is it really important to have a son in the family?

Philippines
January 9, 2011 6:14am CST
i have been thinking aside from carrying the family name why is that that really makes a male child really important to have in the family that if a wife cant give her husband a son its really a big disappointment already to the wife. they say that a male child will be the one who will continue the legacy of the family especially if a family has a family business that has been passed from generation to generation its a shame if it wont be continued because there was no male successor. as woman, i can say that women nowadays are really competitive and for me there must be no gender discrimination cause for me it has nothing to do with being competent of someone to continue a family legacy!! i have seen from a tv program that a wife was being ashamed by her in law cause she haven't yet gave her husband a son and there were already been married for so long. for me its really unfair for the wife. i believe that every child born whether a girl or boy must be thanked because it is a blessing from Above. not all couples has been blessed with a baby. a lot of couples dont even have a child at all. i understand that still in asian countries especially on those eastern asia it is vital to have a male child. its part of the culture and traditions. even in our country it is still being prioritize but for me no one should oblige a woman or a couple by whoever to have a male child cause it up to God to bless them with one. we should be thankful for a baby little angel that has been sent from Above!!=))
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@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
10 Jan 11
not really... that is a very conservative and traditional thinking... a baby is a gift from God and we can't choose our gender... we also don't have the power to choose our child's gender... even though human beings had tried scientific ways to increase the likelihood of getting the child with the gender that they want, but the success rate is very slim as we are not God... only God has the power and right to choose our gender as He is our Creator... therefore, we should always be grateful with the child that God has given to us regardless of the gender... take care and have a nice day...
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@isloooboy (1739)
• United Arab Emirates
9 Jan 11
If you live Eastern countries like, Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, Nepal etc. Where strong believe is Son can Protect my Family and my family Roots. Then yes it is important. Let me share one important part of this campaign which I conceived is, "Women is the strong element behind this concept". Why I said like this ?. Because this is the Demand of Mother of the Person (Male) mostly who is a women. Whom she is demanding also a women. Men's are the real victim of this situation because he is the one who is suffering most. Mother's of mens always complaint against there wives and wives always complaint against there mother. So nothing left to men. I strongly disagree with those who say this is happening only those societies where is Man Dominating Societies exist. I saw so many victims of this concept and all of them were Men's.
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
im trying to get your point but i cant seem to understand completely why are the men were the victim of this situation. well i agree they are in way cause they are likely to be pressure most of the time but hey they can do and be who whatever they want w/o worrying about others restricting you from doing. i say still nowadays women are being restricted from doing things that only men were expecting to do
@myzire72 (1157)
• Singapore
10 Jan 11
As far as I'm concerned, I love my children, regardless of whether they are boys or girls. I don't think not having a son in a family is a shame. What matters more is whether the children will be brought up to be useful members of the society.
@de_toya (2433)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 11
I am from Bali, Indonesia. A son in family is very important. That's our custom. If we don't have a son, our possessions will be fall to our heir. Our heir usually our brother or nephew. If there is no brother or nephew, the closest male family are eligible for our possessions. That's why every family in Bali always always pray for the God to have a son. Furthermore, a son believed to be the successor of the family lineage. Indeed, child is a blessing from the God and we should thank for that. However, custom in our society is too strong to be resisted. Since I am a part of society, I have to obey the custom. Ignoring our wife who doesn't give us a son is not an honorable action, after all.
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
Well, no one really said that a baby boy is a must. Although I think a baby boy is better than having a girl financially speaking. When girls grow up they need a lot of things like my sister. She has to have a debut party and everything but a boy doesn't have to celebrate one of those.
@derek_a (10902)
9 Jan 11
I find this whole idea really bizarre because surely the legacy of a family is not in a name, but in the blood. And does even that matter? I don't feel this at all. We are all born alone, not knowing our family until we are old enough to form an opinion,and when we die, we die alone and take nothing with us. No goods we have acquired and not our children whether they be boys or girls. To me, life is a lot more than merely to produce male offspring. My father wouldn't have agreed with me though1 _Derek