Is nice mean allowing people taking advantage of you easily?

It is true that some people take advantage of people who are kind, and nice and generally have a giving heart. I think most of the time, the people who are being nice will be rewarded for their kindness in different ways and different times. I think the best defense against these people is to have a good offense. II don't think I have to be mean, I just have to be "firm" in my convictions and state my thoughts in a very direct way.

Being nice is just a great characteristic people can have. A friend of mine would seriously do nearly anything for his friends, and so some people try to take advantage of this fact. He's just not really good at saying no, we try to tell him to, but it's not in his nature. So yeah, being nice is nothing but a good thing, but you do wanna make your own decisions and have your own opinion.

Being at all times is good but can be annoying if overdone. One can't be truly nice all the time. Normally we get pissed off by someone or something and when you still maintain your being cool or nice in spite of the bad situation, then people can get annoyed because of this.

Being nice is a hard thing to do. Why? Because people around you would seem to be a constant constraint of being such. Yes, it's true, if you play the Mr. Nice Guy's role, you'd end up being abused for being nice at all times. Just don't try to be nice at all times, act firmly at times, and well, give some discipline for abusers.

yeah, when i don't wanna do something someone wants, they start saying 'oh yeah i should've known you won't do things for your friends', many just come to me cause they know i give, i do, i say, when they won't. it's not alright.. but is not like i can change it, ya know. if i am built this way, than that's that. i don't make a big deal out of it, cause i like helping and after all when you help you don't want something in exchange.

I agree with you. Most people will take advantage of those who are nice and good. The nice people gives anything to other people. They should fight back. They should learn to say no to other people who wants something from them.

Yes, being nice is generally a red flag for all people to take advantage of that man. But that is why they are nice people - they like to help. But it's hard of course. And really nice people are rare. Many are nice only to those who they think can otherwise harm them, or from whom they can profit. Sometimes the same thing at the end of day, you help them, in return you get into their good graces. In all my life I met only one girl whom I will call nice. There were others, who pretended and whom everyone called nice. They were ready to help at the moments notice, but I noticed, they didn't help the once who really needed that help. They were really extra nice to nasty people, I guess this was their way to make sure that they will no be harmed. Nice doesn't mean you show everyone what a nice person you are. Nice mean helping silently, without waiting for some gain from that help. This only girl that I was talking about - She was working in three jobs, and still had a pleasant character. I learnt that she had taken home some girl from distant village who had gotten pregnant and her mother had tossed her out. The pregnant girl wasn't her relative, she had just met her in passing, learnt about her situation and offer her help. And even then I learnt about that because she was asking advise about what she can do - the girl's mother had heard about this and now was coming to their home and requesting money so she will allow to put that child for adoption. The pregnant girl was 16 year old, totally unprepared for world, and this nice person found even adoptive parent's for a child. Not a orphanage but parents who will look good after the child. That is what I call nice person, she wasn't even leaving alone, she was leaving with her mother , sister and brother, not much place to leave in 3 room apartment. And she took in stranger 16 year pregnant girl with such problems. Why I am telling all this - really nice people will know whom to help, because they will do it for the one who needs that help. If they are helping by some other reason, they are probably weak, not nice. Or they seek some profit by being "nice". Maybe I am just to harsh, but that is my opinion.

Sometimes being nice isn't giving them anything they want. Nice is doing what is best for them. Sometimes loaning money to friends doesn't work out. People who have problems that require them to borrow money can also have problems paying it back. Does that mean one should never help out a friend with money? No, just have a clear picture of everything going in. You know, we all lose money for all kinds of reasons in our lives. You must decide whether that money is more valuable than your friend or your generous nature. Will you allow this to change who you really are??? You not only helped out a friend, you gave someone the great opportunity to be trustworthy. Are you really so bad after all???? I don't see it.

Being nice is different from being gullible and there's a fine line between them. I'm nice when people are nice to me but when it's starting to get out of hand, i start to change my attitude.

i totally agree with you. you should be careful of the people around you. being nice is a good thing but when people starts to abuse you then you have a problem. it is best to know the limit of being just nice being a fool.

yes,I agree with this. I have been so nice that people already takes advantage of me. But then, I had gotten tired of this as I always gets bullied and they take advantage of me so I stopped being thee nice one all the time. I would show " fangs" sometimes already.