What if She is NOT Responding???

@mr_pearl (5037)
January 5, 2011 5:48am CST
HI there... I am in a trouble friends and need your help, advice n much more.. I have been into a long distance relationship, maybe for more than an year... Everything was going normal. We had made plans to marry.. I was going to go to her very soon. Suddenly, she stopped writing to me.. No e mails, no messages, no calls... It has been a month since I have read from her.. I feel terrified, worried.. Maybe, it was my mistake that I couldn't write to her often. but that is because I was so busy over-working to make enough money to go to her.... I have been working extra hours to make enough money to go to her... I had told her that! There has been no quarrel or argument.. She stopped, all of a sudden, when everything was normal. I am more than puzzled. I am terrified that my relation is about to shatter. She is not responding to my calls n I have left many voice mails. But no answer!!! What could that be??? Am I lost or have I lost my love of life? Am I destined to live alone without love? What should I do? What would you do? Should I travel directly to her and see what is going on??? Or should I wait for her answer? Feel so lonely and puzzled today... Need help!!! Please help me...
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12 responses
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
5 Jan 11
Hello Mr. Pearl, i would go to check what's wrong with the situation. May be something happened with her, may be something happened with her feelings for you. There can have so many answers, go to check what's wrong, at least you will have the answers from first hand and will see her in real life, which is important.
@isloooboy (1741)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Jan 11
I agree with Sugar and you must find a way to meet her but do not show your pain to her if she is more happy without you (this is also a part of life sometimes).
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
6 Jan 11
Hi Mr.Pearl, You say you have been seeing her for more than a year now so it seems odd that she would just suddenly stop calling like that. My guess would be that maybe something has happened to her??? Do you know any of her family members or close friends that maybe you could call? I wouldn't jump to conclusions just yet on this.
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
Good Day! Try to understand her situation. Maybe there's something wrong that's why she wasn't able to respond but if you smell something fishy then try to figure it out.
@zjdway (26)
• Qingdao, China
6 Jan 11
Hi,friend. One month is so long a time, i don't know how can you bear that.I think you should go to her at once.You both had plan to marry,meybe somthing happen.As a man need to get enough money, also need to make your girl feel the love.Go to her at once,this is my advice.I believe you can find her back.come on
• India
6 Jan 11
Hello...I am really sorry to hear what is currently happening with you. Have faith on love. I will say that please try to give some time in this relationship. Just wait for her to reply back. May be she has got such big problems that she is not able to reply your mails or your calls. May she is having such pressures that she cant handle it properly. In Long distance relationshiip, you hav to give some time. If then also she doesn't reply, just go and meet her. Just make it clear what's actually going on and what she wants. Dont worry. Best of luck!!
• Bahamas
6 Jan 11
tried to post several times today and it didn't go through. Will try now
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
5 Jan 11
Hi sweetie. I know that feeling. Just wait a bit, okay. Remember the last time this happened? I cannot say there isn't anything wrong or not. But i do hope that this is just a small incident. Maybe something went wrong there. I do hope and wish that you 2 will get together eventually. Just be patient for a while longer okay. TATA.
@louievill (17350)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
My friend, find time and the means to find out what is really wrong, so many things could possibly happen but you won't find out if you just speculate and stay where you are sending messages. Sorry to say but it could range from the most common reason to the most unexpected,from something pleasant to the most unpleasant. I would not want to speculate for you so go find out now ASAP and let us all know.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
5 Jan 11
I'm so sorry the situation hasn't improved my friend. Like I have said to you before, I really think you should quit trying to contact her. For whatever reason she doesn't want to contact you and I know that it is hard for you to take this..but, be strong, don't come across as being desperate and leave her be. If she truly loves you she WILL contact you but YOU have to live YOUR life. Please do not do this through other people. Your lady-friend has no idea of your pain does she? So my advice to you is, DON'T show your pain. Get on with your life and, you never know, you may meet someone locally. You have a lovely personality that shines through all of your posts but you are a worrier, I can tell. This is not good for your health..trust me, I've been there. I honestly think that the more you bombard her with voicemail messages and the like, the longer she will ignore you, I'm afraid to say. Personally, I am not the type of person who would do this but many are, unfortunately. Be strong and remember..the MyLot community is here for you always, OK?
@swissheart (6246)
• Romania
5 Jan 11
so as far as i can see you hadn't met live. well maybe she found somebody else. I think the best thing that you should do is simply let her go. if she really cares for you she'll come back. the only thing that you will make with the way you're acting 9sending her lot's of messages) it's to get her angry and decide not to see you again. so listen to my advice;) cheers
@ifa225 (11097)
• Indonesia
5 Jan 11
just positive thinking Mrpearl. i guess she need time to think without you. giver her a week, then you may try to call her again. and when you call her, make it short and tell your feeling clearly.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
Hello my friend, the best thing I can advice is give yourself a week of waiting here reply but continue to try sending SMS or call. If in such time check yourself if you are decided to check personally if you feel you must - go on but be prepared and be positive that something good thing to be happened. For that action she can realized how you are sincere about your relationship to her.. I hope you can do it.. see you around