how do you know if your doing the right thing with your life????

@ren1982 (341)
January 10, 2011 3:03pm CST
well tomorrow is the big day for me. i am moving away, and hoping that this will be the fresh start i need in life. last year was the worst for me and this one hasnt started so well so far but after tomorrow i really hope my luck will chaange. but i am worried still. what if i am trading one set of problems for another? what if i am doing the wrong thing? i only have a few hours left here but am so scared that i am going to mess up again. how do you your doing the right thing??
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• United States
10 Jan 11
ren, We must not worry about the what if's and look forward. Lat year was the worst year of my entire life. My boyfriend and I are contemplating a move as well, and although I have lived here my whole life I too worry how I will adjust to a new state, and country side as I have been a city person my whole life. However, we must start with a fresh and positive approach and allow all that hurt us in the past simply stay in the past. I so wish you well with your move and try really hard to look forward and only remember back to make improvements. God bless and be well.
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@ren1982 (341)
11 Jan 11
you shouldnt be to worried about changing! i am moving from a city to a very very some little town i think the quiet life will be great! thank you and i hope you work out what you want to
• Ecuador
10 Jan 11
Just follow what your heath and mind tells you to do. Don't pay attention just to one of those two, but pay attention to both, your hearth and your mind, both are really important when you're trying to make difficult decisions. So you'll reach an intermediate point, and you'll choose the make the right decision. Also say a prayer, and hope that everything will go right. Hope that you can get the correct decisions in life.
• Ecuador
10 Jan 11
OMG! What am I thinking about? I mean heart instead of heath in the first line, and in the second one is also heart. Sorry for that. Hope my answer is helpfully.
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@ren1982 (341)
11 Jan 11
haha i do that when i am typing its like i want to type one thing but my hands want to type something else lol. but yes i do understand what you mean! and thank you will be keeping my fingers crossed for this!
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• Ecuador
11 Jan 11
Well I won't cross my fingers haha. But I hope that you can take correct decisions in your life. Just ask God and yourself what is the best in each situation you have to face.
@34momma (13896)
• United States
11 Jan 11
Girl you just have to have faith. you already make the decision so now you have to jump in with both feet and make it work. Like i am creating a new website. I have been working on it now for almost a year. i have no idea if people are going to join, like, or even love it for that matter. All i can do is have faith that i am moving in the right direction and someone loves it. Doubt brings on trouble, faith always takes you moving forward knowing that everything is going to be ok. and even if we stumble and fall, we are still ok
@ren1982 (341)
11 Jan 11
well i am trying to stay hopefull about this move! whats your site about?? hope it works out for you!
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
11 Jan 11
I have two really. my road2freedom.ws site where i host the best money making sites. sites like sideticks. I make it easier for my members to build a downline. then i have my coming soon site for woman called Winner Girl. this sites is geared towards woman but will be for men as well. we will have articles on saving money, love, relationships, health, books clubs, shopping and so much more. I am looking to launch this one is April! I am praying that by this time next year i will be able to quit my job and work on my two websites only! trust me i know how you feel. but you just have to really go for it! I know you will be fine
@MildMix (119)
10 Jan 11
I truly think that no one knows if they are doing the 'right thing' and who can say what that right thing is? As long as you are feeling happy and fulfilled in your life then that should be enough. Moving away is a good idea for a fresh start, but you also need the mindset to go with it, as you can't just run away from your problems (as I'm sure you know!) I know it sounds cliche, but a positive mental attitude really does make a difference and as long as you feel confident in your new venture, I'm sure you will succeed! Good luck.
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@ren1982 (341)
11 Jan 11
i feel more like i am just leaving the problem behind me! i am still feeling scared but still looking forward to the move at the same time
@Lance26 (957)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
You would know if someone tells you so. But ofcourse it's a case to case basis which in this situation may not be applicable at all. The only way you will find out if it's the right thing is to do both things which is totally impossible as you can't go into two places at the same time. What I mean is when you already decided on something, treat it as the right thing. Face it with courage, step forward and don't dwell on things you can't bring back anymore. For every move we make there's a consequence at stake. But if you look on the brighter side, every consequences will make you a better person.
@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
11 Jan 11
I know what you mean. But sadly, there is only one way to find out. Trial and error. Wait and see. Hope for the best, but plan for the worst. you can only do so much and if you have done the best you can, and if fails...which is where my life has been for a long time...what do you do? I don't know. Keep trying, not give up...but then how long or how many times do you allow yourself to fail before you give up and just stop? I can't find the answers to this question. I wish you the best and hope you can figure it out. if you do, please share!
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@ren1982 (341)
11 Jan 11
that is how my life has been so far everytime i am down i just feel like life is there to kick me back down yet again. just one bad thing after another. so i just hope this time i moving for all the right reason so i just hope this time things will be different. if there not? i have no idea what i will do i guess move again. i am not ready to give up on life will carry on in the hope that one day the tables will turn and luck will be on my side. so i hope that you also get better luck this year x
@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
10 Jan 11
I really don't know if I am doing the right things with my life, but what I am doing with my life beats not doing anything at all. If you just sit around never trying to figure out your life, you will never find the road that you should be on. While you are trying to figure out what is right, just trying new and exciting things that enhance your life. Everything we do is a chance that it will turn out to be the right choice, but if it isn't the right choice you should not beat yourself up. You can always take another approach. You have to know that everything you do will not be the wrong choice, but sometime it does happen. Believing in yourself is the right thing to do.
