Can't let go

Philippines
December 18, 2010 9:39pm CST
There's this girl that's been bugging me lately. I don't really find it irritating nor do I hate her but she's been bugging me a few days after I had attended her birthday party. She and I had a history. It had been possible that a relationship could have grown between us if I had pursued it even further but due to the fact I didn't is that she was able to find a guy who really cares for her. But the problem is that just not long ago, she told me that she still harbors feelings for me. It's not that I don't like her but I just didn't think its best to continue what was started 3 years ago. It's been a really long time and I kind of found someone whom I really like. Not to mention that she already has a boyfriend. A friend of mine has been bugging me that I should take her offer since she's not really your average type of girl but I keep refusing. I really hope she finds her happiness though other than being with me. Oh and we're still friends though but I'm kinda evading her as of late until her feeling for me fades away. Is this the right thing to do?
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4 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
19 Dec 10
Well, Darknessfalls, the way I see it is that she is with this guy and she is trying to get with you. That kind of says a lot about her as a person. Do you want a girlfriend who could be with you and out looking to be with another guy? I would run from it but it's all about what you want in a relationship. This is one of those things that you really have to follow thru with what it is YOU want. You'll either be happy with your choice or learn a serious life-lesson.
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
You should have COMPLETELY avoided her from the day that you have decided to brush her OFF your life. It takes two to tango, you were not the only who were involved, you should have been more considerate about her feelings. Well I guess you were just coward and didn't have the ability to handle her so you just decided to leave her all of a sudden and left her hanging and waiting with the hopes and maybes that you gave her. And for the record neither she was the one who told herself that you're gonna keep her forever.. That you're leaving her only temporarily.. That infamous line "Why tell her you love her if you're gonna leave her?" nor offered herself that so-called "friendship" and company of yours. If you think that she can't let you go, come on she already has a boyfriend, it doesn't really mean that the girl's confession of her feelings is similar to love. I am quite sure that her confessed feelings were just the result of you did 3 years ago, you left her wondering and wandering.. It is like she was running on a racetrack then suddenly you just wanted to remove the FINISH line, so you did. And her, she never knew when to stop running, however it is also possible that she was able to withhold her run, and just continued running somewhere else. Moreover you cannot remove the puzzlement she feels every time you're giving her the opportunity to pass by on that good ole racetrack. As you have said she's not your average girl, that gives me the impression that she would not just pick a dog to become your replacement, she waited for you for the longest time anyway.
@pwang41 (134)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
if you don't feel anything for her anymore, you shouldn't give in to her advances. because if you do , it would just give her the impression that you felt something for her. you shouldn't listen to your friends. you should also need to confront her. tell her honestly how you feel.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 10
I think you should just be honest to her that you have found someone else you like and try to make her understand that she is in a relationship with someone else too. Otherwise you will leave her wondering and puzzling if you just ignore her just like that without an explanation. It would be best for her to know the truth. Good luck and have a nice day
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
As you are a man, I believe that it's really good for you to avoid her as of now because she has a boyfriend and you are interested in somebody else. If you still allow yourself to be closer to her, she might think that there's still a chance between the two of you, and believe me because I am a woman too and I've been through the same. Focus on that person that you are interested in and try to keep away from that friend of yours until she realizes that there's no chance between the two of you.