion can be a difficult topic for friends to discuss unless they are of the same faith. it can cause some heated discussions when viewpoints differ. It can sometimes alter the relationship you have with them.
@tsenes (36)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
I believed that religion should also be discussed amongst your friends. It's fine when your topic is all about religion. I am also curious and would like to know other doings of other religion as well. We should have an open mind when it comes to this kind of conversation.The only thing that problem exists on this kind of topic is that when it is being debated already. But as for me, it doesn't matter to what kind of religion you belong to, what matters to GOD is the level of your FAITH to HIM.
@veganbliss (3901)
• Adelaide, Australia
8 Nov 10
I wouldn't bring it up myself, but if others brought it up, I'd use what I know to help them, comfort them or raise their own level of understanding. This is what Jesus & his disciples & apostles did. At the same time, religious discussion shouldn't be used as a weapon to convert others to your way of thinking or religion. All worldly wealth, power, knowledge, etc should be used to befriend & help others on their journey. My knowledge & understanding, for example, changes from time to time as I learn more. So, what if I were to say something to someone at a certain time & that person goes away thinking that it applies forever & ever or I never have the chance to see them again (like if they move or die or something)... it'd be too late to repair the damage. So we should try to be more careful with what we say & how we say it. No need to walk around on eggshells though, so to speak. Any religion should be helping us to better ourselves, not as something to be forced on others.
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
I believe that our personal contact with the "almighty one", however you called it with names such as God, Allah, Buddah, Jehovah, Yahweh, Vishnu, El Shaddai and amongst others is just between ourself and Him alone... The measurement is within the "divine" and "spirited". If you believe in certain ways that what you believe is the truth and the way, then let it be, and respect also others out of it. I still believe that religion alone can not save us or what we can say can bring us to that "divine place". In my every discussions pertaining to religion, I don't necessarily answer favoring one religion over the other. This is to show in the discussion that I am aware that religion is a personal thing. Although anyone can be a preacher, I still believe that there are designated people guided with the "divine light" to do this and let them do it so that our own thoughts will not misguide anyone who belong to a certain religious group. So for our friends, it is better to leave it as it is to avoid misunderstanding and besides there are so many topics to talk about so don't choose religion over other topics. These are my thoughts and views regarding this.