MyLot and offline friends
By Porcospino
@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
December 27, 2010 2:56pm CST
Some weeks ago I was talking to a friend, and I told her that I had been working on online money making sites for a while. I mentioned MyLot and told her that it was a disussion site where we get paid for our participation. She said that she wanted to visit the site and asked for my username. I told her my name, but I don't know if she has visited my profile or seen any of my discussions because I haven't talked her since.
If a friend from real life asked you about your username on MyLot would you tell them? Would you feel that you have nothing to hide and that it wouldn't be a problem to share your online identity with people from real life? Or do you prefer to keep your online life separate from your offline life? Do you ever write about things that you don't tell your friends from real life?
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16 responses
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
27 Dec 10
Hello friend,
i would never give my user name and password even to a member of my own family, what about friends. Mylot for me is one secret and nice world, where a part of me lives without problems. I got friends here, who support me and share my thinking, i'm trying to support them too and to be friendly enough for all around.
What i want to say is that since i came back here, because i rested around 2 months from Mylot, because of busy life, so ... since i came back here one new "me" is living around, sharing positivism and nice thoughts, nice stories, and painful experience, so i wouldn't like someone to know my user name, password or worst - to use them. 
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
27 Dec 10
I think there is a difference between username and password. When my friend knows my username she can see my discussions, but she can't log into my account. I would never reveal my password, I keep that kind of information private. If I reveal my password the other person might abuse the situation, and he or she might write bad things in my name etc and I don't want that to happen.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
28 Dec 10
Only my boyfriend knows my username here, but i would like he to forget about it 
Sometimes too many questions comes from my discussions, when he start asking "Why did you wrote about that?". I just answer - because i feel it that way, but he continue with the questions ....
As i said, here is great for me, i can show myself what i am, without being worried that someone will blame me or will ask questions.
Sorry if i misunderstood the question first time, i'm here whole day long and i get confused sometimes trying to reach the right meaning of the posts.
Sometimes too many questions comes from my discussions, when he start asking "Why did you wrote about that?". I just answer - because i feel it that way, but he continue with the questions ....
As i said, here is great for me, i can show myself what i am, without being worried that someone will blame me or will ask questions.
Sorry if i misunderstood the question first time, i'm here whole day long and i get confused sometimes trying to reach the right meaning of the posts. 1 person likes this
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Dec 10
Don't worry about that That has also happened to me that I misunderstood the topic at first.
My husband also knows my username. Sometimes he reads my discussions and then he asks me questions about the things that I wrote just like your boyfriend. He wants all the details Sometimes I mention things in a discussion that I haven't told him about, not because I want to hide it from him, but just because we never talked about that topic or that experience.
That has also happened to me that I misunderstood the topic at first.
My husband also knows my username. Sometimes he reads my discussions and then he asks me questions about the things that I wrote just like your boyfriend. He wants all the details Sometimes I mention things in a discussion that I haven't told him about, not because I want to hide it from him, but just because we never talked about that topic or that experience.
@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
28 Dec 10
I would not resist to share my username or id with my friends around me. I live same in cyber world as i am in real world. And i treat all my cyber friends as real ones. I dont believe on split lifestyles.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
6 Jan 11
I feel the same way and that is reason why I didn't mind answering my friend, when she asked me about my username. I think that I am the same person online and offline, and my friends wouldn't discover any hidden secrets about me if they read my discussions. There is quote that I once heard: "Live in such a way that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip" and I try to do the same thing online. I want to live my online life in such a way that I wouldn't be ashamed to give my offline friend my username. A few times in the past I wrote something that I should have kept to myself, but I usually avoid it.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
28 Dec 10
i don't have any problem giving my offline friends my mylot username especially if he/she wants to join under me and be my referral here... i don't think i will lose anything just by giving my username to my friends... in fact, i think i will benefit from it if they really become my referrals... take care and have a nice day...
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
6 Jan 11
You are right, telling a friend about MyLot could be a way to get a new referral, and referrals help us earn more money. I was pretty surpriced when my friend asked me about MyLot, because most of my friends aren't interested in online money making and they prefer to spend their time on other kinds of sites like social networking sites, online forums that don't pay the users or games. Sometimes people think that is sounds interesting, but that it is too much trouble to write in English instead of our local language, so it is not easy to find referrals among my offline friends.
I also wish you a nice day 
@aylim14 (501)
• Philippines
28 Dec 10
of course i would tell them. And as the first mylotter said, i'd be happy to send them my referral link as well. Because i am the type of person who want to prepare for my future. That is why i am doing everything i can to earn now, no matter how big or little it may be, and utilize the time i have so that when the time comes when i have enough money to "sustain" myself, i could do eveything i want anytime i want.
Suffer now and enjoy later. But this does not mean i will do this for the rest of my life and later just enjoy my being a senior citizen. I plan on retiring early, so just a few more years :)
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
6 Jan 11
I think it is a good idea to plan your future and try to earn as much as possible now. One day you will be able to enjoy the result of the work that you do now. I have similar thoughts myself. I work hard at the moment and I don't have much spare time, but I think it is worth it. I know that I will be able to relax later and hopefully I will be able to do some of the things that I am dreaming about now.
@topffer (42156)
• France
28 Dec 10
I prefer to keep my online life separate from my offline life. I enjoy myLot because I can have fun with online friends and flee my real life. My name is already in biographical dictionaries in my country, and in thousands of web pages. Here I can be topffer, without playing a part, even if it looks paradoxical. Think about that before giving your user name to a "friend" -- how many of them are true friends ? --.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
29 Dec 10
In a situation like that I find it easy to understand why you prefer to keep your online life separate from your offline life. If I were in that situation I think that it would be a relief to be able to relax and talk to people who don't know my real identity and don't assume things about me because they know my name.
