How do I make him believe?
By gengeni
@gengeni (3308)
Indonesia
December 25, 2010 4:51am CST
I have a cousin who peers. 2 yrs ago Prev her marriage, her husband told her that her husband had been sentenced to a doctor is difficult to have children (less obvious is also what the illness), it is likely to have offspring only 10-15%. But as already love, my cousin, still married and sincere when it should not have offspring.
But God willed seems another, a few days ago my cousin went to the doctor and the doctor said my cousin was pregnant about 7 weeks. She hesitated to tell this to her husband, was afraid if her husband cheating suspect or accused her (I think this is impossible because each of her husband was not there, my cousin always went to my house, coming out was always asking me to accompany) because her husband was often out of service area .
How do I convey this news to her husband? the problem is her husband was jealous person, and if you are male, how about your reaction when experiencing things like this? Would you suspect your wife?
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6 responses
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
25 Dec 10
Doctors are often wrong and, anyway, 10% - 15% is not no chance at all. Why be afraid that he will be jealous? Of course she should tell him! He will find out soon enough, anyway, and if she doesn't tell him now, he will only be the more suspicious later.
Your cousin must tell her husband, not you (though you can be with her as moral support, perhaps). It is, however, a matter just between the two of them and should be an occasion for happiness, not fear!
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
25 Dec 10
My daughter was with a man who claimed he was infertile but, nevertheless, she got pregnant. Sadly, he wasn't a suitable husband and she now has a much more suitable man - but I have a delightful grand daughter, nonetheless.
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
hello gengeni!
knowing of that you only have good intentions for your cousin and her husband, i can't help but wonder why you're the one who's in a dilemma as to whether to tell the husband or not. It is a family problem where the only thing you can and must do is to support your cousin. She must be the one to tell her husband of her pregnancy and she should tell him soon, to ward off any suspicions. Doctors do make mistakes and since the husband was given small chances of impregnating someone, it does not mean that it's impossible for him to impregnate his wife.
Just let her have it with him and if your cousin needs your support, then that's the time for you to lend it to her.. not you telling the husband first for it would create suspicion and havoc, i tell you. Hope everything will go well. Merry christmas and a happy new year!
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
25 Dec 10
gengeni,
First of all, whether or how one would suspect one's wife is irrelevant and/or help for your cousin's miraculous pregnancy.
I am sure there's really nothing to be afraid especially when the unborn child is truly her husband's. She could approach it together as a family either from a religious or medical standpoint. If her husband still has doubts, I am sure there are tests available to confirm paternity.
In conclusion, I feel that a direct and straightforward approach would be the best solution as hesitation will just lead to more guessing and misunderstanding from the other party.
Congratulations here and compliments of the season.
@thaohong (19)
• Vietnam
25 Dec 10
Hi gengeni, why do you want to convey to her husband? This is a problem of their family. Let them solve it each other. You can give them some advices but don't substitute them to do it. There are many ways to prove the truth, they will choose which one is the best.
@rifankaditukadieu (14)
• Indonesia
25 Dec 10
should talk frankly to your cousin's husband... because honesty would be better... and if you lie constantly it would be caugh,too so talk nicely and it is likely he will understand ....
