Yak Yak, Chat, Chat...I Hate Chat
By pyewacket
@pyewacket (43903)
United States
November 26, 2010 8:57pm CST
One of the reasons I switched off my Yahoo Messenger was due to finding it just plain annoying. I'd be in the middle of writing an article, or trying to read background info on an article I wanted to write or I'd be scanning photos and maybe working in Photoshop, and would hear that annoying ping to alert me that someone was messaging me. Like hey, email me instead.
Okay so now I'm being annoyed with the chat feature at FB. Most people I know don't bother with it, and I guess they kind of know not to "chat" with me. No it's not that I'm not grateful for my friends there I am....but. Anyway, I'm trying to get stuff done, like read my PMs, do my crossposting of urgent pets in need, etc...and I'm getting interrupted every two minutes or so by someone wanting to "chat". The worse of it, is that when one is over at FB one can see who is on-line over there...something they didn't have before--it gives a whole list of people who are on FB---btw is there anyway one can completely turn that feature off?
I don't mean to be rude, but the whole thing is driving me daft. I can't even sit back and enjoy reading the profile walls of my friends since that dang blasted chat thing alerts me to someone wanting to chat.
Is it just me, or does anyone else find the whole "instant messaging" or "chat" feature plain annoying?
Okay so now I'm being annoyed with the chat feature at FB. Most people I know don't bother with it, and I guess they kind of know not to "chat" with me. No it's not that I'm not grateful for my friends there I am....but. Anyway, I'm trying to get stuff done, like read my PMs, do my crossposting of urgent pets in need, etc...and I'm getting interrupted every two minutes or so by someone wanting to "chat". The worse of it, is that when one is over at FB one can see who is on-line over there...something they didn't have before--it gives a whole list of people who are on FB---btw is there anyway one can completely turn that feature off?
I don't mean to be rude, but the whole thing is driving me daft. I can't even sit back and enjoy reading the profile walls of my friends since that dang blasted chat thing alerts me to someone wanting to chat.
Is it just me, or does anyone else find the whole "instant messaging" or "chat" feature plain annoying?4 people like this
25 responses
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
No. It is not you. It could be that you may not be really interested chatting with those people. I am a chatter but I do have some chatmates who can be quite annoying especially if i am doing my work or reading an article or when i am chatting with someone else. What i can suggest is that you sign in as offline, that way you wont be disturbed and you wont feel obligated to reply to your chatmates.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I just don't care for the whole chat thing regardless of whom it is. Too often I am busy doing other things and to be interrupted all the time is annoying to say the least...like I said, they can always PM or email me. LOL--I just found the means to switch the chat off as off-line on FB
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I don't use that feature because it would annoy me also. When I am on line, I am usually doing something, and don't want to be interrupted by anything. There is only one person I would want to talk to anyway, and I know she is not on line at the same times I am. I think e-mail is a mutch better option. You can respond when you get the time, instead of quitting what you are doing and responding right then. I always see them using IM in movies, and I always think to myself that they must not have anything better to do!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Nov 10
Exactly--if a person wants to "chat" with me, they can either PM me or send an email, then I can answer it when I'm not that busy
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
27 Nov 10
You can set yourself to offline & that won't change unless you change it.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
Okay I'll try that--thanks
thought I did have myself as offline though
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Nov 10
hi pyewacket I hate chat rooms and too a lot aren't monitored so anyonne can didd you and insult you and nobody will 
stop it. I am so glad that mylot does not have a chatroom, its unique and lets keep it that way. I do not use the chat feature in Facebook, in fact I do not do much facebook right now as I am trying to catch up on mylotting for now.
stop it. I am so glad that mylot does not have a chatroom, its unique and lets keep it that way. I do not use the chat feature in Facebook, in fact I do not do much facebook right now as I am trying to catch up on mylotting for now. 2 people like this
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I'm sure glad MyLot doesn't have a chat feature too. Besides one can always PM a person here if need be
Besides one can always PM a person here if need be
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I shurt off ALL chats, including the one at Facebook. I keep the sound off as well, so there were many times I didn't know a message had come in and people thought I was ignoring them. With AIM, it's just annoying to have the damned things popping up when I am trying to get something done. I only use chat when I need to talk to someone right away and I know they're online.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I don't see why the person just doesn't PM me though over there...since she obviously sees I'm over there she could just as well PM me instead
@sheonline27 (69)
•
27 Nov 10
I love to chat but with my closest friends only when I have to check on them, if what was the latest news about them or with other closest friends. But if I am doing something really important, I just simply ignore it and afterwards, I just text them just to say sorry that I have not responded since I am doing something,I am just grateful that they understand.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
The thing is one can accomplish the same thing with a PM or email. I just really find it annoying when I'm busy at the computer..and I always seem to be busy...LOL
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
10 Dec 10
I found how to switch off the chat thing...thank goodness...no more interruptions!
