He need "space" what it really means?

hello sweetyellow! i have read somewhere about the man myths you have mentioned here and yes, it said about the same thing as you're outline it here. That is, that when a man gets quiet and seem to retreat to his own world, it does not mean that he's thinking of someone else or is wanting to get out of the relationship. I can understand what the author is trying to say, however, when you apply it to the real world, when you're the girlfriend, would you at the moment that it is happening to you, would you be able to let yourself believe that he's just into that "mood" wherein he's supposed to be just into his down time? wouldn't you feel get lost with him and with the situation at hand? How could we assure ourselves that this is a "man myth"? that it's not because of us, that's why he's suddenly retreating into his own world? a man who is happy and contented with his partner would somehow make an effort to tell his partner if he's in a dilemma or he's into that mood where he doesn't want to be bothered by our company, by our questions and by our care? is this man myth holds true for every man? or for just those men who have some unresolved issues? When a person wants space, it means he wants to be alone and to have a world of his own other than what he's sharing with his partner. we could understand that if he too allows his partner to have her own space sometime. But if it's just him, well, that would be too hard for the woman to really understand and emphatize with. When you're in love, how could you just suddenly want to be alone and have your own space for no apparent reason? maybe he's afraid that he had shown his love too much and that's why he suddenly retreats to himself. or maybe he's confuse of his real feelings with his partner. Maybe he is happy with someone too and spending some time with another woman, finds that he enjoyed her company too would make him really confused..it just doesn't jive with my concept of a happy, satisfied man to just suddenly retreat to his own world just because he's in his down time..that's no sufficient reason at all and it would surely lead me to thinking that it's because of me, our relationship or of someone else, if he will not tell me otherwise..

Hi Sweetyellow :) I was just wondering did this ever happen to you. I was reading and it sounded like it was made through by experience. I do agree about how you said it doesn't to do with your relationship. My friends have this kinds of situations and I just can't relate to them. Lol ;) Down Time and Up Time? Can you tell me what do you mean by that? =D

It COULD mean that 'being the person that you want him to be' isn't as fulfilling as 'being the person he feels like being,' even though they are the very same person. See, in order to acheive the goals you & he set together, he may have to spend some time 'out of your sight' (unleashed from the code of morals he would have you think he holds to). If you saw him break that code, your trust in him (on a subconscious level) would suffer. You need to show him that you trust him to handle the inappropriate things YOU do, so he'll trust you to handle the inappropriate things he does ... unless of course you don't have faith that--even after you 'unleash' him--he'll stay true to you.