How much humiliations you can tolerate?
By breathofja
@breathofja (83)
China
November 17, 2010 10:51am CST
Hey,friends.When somebody is shaming you at your friend's presence,what will you do?You gonna kick this guy's a*s or just swallow humiliation silently?You know,jesus always teach us to love your enemy,let alone someone just insult you.what about you guys?Are you the man of good temper?As for me,i was always hard to take a single bad word.Expecting your opinions.
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4 responses
@janetan17 (25)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
I am a devout Christian and though it's hard, I try to love even my enemy but I do so by not destroying their lives even if i have the power to do so, by praying that they be changed, by helping them realize their mistakes, and by helping whenever they needed help. I also ask help from God so that I will not keep any grudge against them in my heart. If they insult me in public, i do not behave the way they do just because I do not want to go down to their level. If they are my friends I value, I would send them a letter or talk to them privately. If the reaction is still negative, I will try to maintain some space between us and when the situation cools down, try to approach them little by little as I would a new acquaintance. This works for me. That is why I cannot remember having or rather maintaining enemies. ;)
@foofermen (500)
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17 Nov 10
I am an "eye for an eye" guy. If I am insulted, I insult back. If I am hit, I hit back. Every situation is circumstantial though. There are many time I just have to bite my tongue, and back down. Like when dealing with the police, it is best not to start up with them. Also, if anybody apologizes, I always accept. I really try hard to forgive and forget but it can be very hard. I am a very patient man and can handle a lot of humiliation, but I have a line and once that line is crossed, I am a completely different person.
I feel that everybody does what they do for a reason, and when you understand the reasons behind a person's actions, it is easier to empathize with them as apposed to wanting to whup their butts.
@breathofja (83)
• China
18 Nov 10
In this public situations,mostly i just looks ok outside but in my head already counter them back.You are right everyone have a bottom line if the line was crossed then it will lose control.Empathy will help us to handle the temper just as you mentioned.thanks for your response.
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
17 Nov 10
Unless the situation gets majorly out of hand like in public I will normally try to confront th esituation in private with the person first. I will explain what he is doing and how it is humiliating me. I would find it fair turf if he didn't stop then.
