School Teachings Vs Real Life Learnings: Did I go to a Wrong School?

@thesids (22180)
Bhubaneswar, India
January 3, 2011 8:11am CST
Hi All, I was just thinking about the education I got at my school way back in the 1970-80s. And tried to relate quite some of these teachings with the experiences that Life taught me. Here are a couple to share - 1. They Taught - Early to bed and Early to Rise Makes a Man Healthy Wealthy and Wise. Life Taught - If you sleep longer you lose business, money etc. (Most of the great Tycoons sleep for lesser hours) 2. They told - Respect elders. Experience Taught - If there was respect there would have been no Old Age Homes 3. They Taught - humans are the same and so there are no differences. No one is rich and no one is poor. Life Taught - We cannot be same and there have to be differences - The racism, casteism are in all societies. ...... Your opinions would be appreciated. Cheers, theSids
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
3 Jan 11
Hi sweetie. Good examples you have there. One thing though. Nothing is a greater teacher than life itself. No school can teach you what life will teach you. That is why we learn each day, no matter what your age. TATA.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Hi Saphrina, Life is the biggest and the best teacher and no school can train anyone when it comes to having a first hand experience of life. So what should be the derivation? Schools teach wrong or our perception makes it sound wrong?
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
3 Jan 11
Don't roll your eyes for me, sweetie. No schooling is important. Life teaches you values and morality, school try to get something into that brain.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Oopsss. It was the one above on the panel - the one for confusion. Sorry to have hurt my angel. - hope this makes it up.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
3 Jan 11
Hi friend.. I never liked school during my school life. Yes real life is like a book of learning. and yeah we can learn lots of.. But I guess school is also important as it is the part of our life to learn something basics.. But yes after school and studies life is much different then before.
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@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
3 Jan 11
I hated school between 5th standard and 8th and afterwards I was different.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
@Akp: Kool so you got yourself a toy car today... this you got selling off the Old Monitor of yesterday's? I never think school is not important. It is essential. The only thing is that either our outlook needs a re-vamp or the education system needs one for sure... so that the new generation doesnt look confused when it steps into the arena of the hard facts of life. btw: did I tell you I never attended classes at the college
@akp100 (13640)
• India
3 Jan 11
Yup you had told me that.. School days I was using my magical acting for bunking school but college days i never need to use it..
@eshaan (6188)
• India
3 Jan 11
hi sid...after a break .... yes practical knowledge is very much different than the lessons in books...and we need to mold ourselves according to the requirement or we can't handle situations with our bookish knowledge...so the life itself is a big school and we should try to keep balance between the two...
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Hi Eshaan, Welcome back and a Happy New Year to you and family. Yes, I too realize the same and it is good that I started this discussion. I can help my nephew by starting to explain the issues that keep him somewhat confused with reference to his textual and school teachings. Also, I believe in the facts now but was just feeling bad about the confusing things around.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
4 Jan 11
Hello sid, Lol, that is really interesting interpretations dear Sid. I think we are confused with the teachings in school and the lessons we learned in real life. School education is just for certificates and our life is teaching the real and hard lessons. Each day we are learning new lessons and these lessons are practicable in life unlike the lessons in school.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Jan 11
Hi Sree, The real world school is better as it is real and teaches things that shape up the lives. I think we should add some of these lessons into the textbooks of school so that when the kids start facing the world, they dont feel confused and hopeless thinking that what they learned at school was almost impractical and wrong.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Jan 11
@Vidhya: If that could be done I would have a relaxed and peaceful old age But yes, I think as parents, we should start giving doses of these real life issues to the kids as they grow up with an open dicussion. Many parents just dont have the time these days for taking care of their kids and that on most occasions is not good.
• United States
3 Jan 11
You did not go to the wrong school. You went to a school that broaden your way of thinking, see you were taught to learn through the dynamics of life. It is up to us to determine whether what we picked up from school teachings was right for us and apply it to the school of life. The Tycoons that sleep for lesser hours are the ones that have early heart attacks worrying about how much more they can get. Whereas the good sleepers wake up, praise God for being able to breath and well the rest comes when it comes, yet we live healthier and yes we worry about money but none of us have heart attacks when we loose that one dollar from on efforts. The rich have fits when they do not get that one dollar. I see the difference, no??
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Hi GF, The school did lay the foundation of my way of thinking and I took some better decisions but the confusion exists around the myth and the reality. Wouldnt it have been better if they told me the correct things (the modern ways of living too) from day one so that I was more better prepared? When I see today's kids being given the same lessons they gave me ages back, I feel the same confusions happening with them. Nothing changed over the ages with a smaller difference - I was confused when I passed out and stepped in the real world's school... and today's kids seem to be more confused much earlier - my nephew asks - why dont we all stay together just because his text book says - family members stay together. How do I explain to him at this tender age (he is about 8) that (we have some differences in views in the family and also) my wife needs to be close to her office. He would realize this no doubt in due course but at the moment he is confused. So would having that coded text - "Family Members Stay Together" modified to something more meaningful and practical remove the chances of confusion?