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
6 Dec 10
It's why I don't go to FB. I've turned off Yahoo and MSN...it's just a ruddy intrusion when I'm trying to do other things. I set time limits to do stuff here so that I can do chores in real time as well. If someone interrupts, my whole day's schedule is thrown out.
Incoming phone calls can do it too unless the person at the other end says what has to be said and gets off the phone. Even in the evening when I'm playing here and the other eye is on the TV, a phone call or "ping" sets in place my "@$#%&^! where can I hide" feeling.
I have a friend on FB who is on there all day seven days a week. I can't go there without him popping up saying "Hi".
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
10 Dec 10
Yes chat is an intrusion and chat like phone calls too can really louse up my "schedule" especially if I'm writing an article. Oh, I've since discovered how to turn off chat on FB--thank goodness!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
Well a phone wouldn't always do...this one person who is chatting with me is in Canada, so nope nix the idea of calling them..heck I'm not even much of a phone talker to begin with
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
LOL--well I have one friend down the block (literally) and I prefer to email her--she probably thinks I'm daft for doing that
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@BarBaraPrz (45487)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
27 Nov 10
You're not alone. It is annoying. So is call waiting. Wait yer turn!
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@BarBaraPrz (45487)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
28 Nov 10
If it's a true emergency, the operator can still break in...
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Nov 10
Yeah call waiting is annoying, like sheesh, one call at a time!
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I know what you mean. I don't have that feature cause I dont' want to be bothered most of the time. Email me...this couple word conversation in IM and texting... I HATE IT!!!! I swear..this morning alone...I needed info about size for my GD to buy her some pjs for christmas. It literally went on for 20 minutes, when if my daughter would just talk to me...we'd a been done in about 8!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Nov 10
LOL--that would have been the more logical thing for your daughter to do...to call you rather than text--I think people are obsessed with the whole texting thing
@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
28 Nov 10
Don't EVEN start me on that! Obsessed with texting...you have no idea! My husband is and he is one of those that used to be all angry about pagers..."people are obsessed with those things..can't even sit and eat out without everyones pagers going off..." Now, he has his cell surgically attached to his hand! My daughter is even worse. In a way I hate going with them as we'll be at a resturant and instead of talking to me, they are texting others. While spending any kind of time with them, they are texting others...good grief...what about me? I think if you are with someone, turn the cell off! How rude to be texting others while with someone else!
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Nov 10
I sometime get annoyed but for the most part I enjoy it. I can ex out of the chat on FB. And I can switch to busy on Yahoo. Most people who IM me on there know that when I have the 'busy' option on not to bother me. Or, I IM them back, tell them I am working and to give me afew minutes or however long and I will IM them back. Most of the time if it is someone I want to talk to I use it as a break, talk to them for afew and then get back to it. SOme things I can do while I am am chatting with them. Oh, and IM me anytime! Hehe
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Nov 10
LOL-I just figured out how to block the chat over at FB and make it look like I'm not on-line. It really was a nuisance though, I just wasn't able to get anything done with that chat popping up on me every two minutes--like duh? The person could have PMed me just as well, right?
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Nov 10
And you can't just X out of it? I can work for hours and not even notice that someone has IM'd me on there. Durrr!
