December 26, 2010 3:59pm CST
When someone you love is diagnosed with Autism it can be very devastating. It is like going on a roller coaster ride you can only hope that the child can grow up and do everything a normal child can do. The roller coaster ride feels like it will never end, but in time it can if the parent is patient with his/her child doing the recovery part of the child. 1 out of a 150 kids every year is either being born or diagnosed with autism which sends parents on this exciting adventure. There are different degrees of Autism some children have it mildly where other children are so severe that they never learn to,talk,walk or even communicate and never have eye contact with anyone they stay in a little world of there own not knowing what is going on around them. Many children go through years of different kinds of therapy and a parent just hopes and prays that one day their child will learn enough through what is being taught to them to survive out in the world on there own and to have a job and hopefully a family of there own, but none of this will happen over night it takes years and years of working with these children to began the journey of helping them heel from this and a lot of times parents end up homeschooling there child because the schools don't understand the needs of these very special children and these children need the same chance as any child to survive in this world, all of our children are special in there own way. The child with autism are very smart children if people will just give them a chance to grow and learn like any other child. I am a parent of a child with autism and he has adhd and it has been a struggle for us every since he was diagnosed with it, but I have had a very supported husband to help me to see what was going on with our child I never wanted to believe he had autism it took me a year to really understand it all and once the shock wear off and you find the resources to help you to learn more about autism it helps to know there are ways out there to help parents in need, we struggle for years trying to get my child to learn to read and write he started out in school but as time went by we noticed that he was not learning much from the school and about a year ago the school refused to teach our child any longer because of his outburst and it is only because the teachers do not know how to handle an autistic child when the outburst such as temper tamptums come to surface and restraining a child is not the answer. So now I home school him and have seen such an improvement in him, he is starting to read and write something the school has never been able to teach him even though he is 14 but an autistic child learning is at there own pace you can not force an autistic child to do something because if you do they will rebel and that is when all the problems began. As a parent I have leaned love and patience is the key to helping your autistic child to learn as for mine now he can read and write he knows how to take care of his needs,knows how to cook,clean and help dad with the daily activities while mom takes care of the house, our son does laundry,cleans, helps us cook the meals he has come a long way since he was diagnosed with Autism even though he still has a long way to go yet but we are very proud of everything he has accomplished over the years. Our love and patience with him has paid off extremely. My message to all parents that maybe struggling with this give your child all the love and patience you can our special children are very smart and deserves the same as any other child to succeed in life.
• United States
27 Dec 10
When my son was diagnosed with autism I was not devastated, it answered most of the questions we had about him all through the years. With the diagnoses comes help and hope. Support groups and societies now come to us. I'd like to start a support group in our home but our son is in denial. He is also ADHD. The abuse from our educators will no longer exist because it is illegal. Help finding work and getting an education exist now. He is now met with only kindness and help from others. It was before the diagnoses that life was a roller coaster as you put it. He is working very hard at a technical school to become a welder. He is no longer a recluse who's best friends are a game counsel and a television.
• United States
31 Dec 10
My son is 14 and he loves his games and TV shows exspecially the one we have bought for him, we can't get cable in the country where we are so we buy him a new movie and and game once a month. I home school him the school got where they wouldn't teach him and he has done so much better since I have started homeschooling him.
• United States
27 Dec 10
Hi julialynne...You will find that several people here in the Lot share your struggles. They are wonderful parents and have autistic children. They can really be a rock for you when you need one and can give you some wonderful advice. I'm going to PM you their names so that you can request them and check out some of their discussions. Who knows..maybe you can be their rock too. I think that there needs to be more education for teachers in the public school system where autism is concerned. If these teachers know how to educate the autistic there is a better chance for them to be productive and lead normal lives. I can not relate to your struggles but I can say that you are a very strong individual and that your son is so lucky to have you and your husband as a support system.