How to: Overcome Jealousy ?

I used to have serious jealousy problems not too long ago. I've completely overcome it, don't think there's any jealousy left in me.. I think the problem was that he had a job and a life, and was really busy with college and things. He would go to clubs and stuff. I am not in college so I didn't have a very busy life. I didn't go out very much, nor did I trust him very much. I was jealous of his life and every girl who he would talk to. Now tables have turned, I'm in school full time and working like 30 hours a week. I have met so many new people, I'm having to go to Birthday parties and stuff like every weekend. But the thing is, now me and him are on the same page. I used to think there was no way he really cared about me when he's always somewhere else with someone else.. You just have to put yourself in their shoes. If you know they love you and you're sure of your relationship, what do you have to be jealous of? They're all yours and only yours!

jEALOUSLY IS SOMETHING EVERYONE EXPERIENCES. It is a hard thing to overcome. It absolutely eats some folks up. Noone can stop u for being that way , u have to do it yourself & sadly some people never do. Merry Christmas.

Insecurity Leads to Jealousy. Jealousy is sometime very Useful and sometimes it becomes very bad. I like it a lot when my Girlfriend used to become Jealous or show Possessiveness towards me. I felt very good and I like it a lot when she did it. This is the positive way of Jealousy it makes you feel bad. But excess of Jealousy can sometimes cause a lot of Problems like your Gf may stop you from Interacting with other people. My Friend was in a relationship with a girl and they had a commitment between them that they won't speak to other guys or Girls. I was very shocked to hear that and I totally Dis-agreed their point.

Hi destiny, Jealousy flares up when one partner feels insecure or threatened either by a real or an imagined threat. It is oftentimes considered normal to feel a little bit of jealousy over something real. Jealousy in small doses is pretty normal as it results from your feeling of inadequacy when compared to someone or something better. For instance, you may have that feeling when a good-looking woman (or man) comes up to your partner. This situation may sometimes bring self-esteem issues to the fore. However, when you assume something more than what seems to be only a passing acquaintance, then you're in danger of feeding your distrust and paranoia and may ultimately lead you to extreme fits of jealousy. In order to successfully keep the jealousy monster under control you have to search your feelings to try and find out the underlying cause of your jealousy. When your partner looks at another, do you feel that you're going to lose him/her? Do you believe that he's devoting too much time to another instead of you? When you ask yourself these questions, you will be able to determine the intensity of your jealousy and realize that if you're behaving irrationally then the problem might lie with you. Sometimes, it's simply your perception of yourself that seems to be the problem. If you constantly find something wrong with yourself every time that you look in a mirror, then it may be time to correct it. Sometimes, a simple change like a haircut, or a change in wardrobe may be the solution. If you feel the need to alter your appearance through modern cosmetic surgery, then go for it, as long as you believe that doing so may boost your self-esteem and give you back your self-confidence. The key here is to change the way you view yourself in your mind.

hello destinybattlefield, TRUST! that is the main thing that you should base. you have to trust your friend, and yourself. you have to shelve your insecurities. your eagerness to come out the winner or the much better person is the key. merry merry christmas to you and your family. ann

It is important to know our own limitations.

I did have big issues with jealousy with a friend who I had a crush on like over 10 years ago! What I tried,like therapy,it didn't work! So-called friends would tell me to just knock it off with the crush! They were b*tches and they did not help me out at all! This crush lasted a few years and nothing I did helped! He was dating a woman we both worked with. It wasn't long before they started living together. They did finally got married after living together for a few years. I got off track there! Time was the only thing that helped me! Maybe it lasted to long but I never been through anything like this before! I was getting bad advice and no help when I needed it! I got so frustrated and knew it had to stop! Beleive me I tried and I tried to deal with it! I did some really stupid stuff because of my jealousy that I did regret big time! What advice I would is let time takes its cours! Don't let anyone put you down and don't listen to any b^tches either! That is what I have to say.

I think, if we can , we should stop comparing ourselves, but it's not always an easy thing to do. I learned of this quote "I don't get jealous, I get even" and I think that would be the 'cure'. Just do what you want in life and then you won't have regrets and you'll just confidence.

Per say comparing yourself with others is not bad. There would be no progress if you did not see the difference between you and someone successful. It is when you feel you are inferior that the trouble starts. You compare and resolve to better yourself and become equal to the person who you have compared with. That is the way. Once you go on this road you can never be jealous simply because you will not have time for it!

hi, i think that is my disease,having an attitude of jealous, i dont know how to avoid this or even to control, so i can reduce that feelings, but sometimes i tried to overcome it by patience and understanding. i think its the best to overcome a jealous.

comparing what you to what others have is a good way to make yourself miserable. so just be content of what you have, double your effort to achieve what you want and always pray to God to avoid being jealous to others.

Jealousy can be easily overcome by strengthening and training our minds. The strength to overcome this petty emotion can come from religion. We are taught that no two people in this world is the same. No two occurrences for people would be same too. If we accept this and not promote equality we would definitely be happy since no matter how much we try to promote equality between everything and everyone the more different and jealous they end up being.

i believe the best way to overcome jelousy is to think of all the ways that you are better than the person that you are jelous of as this will relieve stress and make you realise that you are a better person for not being jelous of them and that they should be jelous of you!x