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
27 Nov 10
Hey pye~ I don't know anything about FB so can't help you
there. But, on AOL they have a feature to make you "invisible"
so that you have that option to be "seen" or not. That way
if I'm busy on Yahoo, which is where my mylot mail is or if I'm
in the middle of doing something else I don't have to stop
and "chat" if I'm not able to without being rude. Another
reason why I'm not interested in FB~
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
Thankfully I just found out how to make myself "invisible" over at FB. I have my Yahoo Messenger set to invisible too
I'm sure as heck glad I've never bothered with Skype...imagine being in the middle of something on the computer when one suddenly gets an alert and not only can the person "chat" with you but see you as well due to the webcam...sheesh
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I know right? I don't wear much around the place save a large over-sized t-shirt and of course no make up...ekkkkkkk
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
29 Nov 10
Hi Pye, good to hear from you…I don’t like the chat feature in Facebook either. I’ve turned mine off to ‘offline’ so no one bothers me when I go there. I decided to keep it off a few months ago when my aunty who lives in Rome decided to have a chat with me while I was trying to write an article. I’d left my Facebook page open because there was some information there I needed for my piece. I was running behind with my work and here is aunty wanting to ‘talk’! Don’t get me wrong she’s a lovely lady but I just did not have the time for this and she would not go away! I don’t like the idea of anyone knowing when I am on there!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
10 Dec 10
Same here...sometimes I'm working on an article and there's something I had posted or a friend posted that I'm using as a reference then get that "ping" from someone wanting to chat. I've since found how to turn it off....yayyyyyy
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I have all of my IM off including Skype. I have so much work lately, working 9-10 hours a day. Probably the last thing for me is chatting. I don't answer my cell phone at evening. If something argent, people know how to send me short text message.
I think about my parents life in 60's, no phone at all, no car, no TV...maybe better social life....much better...
Oh, did I say how much I miss Mylot?
HUGS
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
What gets me laughing are how people are glued to their cell phones...when I was growing up if one wanted to make a phone call you did so at home...if an emergency and you were out, the public phone..now??
Could you message me and give me your email? I deleted all my contact info on my one email address since it was always getting hacked and the hackers were using my address book to send out spam. I do have your email at another email place but don't know if they are still valid/still use them
Could you message me and give me your email? I deleted all my contact info on my one email address since it was always getting hacked and the hackers were using my address book to send out spam. I do have your email at another email place but don't know if they are still valid/still use them
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I find it annoying too, there are times when I don't feel like chatting with people, I don't want to sound mean, but usually I'm busy doing something, and the chat thing just gets annoying. I don't know if there is a way to turn it off or not, and you can't ignore them because they know your online..ha.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
27 Nov 10
I always seem to be busy on the computer so yes, I do feel it very intrusive to have a chat feature on different websites
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 10
Hi,
I can understand your situation well because it happened to me
sometimes, when I was busy doing some important things at my netbook,then
suddenly the chat screen pop up especially for Facebook Chat.
So what I am doing in order to get my things done properly and I can
concentrate doing my urgent things, I will log off to all those chat rooms.
Only when I am done with my urgent things,then I will login back to
either MSN and facebook.
I hate when I am concentrating writing my paidpost or updating my blog,it means
my mind is concentrating on what I am writing and suddenly I saw another
screen pop up,it is kinda irritating.
But due to certain circumstances whereby I really forget to log off while
I am busy writing my stuffs,then I will just reply back to my friends that I am
busy at this moment and will chat with them later on.
I prefer to concentrate doing my writing,then only I can chat freely with
my friends later.
To me, as long as I know how to handle my things well and manage my time, I
will be able to complete my things on time.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Nov 10
I'm like that too. I really need to concentrate on my writing or reading articles for background info on articles I plan to write, so I just can't be bothered with a chat thing cropping up all the time...oh, I finally figured out HOW to switch off the chat in FB--thank goodness!
@preppydezza (309)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
Its annoying if the one tries chatting you are the people you does not like to chat with. I'm ok with it. I try the best I can to ignore it. Chatting sometimes slows whatever you do. Most of the people I know, go offline or invisible so people would not chat them. Try using them too. ;)
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Nov 10
I only just now figured out how to turn of the chat feature at FB--thank goodness
@fl0rencia (414)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
When I have something to do and I know it would make me busy I don't go online. Why don't you do the same thing? Why do you still sign on on ym if you don't want to be disturbed? But if you really want to be on ym and don't want to be disturbed, then you can go invisible so no one could see that your online and they won't disturbed you. Or you could have the 'busy' on your messenger status. Or you could be more specific saying, 'I'm busy don't om me'. And on facebook, you can go offline in chatting. You won't be able to see who's online but no one's ever gonna bother you. Hope that would solve your problem. When I go online on chatting services like facebook chat or yahoo messenger it means I want to chat with my friends.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Nov 10
It's not my Yahoo messenger I'm talking about...I've had that switched off for years...I'm talking about the chat feature they have on FB--did finally figure out how to switch that off though
@fayetisha (15)
•
28 Nov 10
a also hate chatting. so i'll always set my chat offline so that no can disturb me
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
10 Dec 10
LOL--from the responses to my discussion it looks like a lot of people hate the chat feature
