Girls - If A guy is a virgin is it a turn off?
December 17, 2010 8:40pm CST
So just like the subject asks. Is it a turn off if a guy is a virgin. What if the guy is in his mid 20s? Why is it a turn off? The way society (American society) holds double standards for purity in guys, and girls is what makes this such an interesting question. Why is it okay (even sought after) for a girl to be a virgin, but not a guy. I had brought this question up to a few girls I know, but don't really think I got an honest opinion. I think they gave me the opinion of what they thought they should say instead of what they really thought. So honestly - is it okay for a guy to be a virgin - even if he's in his mid to late 20s?
• United States
18 Dec 10
Honestly, I find it a turn on if a guy is a virgin, however, I haven't met many - or at least many that would admit that they were virgins. I think that the guys are afraid to admit that they are. For example, I am...well...experienced, and my boyfriend who I have been with now for two years was a virgin until me. He was 22 when he lost his virginity. Personally, I think the attraction is that they aren't like all the other guys who like to boast about sleeping with tons of girls as though they are nothing more than objects. Now, with that said, as sad as it may be, if a guy was in his 30's and he was still a virgin, without being highly religious, I might not find that attractive as my mind would start to wonder what's wrong with him....lol...Not right, but that's my opinion. :) Thanks for the discussion!
• United States
18 Dec 10
You bring up a really, really good point that I've never thought about before! It's totally true, and there are opposite standards for women and men. (or guys and girls, shall I say). A lot of men LOVE the fact that the girl is a virgin - they can't get enough of it! Whereas rarely do you hear anyone raving about a guy who's a virgin. It's weird. I think a lot of girls don't like when guys are virgins because they're afraid that the guys won't *perform* as well. But because unfortunately for women (or fortunately? I don't know which lol), it seems like a lot of the time (at least with missionary) women pretty much do nothing, whereas guys put in all the footwork (shall we say). I wouldn't judge a guy who's a virgin at 20+. If he's doing it for the right reasons, I might even find it commendable. (OF course if it's just because he hasn't been able to get any - that may be different lol). But morally wise, good for them, if they're waiting for the right person to share their first experience with!
19 Dec 10
Hmmm why would it be a turn off if the guy is a virgin especially if they are at mid 20's. It is not a problem for me at all, anyone can learn to be good and expert after all. First time is of course cannot always be as what we expected to be, but that is because it is a first time isn't it? It is just okay and normal for me. Thanks for sharing and have a nice day