Do you dare to tell people that you want to get rich?

@scheng1 (24650)
Singapore
December 24, 2010 8:51am CST
When questions such as: what is your goal in life? What do you want out of life? are asked of you, do you dare to say that you want to get rich? Most of us do want to get rich. However, many of us do not dare to tell others so openly. We are still mindful of what others think. If you are in a religious meeting, and you tell everyone that you want to get rich. You are likely to get scornful looks from those around you. They will think that you are too materialistic, not spiritual minded, even though they admire you for speaking your mind. The real question is: do you dare to tell others that you want to get rich? Do you feel the need to justify your desire?
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19 responses
• United States
24 Dec 10
If I did want to be rich, I would be embarrassed to admit that to people. There is usually a reason that the saying "I want to get rich!" is looked at oddly from society. Personally, I am far from rich. Yet, I am happy. I love my life because it is full of beautiful people, friends, hobbies and interests. Because of some career choices I made in my early teens, I now am building retirement while only making $35,000 per year (my husband's salary included). I am far from rich, but I am more content than most people I know. I've never understood this worldwide view that being rich automatically solves your problems. It doesn't. Trust me; I grew up in a very well off family and thus knew many others as acquaintances. Once you get a certain amount of money, you want more. And more. And more. Before you know it, your short life has passed below your feet while you were standing still, worrying about money while the true things in life--friends, joy, fun, morals, love, causes--are gone from you. I'm not here to tell you that you're wrong for wanting to be rich. That is your choice. But I seriously urge you to consider the true value of life. Money burns, but love and passion for people and causes and interests is forever. Wanting enough money to be content is highly admirable, but anything more than that usually causes stares because people either doubt or pity the person expressing this desire. Money doesn't keep you company, and the things it can buy cannot keep your human mind at ease. If you want the best things in life, don't get rich. They are free, and you may already have some waiting for you. Don't pass them by for useless money.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Lovinglife, I agree that most people in the society frown on those who want to get rich, even if the goal of getting rich is just a goal in life. The other important goals central on career, family and friends. Some people want to get rich for the sake of gaining a prominence position in the society. Some people want to get rich because they love money. Actually this group of persons are relatively rare. Actually the desire to get rich does not mean a person is not contented with life. It just that people need something to live for, even when they are very happy and have everything they want. Most people work hard to get rich for the sake of their children. This is especially true in Asian societies. The culture in Asian societies is for parents to leave behind inheritance to their children, and for children to take care of parents, grandparents and other elderly relatives. That is personally my reason for getting rich. Rich people can help more people, and they can afford to volunteer all their time for the betterment of human beings.
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• United States
26 Dec 10
See, now out of all the responses in the world you could have given me, I didn't expect that. I admire that you are thinking ahead in terms of preparing for the well being of your children. My husband and I are childless by choice (child-free), so besides building retirement and paying the bills, there simply aren't any reasons for us to stress about having more money. Besides, in America, after the children are adults it isn't expected that the parents help them out financially. In most cases, caring parents DO help out, but adult children are expected to go about their way. It's beautiful to hear about how cultures can be so different! I am happy to hear your reasons for financial abundance aren't as selfish or saddening as I had first thought.
@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
24 Dec 10
Yes! And i also tell them why.
@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
26 Dec 10
Oh, it wasn't long ago that I was like that. But then I noticed that there isn't such thing as humanitarian operations without lots and lots of money. So why should I be going after other people's money for "donations" instead of making my own to finance them.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi ParaTed, that is very courageous. Some people dare to admit their desires to get rich among their peers, because everyone thinks the same way. However, once they are in front of the elders and religious teachers, they do not dare to admit to their desires for more money.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
25 Dec 10
If you want to get rich in life you should not feel the need to justify what you want. You want what you want. If you truly want something you will talk about it in a manner everyone will know what you want, and understand why you want it. If you hope to obtain something in life you should have the confidence to tell everyone that that is what you want and you are going to get it. It is like the commercial just do it. No need in explaining it, actions will show what you want. There is a right time and place to say what you want and a little etiquette of how to say it. Don't ask me how, my etiquette usually lacks. lol
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
I think it actually depends on who is listening. If it is a formal and you don't know the people who are there, I think it is not right to be announcing your secret wish. It all depends on who's listening. Things like this can only be shared with those who are really close to you, although I see nothing wrong with someone who is just honest with himself.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Cutie, I agree that he setting is very important. Even in informal setting, such as a gathering of friends and relatives, it may not be so appropriate if the group is very big. The least appropriate setting is a gathering of colleagues in office. Our bosses will definitely hate it when we say we want to get rich. I admire those who are honest enough to tell everyone that they want to get rich, especially when their actions show that they really want to get rich.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
30 Dec 10
I think it's up to the person how is she going to absorb my remarks when I say I wanted to get rich. This wish or remark from someone is common so I don't care what others think.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
31 Dec 10
Hi BabyEj, while the desire to get rich is very common, it is not common to hear people say it aloud in public place. Probably the only exception are those kids who dare to say they want to make a lot of money, buy aeroplane etc. Most adults do not dare to express this desire at all.
