Life became too short for my cousin's Husband

Bangalore, India
November 27, 2010 8:33am CST
Hi Friends.. Sorry to share this bad News with you all but I cant control sharing with you all after seeing my Cousin's life.. few days back my Cousin's husband expired..here the tragedy of this story goes.. he got an accident while coming home from far place.. many of his friends got hurt and took treatment after accident.. but for him it was very little wound which was done first aid for his leg and was ok.. so he came home around 3 am and talked to his mom and wife and slept.. Next day morning he got up little late and talked to his mom, wife and granny and took bath and had break fast and once my cousin and his mother left to work he was watching TV and talking to granny after some time he given lunch to granny and said he will relax for some time and slept around 12.. granny is too old she cant climb stairs to wake him up.. but when my cousin came home around 5.30 evening she came an hour and half early since he dint pick her call.. to her shock he was already dead on the bed.. when she got afraid and took to doctor they said her he is no more.. Now she is really shocked and I dont know how to convince her this time.. and I am feeling very pity for her.. and the day i heard this News I am always thinking about her how she took this shock.. So friends please help me to talk to her and convince her to take this and go ahead in life.. she is very close to me and we used to speak tons and now I dont know what to speak to her..
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5 responses
• India
28 Nov 10
She needs someone with her to take care of her and speak to her. She wanted to cry and tell all to the near and dear ones, so please dont stop speaking to her. This is the time when she needs some support, so please make an effort to speak to her. She may be relieved when you speak to her you know.
• Bangalore, India
28 Nov 10
Hi ganeshprabhu you are right but the problem is I dont know how to speak to her in this situation.. I feel she might take wrong or something remind her husband and make her feel hurted..
@1hopefulman (18690)
• Canada
30 Nov 10
You don't have to speak to her, just by your presence let her know that you care. She is still in shock and can't understand what just happened. Put your arms around her if she permits. Don't let her suffer alone. take care of some of her chores. Prepare some food or anything that needs doing. Just do it.
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• Bangalore, India
30 Nov 10
Hi hopefulman.. Thanks for your suggestions..
@buenavida (7518)
• Sweden
30 Nov 10
This is sad news, and I understand how difficult it must be for you to know what is best to say or do - or what not to say. One thing that worked for one of my friends, who lost her husband, was that she, after some time had passed, started to talk about him, and mentioned his name when she told about memories she had. It helped her a lot. But this may be a good thing to do after some time has passed. I found a great article about how others can help in a case like this. http://www.watchtower.org/e/we/article_04.htm The most important thing is that you are there when she wants to talk, and listen. [b]"A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity." [/b] Proverbs 17:17 (New International Version, ©2010) I sent a prayer for all that are affected from this tragic event.
• Bangalore, India
2 Dec 10
Hi friend.. Thanks for the link.. I will check it out..
• China
27 Nov 10
This is a sad story. I believe all his families and friends will feel sad about it. God bless him and make him rest.
@eshaan (6193)
• India
27 Nov 10
Its very sad to know that...its very touching too...may God give her strength this is all what i can say...i am too bad at words when it comes to consoling someone..so i can't help you much with what to speak to her...i just can pray for her to God...
• Bangalore, India
27 Nov 10
Hi eshaan.. I am also like you.. so I am thinking what or how to talk with her.. even I am praying for her.. Thanks for your prayer dear..
@vjsinduja (1035)
• Sri Lanka
27 Nov 10
He got saved from the accident itself, but God didn't like that I think . He wanted your cousin's husband.That's y , he has taken him from her. Actually no can say any thing and convince her at this stage. With time she will come out of it. How much ever we speak to her in a consoling way.. no one can experience what she is going through and she cannot be convinced. Only time will help her regain from her sorrow. All what you can do is, be with her. Be like a pillar to her.. help her in the ways you can. Even if she hurts you by any means. don't take it too serious as you know what kind of a situation she is going through.. If she has kids.. Take care of them as well.. Time will heal her pain n sorrows
• Bangalore, India
27 Nov 10
Hi vjsinduja.. Yes may be god wanted to take hiim away from her this soon.. Thanks for your suggestions friend.. Yes I know her situation now but I feel so hurted seeing her in that condition.. She doesnt have kids.. Hope she will recover soon from this shock and go ahead in her life..