@meuji100 (198)
• Philippines
28 Dec 10
I would tell a real life friend my username in mylot. People from real life can sometimes be trusted to be given your username. But I just give my identity to people whom I am really close with. I sometimes hide stuff with my friends in real life. They might betray you and spread your identity.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
31 Dec 10
Yes, that is true some people can't be trusted and they might abuse the imformation that we give them. The friend who asked for my username was a close friend and I wasn't afraid to give her my username. I think that is could nice if she wanted to join and we would be able to share discussions here in addition to the things that we share in real life.
@maezee (41997)
• United States
27 Dec 10
I keep them separate generally just because I do spill my guts a lot online, when I wouldn't want my friends or family (or whoever I am ranting about at the time) to know. I vent online when I'm frustrated with something or someone, and I would prefer for my friends NOT to know about certain things that I have said about them..Ha ha. I hope that doesn't sound horrible.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Dec 10
I understand that. Sometimes I also vent online when I am frustrated, and I hope that the person I wrote about isn't going to read it. Most of the time I don't write things about a friend that I wouldn't tell to the his/her face, because you never know who might read it. It has happened a few times that I have been a little too impulsive and posted things that I should have kept to myself, because I was angry or frustrated, but I try to avoid it.
@gdesjardin (1918)
• United States
27 Dec 10
There is anything on here that I would care if my friends or family read. Of course, what a lot of people here know is when I signed up for mylot I was new to the whole earnings online thing. I used my first initial and last name so I guess any family or friends would figure out that it is me. I guess I really wasn't thinking when I signed up here. Oh well, I don't have anything to hide, so it wouldn't bother me at all.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
29 Dec 10
I didn't use my real name when I signed up, but I have a link to my gallery, so it would be very easy for my family or my friends to find out who I am if they visit my profile. like you I don't feel that I have anything to hide, so it doesn't seem like a big problem.
@sumanadep (1228)
• India
28 Dec 10
Quite difficult to say.. I have been using this site for a long time .. I am referred by one of my friend and I have written many things about myself here which may be he is not aware of... but things that I write here are not that personal... but yes I would not know if I will ever write about personal things here...
I think it is better not to share your username with someone you know personally..
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@sophisticated_boy (1457)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 10
I prefer my online life separated from my offline life, just because some of my thoughts I shared only with online life and vice versa. there are many sides of me that even my best friends don't know, I only shared it online.
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
28 Dec 10
I have got no problem to share my profile with my offline friends...i'm no different here and in offline.When it comes to family members i better not show my profile page coz there are certain things they aren't aware of.great day.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
29 Dec 10
I understand that you don't want your family members to see your profile when there are some things that they don't know. I feel the same way about my offline friends as you do, I am the same person online and offline, and I don't feel that I need to hide my online identity from my friends.
@mac_fish (723)
• China
28 Dec 10
Hi,
I'm always unwilling and embarrassed to be asked to leak my personal infor from others,even from my partner.
About username and password of mylot,it's pretty personal stuff.Here,I take as my own backyard and I usually post something I don't talk with my families and friends.I like the public disscusion occasion on website,like the relationships here ---the virtual world,like the excellent atmosphere here--everyone seems quite kindheated.All of that could offer me a place to pour my words from the bottom of my heart without any worries......
So,I'm the one to seperate the real life from online community.....
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Dec 10
I am one who has nothing to hide so sure I would if I was asked. Besides our discussions are infinitely kept so at some point someone will bump into my user name anyway.
This is why I am careful and do not post too much on here, although I really have nothing to hide so I do not have to put forth effort in hiding anything.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Dec 10
I am also careful and I think about the things that I write. I write about many things like the some of the things that happen in my life, my work, my hobbies etc, but if my friends expect to find detailed descriptions of my sexlife, deep secrets or something like that, they will get disappointed I like to share thoughts, opinions and experiences with others, but there are some things that I never write about online.
I like to share thoughts, opinions and experiences with others, but there are some things that I never write about online.
@pecito (303)
• Bulgaria
27 Dec 10
Nobody has the right to ask about your personal password. If your friend wanted to visit the site, she can open an account herself, it doesn't take more than 5 minutes.I am a very tactful person and expect others to be tactful with me as well, and we don't mess up business and friendship.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
27 Dec 10
I didn't mean the password, she didn't ask for that and if she had asked for it, I definately wouldn't have told her, that is private and I would never reveal that kind of information Maybe I didn't express it clearly, but I meant my username (=porcospino) When she knows my username she can see my discussions, but she doesn't have access to my account.
Maybe I didn't express it clearly, but I meant my username (=porcospino) When she knows my username she can see my discussions, but she doesn't have access to my account.
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
28 Dec 10
I have talked about mylot with a few friends and asked them to visit and even join the site.However nobody has ever asked me my username and i don`t see anyreason why they should ask or why i should divulge it.People generally are not bothered about ones username but they are certainly interested in knowing about the site and if it is genuine and lucrative.Your username is your personal and private identity and has nothing to do with others.Even if you do not have anything to hide it is still better to keep your identity to yourself because one never knows what will happen if you reveal it.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
28 Dec 10
Hi porcospinop,
I see no problem in revealing your online identity to an off line friend or anybody. Like you I have brought to mylot several of my friends. I would tell them my username here and they would search it out and send friends request.
Is there any threat in it. I am not sure.
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