@icollier (89)
• United States
30 Dec 10
I don't know if I want to get rich. But, I would like to live comfortably. I would tell people that I would like to have enough money to live in comfort. I think money is very important to someones happiness today. But, it isn't the most important thing. God is most important, then family and friends come before money. But, without money it is hard to live and with little money it can feel like a burden. I don't think there is anything wrong with discussing riches to a point of living a comfortable life. I would love to have enough money to live comfortable and help others live a comfortable life too.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
31 Dec 10
Hi Icollier, many stories in the old testament tell us that wealth is a blessing from God. One example is the story of Job. He was faithful, and blessed with many children and great wealth, to the point of being the richest person on Earth at that time. I think it is all right to get rich, but we should not love money more than living beings. Otherwise, we would lose our humanity, and become worse than beasts and insects.
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Well, my answer is, only to friends who I trust and to teachers and people who support. Actually I'm also very careful about what people think too I won't want them to look and smile in front of me but talk bad about me behind my back. It's not something wrong if we want to get rich, I mean, that's our goal right? We aren't committing a crime, we are just stating down what we want to achieve.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi JudgeIronFist, I share the same thought as you. Getting rich is a worthy goal, as long as we do it honestly. Many people secretly want to get rich but they do not want to admit it. There are many hypocrites who seem to care about us, yet backstab us or take our words out of context. It is better to keep our mouth shut in front of these people, even when they are our close relatives.
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
hello scheng1! People have different aspirations and dreams. However, we cannot expect other people to understand or sympathetic with our own aspirations and they may take it negatively when it does not conform with their own beliefs and aspirations. thus, for myself, i don't dare to tell other people my dreams, my hopes and aspirations. If i want to get rich, then i will just work on it to become one rather than announce it to other and get scornful remarks, especially if they don't see the results after some time. anyway, telling other people about it would not help my cause and so its better to shut up and keep it to myself.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Deriellevc, I do not waste energy telling to those who are hypocrites as well. They are the ones who really want to get rich, do not want to work hard, and yet they scorn on those who dare to talk frankly. They are the ones who get scammed by those get rich quick scheme. If they are really contented with life, and view money as other-worldly possession, they would not listen to those get rich quick salespeople. I think you are making a very wise move. When you get rich, those people will admire you, instead of making scornful remarks. After all, everyone loves a success story.
@qianyun6 (2067)
• China
25 Dec 10
Hi, scheng1! I don't know why dare not to. Is it a bad thing to want to get rich? That's quite normal. Getting rich is a kind of honor unless using improper method.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Qianyun, it is good that people in your region accept the idea that getting rich is an honourable act. Most people do not look kindly on those who say they want to get rich. They frown on those who say that having lots of money is good, or those who say that they want to get rich by working hard or working smart. I think it is a good thing to get rich, so that our family has the best of everything.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
25 Dec 10
sure! if they ask. and i think everybody wants, money it's not bad, it's the way some people use it money can save the world and help others, so it's just something, a material stuff, it have not good or bad
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Katie, that is a very balance view of money. The fact that we want to get rich does not mean we love money too much or we are not happy with our career, family or friends. It is just that the more money we have, the more we can help others, and to feel financially secure.
@fl0rencia (414)
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
Yes we all surely do want to get rich. But when we're asked of what do we want in life, we don't say that we want to get rich. And that is the truth. Getting rich isn't actually what people want. When they're asked, they would usually say, they want a big house, their own car, their own business, and that really is what they want. But how would they obtain those wants and needs? People would say they want to be rich because when they got rich, they could have everything they want. So getting rich is their way or stepping stones to get what they really want.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Florencia, I agree that most people understand when we say we want to live in a nice house with a nice garden, because this is what they want. If we say we want to get rich, then they start to think negatively. Actually getting rich and being rich are two completely different matter. Getting rich is a process. It is surprising to see people respecting the rich yet they frown on those who say they want to get rich.