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Jan 11
I believe this is the right way and let time play the healer and the solver
• United States
3 Jan 11
You continue to give and show him your wisdom, nothing will over power family love. He will go through the same channels, if not a bit harder then we did but he will always remember what you taught and showed him. I had a very difficult time deciding to divorce, so I spoke to my priest as I was so naive back then and I thought the church and God would not longer accept me. My priest said to me that the church is much more understanding and that they do realize that sometimes marriages simply do not work out. My priest told me that what I showed my kids, perhaps I would never see it, but their kids, kids would some day be thanking me and I would know someday far fetched in the future that what I showed my kids was well worth it.
4 Jan 11
Schooling is such an important part of children's upbringing. Most of school is factual, maths, science etc, but the teachings you are talking about is not from formal education. Its from personal contact. Those views and values you were taught aren't part of any government curriculum, but are the beliefs of most decent people. People believe that everyone should be treated equally (as there personal situation allows). Racism and other discrimination is a learned behaviour, usually learned from parents. Schools teach ideals, while parents teach their own values, no matter if the rest of society agrees. I was taught the same things as you at school, and my parents reinforced these things at home. (Not that i'm suggesting your parents didn't!) some people are raised without these values and thats when people don't respect their elders, and racism exits. So no, you didn't go to a wrong school. Some people just learned the wrong values at home.
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• United States
3 Jan 11
My mom tried to teach me #1 but she failed! My school started so early and yet I Wouldn't go to bed early and I still don't! #2 I did wirth my parents but not with All my teachers. In fact I learned at my first public school that not all teaches are nice or Deserve me respect. In fact there are two that I hope rot in hell. But my parents were older when threy had me so I have more patience with elders. In fact when I see an old person step down from the bus I say to myself easy does it! #3 was taught at home.My mom was colorblind, meanig she treat Everyone the same way regardless of color. And she was gay friendly , meaning she was straight but not narrow. She would treat a gay person the same way she would treat a straight person. She treated children as small adults . I mean she gave them her full attention and she would speak in full sentences , not baby talk. At school my teachers just taught the subject . The kids taught me when they teased me , that I wouldn't belong with them and in return I ignored them. Thankfully by highschool we were indifferent classes!My mom taught me that too. If they are going to disrespect you , don't associate with them.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Hi Behen, That is the school of Life where there are facts and you cannot run away from them no matter how bad or how fast you try. Sorry to have started a discussion that opened up the wounds that you might have kept hidden deep somewhere.
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• United States
3 Jan 11
Bhai! You didn't open any wounds. I want you to feel free to ask anything. If I can;t respond , I won't . And then I will send a private message explain why , if I can explain why. School was hard but If I hadn't gone through it , I wouldn't be this happy now.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
3 Jan 11
School teaches theory and life gives practical experience. When I was at university I found that I learned more when I was on teaching practice than at the university. Some people attend an educational establishment and others go to the school of life. When we grow up we live within a society. Each person should be a decent person in life and money doesn't make a person happy. I think it is sad elderly people are sent to live at an old age people's home. I have learned the best things to have are good health, happiness and good luck.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Hi maximax, School teaches theory and life gives practical experience I must mention that as we grow in age, our thoughts start getting mechanical and more towards the solving out the issues that stare us... making our lives a kind of too much to handle. In this confusion we take on steps believing them to be correct but we end up forgetting the basics of our existence. Surely, loads of good luck, happiness and a pinch of good luck are the best things to have around.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
what an irony, isnt it? life for me is the great teacher. in truth, only a little of what is taught in school are useful. the greater part is what we learn in our lives and with the people and places and occurrences that we experience.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Hi Ms. Bingskee, Life is the greatest of all trainers and at times it is more kind of a strict and stern trainer. I must agree with you in the teachings at school are mostly less useful (except for those who are more into using these lessons in their fields or work) and experiences do train us - good or bad - it is on us to judge.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
3 Jan 11
Look friend, these are all maxims and they are the usual social trends that we all are supposed to follow. But who or how many of us are sticking to this norms. Hence a drift has been created between our text book knowledge and the practical life knowledge. Besides the saying "Early to bed...." has its application. It has never said you sleep less. But you should sleep in time and if you go to the bed in time your sleep requirement would be over and you would be fresh the following day. Is not it scientific?
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Hi Krajibg, I too felt this today and this is why I opened this discussion to gather views to help me have a better opinion - who or how many of us are sticking to this norms. When I passed from school and started walking the real world, I was quite confused as whom to go with - the thoughts of school or the real world which is real and essential for survival. Today, when I look at the education the norms havent changed yet and I believe the confusion would continue on with the new generation too. My nephew has already asked me once - why do you work late nights and do not play games with me - that is the start of the confusion I see it happening all again and this time the affected one is much younger than I was.
