What Do You Do When You Are Angry?

Philippines
December 12, 2010 9:06am CST
I am just curious how other people deal with anger. I am a very irritable person, small things pisses me off, I am really ill - tempered...but that doesn't mean, I am that tough because when I get so mad, I cry a lot...when I feel down, I cry and I don't know how to keep myself from crying...i see people dealing with problems, but they don't cry, I wish I can be just like them. When I am angry, I want to shout and I want to hurt somebody but I don't do it actually, its all in my mind, but if I will be given a chance, I might be able to hurt him/her...:)... I want also to say bad words to the person who wronged me, but I can't do it because I know I will be doing it at the peak of my anger and I don't want to regret hurting somebody with what I am capable of saying when I am mad...So what I do Is, go to my room, shout in a very low voice, you get what I mean? I can only hear myself yelling, saying bad words and crying all the pain and the anger until I get tired and sometimes I fall asleep, but this really makes me sick because I will surely have a bad headache when I wake up...How about you? What do you do when your really pissed off?
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@vicozzio (45)
• Indonesia
12 Dec 10
Hmmm, you are really similar to my GF... she cries alot... when happy, when angry, when confuse... for me, when I got angry.. usually I go silent.. no one can talk to me.. I just go silent.. take a deep breath, thinking of positive things from what makes me angry, and pray... Then.. it will gone by itself..
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• Philippines
12 Dec 10
...hehe, glad that I am not the only cry baby in this world...lol...you are like my husband as well...:)
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• Indonesia
13 Dec 10
Really? then I hope me and my GF could be a great couple like you and your husband.. Hehehe :D I think we should always remember and implement "To forgive and forget" in our life.. I don't know if that would make every anger cool down ^_^
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
I am not a hot tempered person. But my bf does. And every time he gets mad, I would always pacify him and tell him to breath and drink water. It is fine to cry when you get mad because it is one way of releasing it than hitting someone or something. If you feel you are pissed off and angry, take a deep breath and try to avoid argument or quarrel by turning your back right away and drink water. When your mad and you have uttered some unpleasant words, and the person you have said those words answered back, then avoid not to reply anymore because it will be useless.
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• Philippines
12 Dec 10
you are right...the problem will just get worse...:( the more u keep saying things, the more that it hurts...but sometimes i cant control myself...huhu:(
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@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
just cry it out my friend. When you have calmed down, that's when you take a time to discuss it out. Not when you are in an anger mode.
@aodoerfer (113)
• United States
12 Dec 10
Going somewhere where no one can hear me and just screaming really helps me calm down when I'm angry. I think it's good to let those emotions out, however briefly. I feel better, and I'd certainly rather scream at nothing then take my emotions out on someone else. Yelling while taking a shower is especially nice since the warm water is very relaxing.
• Philippines
14 Dec 10
im going to try that shower thing! lol...i think it will help thanks
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I really do try and walk away from the situation. Anger is really not healthy a lot of the time and just taking some time to cool off is going to be for the best. So I need to get away from the thing that is making me angry. Whether is just leaving the place or going to another end of the room. There needs to be some time for my mind to get cooled down and get ready to move on with my day. Taking a deep breath and just thinking about things is the best way to deal with my anger. There are going to situations that really irritate me, get me upset, are a mild annoyance and that is just something to deal with. However, it does need to lead for a little time for me to deal with my anger. That way, I can relax my mind and go off to think on the situation logically. It is amazing how something like that can be defused with such a simple solution.
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• Philippines
12 Dec 10
thanks., i'll try to do what you do...hope it works for me...maybe it will, but i will still cry...do you know how not to cry?...lol
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@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
hi chelzeea, yes, i always deal with anger, coz if im angry with someone, anyone will affected, so if i feel that i am angry, i will close my eyes,and think some happy experienced i had, then open my eyes, and exhale. sometimes i go to rest room and shout out loud to release my angry feelings.