• China
25 Dec 10
I am not afraid of that at all. I believe everyone wants to be rich and have better life. You don't live for others. Don't care about what others say. and If you want to be rich and you speak it out and you tell the listeners what you will do to achieve that goal and you really take actions. You are practical instead of telling lies . I think others will not think you are materialistic. I can say anyone that I want to be rich and I am trying my best to work hard struggling for that goal. It makes my my daily life colorful.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Tyler, I agree that those who say they want to get rich are very honest with themselves and with the world. It is indeed the desire of most people to get rich. The only ones who do not need to get rich are those extremely rich people. Their problem is finding the best use of their money. For us, we do not have too much money to help a lot of people yet. We must have enough to help ourselves, help our family and friends, before extending our kindness to the outsiders.
@tvarasu10 (101)
• India
25 Dec 10
The ultimate desire of every human being to get rich and live comfortably till the end of life.Hence I will dare to tell others that want to get rich honestly
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Tvarasu, it is true that everyone wants to live comfortably, and in this society, that means having a lot of money. I have seen those people queuing up for hours to consult a specialist on their health problem. These are the ones who are on subsidized healthcare. They can wait for four to six hours, just for a five minutes consultation with the doctor. After that, they have to wait another hour to get their medicine. If they are rich, the specialist would spend more time with them. That is the whole difference between those with money and those without money.
• India
25 Dec 10
yes, i dare to tell people that i want to get rich. but important thing is that i would like to tell them that i want to get rich with proper methods because only proper methods can give you wealth with peace.
• Mexico
24 Dec 10
Hi scheng: I think you are right even if I don't do it. If someone ask me these questions I usually talk about my academic and business plans. To become rich can be one of my final steps but that is not my final goal. My final goal is my happiness and happiness is build with other things, not only money. Interesting question. Thanks for asking. Merry Christmas. ALVARO
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Starsailover, happiness is the ultimate goal of everyone. The problem is that it is impossible to measure happiness. That is why most people do not view it as a goal by itself. Some people will say that they want to get married to someone they love, have a few kids, and have a nice house. The underlying theme is happiness.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
24 Dec 10
I was never afraid to tell anybody that I wanted to be rich even as a young man, The congregation I attend does not look down on you if you declare you want to be rich, in fact there are prayer meetings dedicated solely for the purpose prosperity and asking God to free everyone from the bondage of poverty. So my answer would be yes, I would dare tell and I expect my children to do the same
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Louievill, I like the approach of your congregation. It is very different from many religious groups. Most religious groups do not like the devotees to talk about money, much less to talk about getting rich. I think poverty is really a bondage, and that getting rich is a worthy goal. The real question is what do we do with the money. It is not a matter of whether getting rich is right or wrong.
@vineshv (49)
• India
24 Dec 10
I have seen people bold enough to admit that their only goal in life is to become rich. Although 90% of people around has this goal on highest priority , we dont agree this openly .
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Vineshv, I agree that most people do not have the courage to say they want to get rich. I am one of them, especially in front of the elders and relatives in social gathering. My cousin is a better person than me. She tells her family that money is the most important in the world. I really admire those who are bold enough to speak their minds.
• United States
24 Dec 10
I would not use the word rich because it has sort of a negative connotation. If someone asked me what was my goal in life, I would tell him that I would like to be wealthy. Wealthy is probably a better word to use than rich because it has a more positive connotation. Personally, I just tell everyone that I would like to live a healthy, happy, and prosperous life. I am justifying my desire but I am also using words of positive connotation. When I think of "rich", I think... envious, greedy, etc.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi theNelson, I agree that the word "rich" has a negative connotation among the modern society. Actually the word "rich" is a positive word, just that people think negatively. When the word "rich" appears in a sentence as a descriptive word, people will take it positively, eg rich food. I guess the only word that is worse than "rich" in the context is "money". If we tell everyone that "money is most important to me", everyone will shy away from us.
@greet123 (44)
24 Dec 10
Yes, it is good to be honest no matter we are given scornful looks or admiration. Being honest takes courage and only the brave heart can withstand the scornful looks. It is better to preach and practise the same thing because one or the other day people will definitely see the truth and scornful looks will welcome a hypocrite as well.
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
Hi Greet123, it is definitely better to tell the truth. Some people are really hypocrite when it comes to the matter of money. They tell everyone that they are not greedy, that they are contented with life, and counsel everyone not to think about getting rich. Yet they are the ones who fall victims to all kinds of scams. If they do not want to get rich in the first place, they would never listen to all the sweet talks that promise good returns.