@shibham (16977)
• India
3 Jan 11
Hi sids... Well.. there is a vast difference between educational and practical life. According to the lessons.. we were taught to be a perfect human... but in this arena we are not human we are struggler just wearing some musks of human. This is not the ear of so called naturalism... it's the era of machinachisim( my own spelling). So, you cant judge all them according to some so called lessons although those are valuable and be sure i don't dare to ignore those lessons. Take care.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Hi Shibham, That hit the right vibe again. That is what we need to be or at least are expected to be in today's world - machines - and this preparation should start from early days of our lives. Instead of telling all that - from ancient days of naturalism - we should be honest with our kids/next generation and say boss, this is what your ancestors studied but now times have changed and you need to learn the new codes so that you are safe and confident the day you are out of this campus - in the real world.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
4 Jan 11
Hi Thesids, School only teach you the theories of how thing work and you have to experience it by your self. So, theories may not always right, but it might be right for certain circumstances. Most of the time, what we learn in school can never be apply in the real life, for example, you learn calculus in high school, but in real life, how any time are you really use calculus to calculate? I believe 90% of people will tell you they never use it at all. That is how things work. And sometime, things like history, can be recoded or interpret wrongly by certain people where they have a stern thinking in various aspect such as race, religions and politics.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Jan 11
Hi yspmyl, yes, the theories they teach are not always correct. For the calculus, sciences, history and a lot more, the schools lay the foundations that we can use if we get interested into these streams in our careers and future. These are just the various options that they equip us with at that age nothing beyond. But the Moral sciences of my days (I dont know if they still call these the same today - where they give out the living and family things) those are my concern... but yes, they again are mere theories and no guarantees that these would stand effective
@meerat75 (111)
3 Jan 11
Hello, Finally, tell me the moral of the story........., it should end up like this. It is just like the duty of a police man. While in the uniform, he should be respected and if in the civil, no one know who he is. Like this, we have a lots of thing are taught and just like the learning of parrot, we learn everything without knowing the meaning. These things also the same. Life in principle and practical have difference like this. Some times the elders used to say, 'what I want to tell has told, now everything is upto you'. Like that we are learning for the sake of learning and no one tries how relevant is the same in our practical life. Meera
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Hi meerat, The moral as I see right now is that we need to face the facts and start giving the right education at school - This school is not only the traditional one but the family or home as well. We teach so many things to the kids - do this, do that and you would be good... the kids grow up believing those as true but once out in the real field/arena, they seem so very lost and confused. Then amidst this confusion many go and start walking the wrong paths - further adding up to their misery and more of confusion.
• India
3 Jan 11
Hi man seems to me you have been having a tough time resulting in these bad vibes. about the first one just because some tycoons sleep less does not they have everything in life they will actually be more tension prone and have lesses life span. about the second one it is the younger generation's fault that old age homes are there.they push out the old geezers as they are so materialistic and short tempered. and the last one its true that everyone of us are different, each one of us are born unique.each of us have been born with different thoughts,likes and structures.these are all god's creation. But the casteism and racism is not work of God. ITS WAS OUR MISTAKE!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Jan 11
Hi legspinismylife, The tough times are over dear. They were when I started out walking on the paths of life - the real school. I stumbled for sure as I could not adapt to the fact that all that I learned was so very untrue in the practical arena... Now after more than 20 years of passing out from the school, when my nephew started going to his school I found they still teach the same. I am feeling bad and somewhere scared that my nephew too would face similar dilemma when he steps in the harsh real world.
@ram_cv (16513)
• India
3 Jan 11
It all depends on how you look at life. For 1, yes quite a few people who made more money do not sleep much, but are they healthy? Maybe wealthy, but after a limit how much more wealth does a man need for a peaceful life. Chasing money all their life, is definitely not wise in my books. Don't get me wrong, you need money, but when you have a lease of 60 years as your life, you need to apportion decent amounts of time to other more important things in life!! Also, don't take this comment to mean all rich people as there are quite a few of them who accumulate wealth more wisely, healthily and with a lot more fun. Coming to your second comment, it is really sad that how far have we gone away from our school education on this. The first real reason why human civilization started to prosper was unlike other animals we started taking care of our elders and started profiting from their advice. Not sure where this will lead us to. As somebody said, we are all the same, but some are more same than others :). On this statement though I disagree with the school education as we definitely are not same either in body composition, or mental composition or in terms of culture. But we all do have the same chance of having a great life and it really does not depend on where or how we are currently, but on those couple of attributes called as spirit and attitude. Because after all this is life which no one said will be fair and as Charles Darwin nicely put it is the survival of the fittest!! Cheers! Ram