What is your reaction if someone assumes that you stupid?

@gengeni (3308)
Indonesia
December 5, 2010 9:54pm CST
"Stupid" is a word we often hear or say. What is stupid? Is there really people that stupid? Did you ever say "stupid" by others or even just someone attach the label "stupid" to others. Whenever the words "Stupid" was spoken? Is it true that the words "stupid" unspoken when someone can not do anything as expected? My question is, when someone can not do something like hope, if we ever find out why he could not do that? Lest he could not do that because he did not know how. Lest he could not do that because he did not have the confidence to do it. If he is given the knowledge, skills and motivation to do it, chances are he will be able to perform as expected. If after being given the knowledge, skills and motivation, it turns out he still can not do something in line with expectations, whether now we can give the label "stupid" to that person? To answer this, I want to ask again, what we've tried various ways to incorporate the knowledge, skills and motivation to that person? Did you ever read the story of Helen Keller? A blind girl but have extraordinary capabilities. And when Helen was a kid, almost everyone pessimistic about the future of Helen. But because his teacher is Mrs. effort. Sullivan tireless trying different ways to teach Helen to read, then be like a remembered Helen today. Had Mrs. Sullivan stopped trying different ways to teach Helen to read, then Helen would only be a blind girl who "Stupid". From this thought, it can be said that the "Stupid" is the bad gift that we give to someone because we are no longer willing to try to help him. Do we ever realize that giving the label "stupid" would hurt the image of someone who will make his life becomes even more difficult. Do we ever realize that giving the label "stupid" will kill a person slowly mental. Now we turn to business. How do you view your employees or subordinates? Have you ever been angry and threw the words "stupid" to one's self? Whether by giving the word "stupid" will you help him to better work? What you really want is for it to work properly, then why do we have to hurt the image of himself that in fact will actually make him worse in the works. This discussion just about the word "stupid", but in this life how many words we use to shoot one's self-image, making him become mentally paralyzed. Negative words such as "You are a weak, incompetent you work, you lazy people, you people who are always fighting, and so on.", Which go so much in a person can make a person do not work as expected. If we want them to change, we need to fix back their self-image. Removing all their mental shackles, so they feel the freedom and to work optimally.
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10 responses
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
7 Dec 10
Nice discussion ........ see I agree with you saying abusive words like stupid rascle is very easy but I think hurting others in anyways is a sin , and is not right way to tackle someone who is bit less in knowledge or other trait its better to guide someone who is unable to something rather than scolding him or her ........... Hare Krishna Ganesh
• United States
7 Dec 10
I think what matters is what you think of yourself. If you think and believe that you are good and that you are okay, you should not worry about what others think. Because most of the time we are what we think we are, if we think good we are good and we do good, and that is all it matters. And the other thing we should stop thinking is that we need to stop expecting everyone to like us and/or to give us good regards about us, that is wrong. But again this is my opinion.
@jennbart (1333)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
I prove them wrong. No need to be hysterical about it. Just prove to them you are not what they think they are. Make them eat their words..
@kiran8 (15361)
• Mangalore, India
6 Dec 10
First of all , I feel that people cannot be perfect or brilliant in every field and aspect of life. We have certain skills which we excel at and some we may be able to just manage and some we may not be able to. But that doesn't make anyone stupid.I feel that calling any individual stupid is a general term, being used randomly by people, like calling someone a fool or mad - doesn't really mean anything much except venting out our feelings for that minute...
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
6 Dec 10
It is degrading, insulting and rather frustrating when you find that someone thinks you are stupid. It makes you to stop to wonder why they would think i was so lacking in intelligence. if anything, this would make me angry. i would do everything within my power to prove them wrong.
@I_LUV_U (2519)
• India
6 Dec 10
'Stupid' is an overstatement people resort to either due to their inadequate vocabularies or narrowness to condone; we all have fallible personalities and just an aberrant blooper shouldn't amount to someone being termed stupid or obnoxious. Anyhow even if someone assumes me stupid, they sure won't be audacious or stupid enough to let me know of it - so it will seldom matter if somebody does think of it. And in case somehow the assumption gets divulged and falls on my ears, it would serve as an alarm to refurbish my ways of dealing with them.
@Elixiress (3893)
6 Dec 10
If someone says that I am stupid then they are probably right, they have probably witnessed me doing something stupid. The other day I put food in the oven, turned on the oven but didn't turn on the temperature, when I went to take the food out 15 minutes later I wondered why it wasn't cooking until I realised my mistake ... if someone had witnessed that then I wouldn't blame them for calling me stupid because I did something stupid.
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
I would really felt bad and I probably get angry if I will be called with that stupid word. Good thing no one is brave enough to say that to my face or else things will really turn nasty so better they watch what come out with their mouths. However, if I done something really stupid maybe I really deserve it after all. I can accept the words but they must say to it in some kind of a joke way or else It will easily get me red in my face and I might do something to the one who says it. Stupid is one word I don't like anybody to call me.
@Qaeyious (2362)
• United States
6 Dec 10
Using that label on another person is what an immature person would do. That reflects more on their defect than the victim's, either subordinate or supervisor, or stranger on the street. There are much better ways of communicating. And in my last job if I did something like that I would have a talking to. Now there have been times when I use that label on myself if I wasn't paying attention and did something, well, stupid yes, it is better for me to just learn the lesson and go on but sometimes it seems to be true you can't teach an old dog new tricks, as the saying goes over here. No, not really stupid. Just human.
@natnickeep (2340)
• United States
6 Dec 10
I don't think anyone is stupid because they can't learn something or do something as well as someone else. I think stupid is someone who refuses to try or uses their gifts to hurt others or take advantage of others. I haven't been labled as stupid that I am aware of. And if someone thought I was they must of misunderstood my intentions. The people who are important to me in my life don't think I am so that is all that matters. And I have read the story of Helen Keller..she was not stupid at all.