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• Philippines
12 Dec 10
lol...rest room blues! i did it once when i was in college and i got really mad with somebody,,,too bad, there was someone in the rest room that i failed to notice...lol shame on me, but i didnt really care at all, i was so pissed off that time...:)
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@joystick (1680)
12 Dec 10
When i am angry i tend to go and shut myself off out of the way from people as i find this is the easiest way to deal with my anger.I do find that if something has been biting at you for sometime it is better to tell the person who has upset you or made you mad, rather than keeping it to yourself and then exploding.If a friend of mine gets angry her bp go up, then she turns red like she is having a hot flush and then sometimes she ends up being sick, so now she is learning not to get mad.
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• Philippines
12 Dec 10
nah, i would never talk to the person responsible for my anger personally when i am still mad at him...maybe when im cool...hehe:) about your friend, thats scary...she should really avoid getting angry at all...
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@maezee (32248)
• United States
12 Dec 10
When I'm angry or frustrated, I like to rant or vent about it - in writing or to people, coworkers, friends, family - whoever, pretty much. LOL. But I rarely get violent and I rarely snap - unless someone REALLY pisses me off! LOL!
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• United States
12 Dec 10
When I get mad I start to feel like people are doing me wrong. if it is my falut I will not get so upset. But,let someone bother me and push my buttons I will tear something up. I am so tired of being mad to be honest. My daughter and I were doing great till she hooked up with this loser. Then she started shaking up with him and I let her be so she would not cause me to lose my apartment. So now she is home and slept with me.
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@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
when i get really angry (and that seldom happens, lol), i go for a walk--to a beach or a mall--and try to keep my mind off the crazy thing/somebody that made angry. sometimes, i'd write it down. venting off helps to calm my nerves and soothes my mind. sometimes, i'd have my favorite chocolate ice cream as a means to pamper myself a bit. these things may not work for some people, but they do for me. i'm not the type who would scream or get physical when i'm angry, i just try keep diverted for a few hours. talking with a good friend also helps, though i try to avoid as much as i can coz i don't like to burden other people with my own troubles, lol.
• Philippines
14 Dec 10
the mall and shopping will really divert your attention but the beach i think makes one sadder and lonelier
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
16 Dec 10
i am shouting and screaming. i need it to take the stress out. it is dangerous if we just keep the anger inside. so better shout it out loud than keep it inside. it feels like bomb that can explode anytime if we just keep it
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
13 Dec 10
I like to just walk away and be by myself for a while. that is usually the best course of action for me to take. that way i will not say or do something out of anger that i will regret.
@sy0712 (156)
• China
13 Dec 10
I am also a person whose personality is urgent.Whether do what thing hope can quickly finish,and that has made me become a grumpy,temper easily.But I,this person,temper easy come,easy go,needn't do what,before long I will automatically give it to the forget and,perhaps because I hasn't a very good memory,the unhappy things easily forgotten.
@Leoheart (11)
• Singapore
13 Dec 10
Sleep it off. Write about it.Simple things for a simple person.
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
My own methods for anger or irritation is usually classified under two types - the free activities and the activities that involved money or spending money. My free activities is usually shutting myself from people, giving snide remarks, reading or re-reading books, window shopping,being a couch potato or surfing the internet. My money related activities usually involved shopping (books, mostly), going to the arcade to find a substitute to release my anger, exercising at the gym, and joyriding. In your description, I pretty much do the same things but sometimes I feel that they are person who deserve a good thwack from me. I don't claim that I will resort to violence every time but I feel that I don't deserve to be burdened by pain, frustration that other people brought before me.
• Singapore
13 Dec 10
When I get angry, I'll really lose control sometimes. But at times, I'll just keep quiet and look at my computer.
@ellyse2003 (1465)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
When I'm angry, I make myself busy and try to forget what had happened. In that way I can make myself calm a little don't just try to talk to me and ask about the problem. I want to be very careful about talking to other people because I might say something that might hurt them. And lastly, I play games on my computer to ease the heat of anger out of me, I also put on my radio while playing to help the anger subside.