@ren1982 (341)
11 Jan 11
yea i have been sitting around the last few months thinking about change and not doing anything about it. so thats why i have now put my foot down and just packed up my stuff and ready to go today! so i hope this is the right way forward
@ftrazona (224)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
I so love your topic! I remember mulan in this topic. It is actually hard to do the right thing even though it is too easy to do. Why? There are times you think you do the right one but isn't right in the eyes of the other. It's like our actions are observed always and we can't act well that were like asking "what should I do to make those things I did right?" The problem with some people is that they are fond of looking at others mistakes than themselves. So, I advice you.. Whenever, wherever and whatever that would make you more comfortable as long as it is not harmful and degrading to the people you are already doing the right thing. Just be yourself as long as you don't harm and hurt people. You can do whatever you want. Sometimes we messed up and that is normal coz life has always it's opposite. Nobody is perfect. You are not perfect. I am not perfect. They are not perfect. Only NOBODY is perfect in this world. You wanted to change? Change yourself for the better to lessen those mess? That would be great. Be who you are.. We may change some of the negatives we have. We make wrong things right. That's it. People have chances always. We can all acquire it anytime we want coz only one thing wont change - the only word CHANGE doesn't change.
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@ren1982 (341)
11 Jan 11
very true. i just hope this move will mean for all the good things for me
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
10 Jan 11
I guess you'll never know. I'm sure that even those people who think things through would never know, as there could be every bit of unforseen problem down the road. I once heard that 'the things worth doing are the hardest things to do'. So even though it's going to be hard, and you're unsure of yourself, I'm sure you'll pull through and be better for it. Goodluck!
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@ren1982 (341)
11 Jan 11
thank you.... i really hope thats right cos this has been a very hrd thing for me to do but yet i know it needs to be done. lets just hope this is the start to great things!
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
10 Jan 11
Don't worry Ren. I think that we never know if we are doing the right thing. Only the time can show us if it's good or not. Sometimes i accept risky situations and at the end we understand that we had luck and our decision was right, but you can't be sure if you have not experienced it yet. Check how it will be when you move and may be you will feel more comfortable and lucky there, where you go.
@ren1982 (341)
11 Jan 11
i really hope so! i have moved in the past but its just different this time. i just really hope it will be for the best!
@joystick (1680)
16 Jan 11
By now you would have moved and i do hope that it works out well.Not sure where you have moved to, the last thing i remember seeing was that you were after moving to bse suffolk, did you find a place there or have you chosen some where different.Hope all works out well.
@HansonFan (1659)
• United States
12 Jan 11
I am doing the same thing, but my move is months away. I have the same fears as you, but it just feels right. I went to visit there and just loved it, but I am moving away from everything I have ever known with just a friend coming with me. Its very scary, but I am full of hope that everything will turn out right and that I can start over and have a life that I will love there. I am sure you will be fine - look at it as a clean slate and start living life the way you want to. Everything will be fine and over time you will see, you did the right thing!
@GardenGerty (99221)
• United States
11 Jan 11
I pray about the situations in my life, then move on with confidence. If you are afraid and hesitant, you will push your way off the path you need to be on. Focus on the things that you expect to turn out right and it will make it more likely to happen.
@erikmama (12934)
• United States
11 Jan 11
I am sort of in the same situation as you. Last year was one of the worst in my life, and in May I will also be moving out of the city that I have lived for 7 years and now call my home. It is scary, but change is good, especially if you feel that the place you were living or the people there were setting you bak in some sort of way. You just have to be determined. Know what it is you want in life, and set goals to acheive that. It is one day at a time, and take it like that until you get your life in order. At that point start making long term goals for yourself. I wish you the best of luck. If you feel that there is going to be plenty of opportunity for you, go for it. Change is always scary, but it is for the best.
• United States
11 Jan 11
Where are you moving to? If your gut feeling is telling you that it is the wrong move, then you should go there! Move only to a place where you are at least confident enough to say that I will be 70% percent happy with the new location before you even get there. Never move to a place where you tell yourself that I don't really love it, but I think I can get used to it in time. Good luck to you, and keep up your postings here on my lot. I woud like to know how it all works out for you.......
@wydtron (302)
• Portugal
11 Jan 11
You never know if your doing the right thing but you can know if you happy and thats what matters. But sometimes of the bad things you can do in life looking for happiness when you already have it. That was a mistake that i did long ago. Just keep to the basics and you will be happy.
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
11 Jan 11
well, you just have to use your intuition and feelings... also, when i have to make a big major decision like yours, i usually jot down the pros and cons on a piece of paper before i make the decision... this method really helps me a lot in making the right decision... good luck... take care and have a nice day...
@calpro (933)
• India
11 Jan 11
Hi First and foremost thing you need to do is leave and forget the last year which did not give you any fruits. It was over and now you are living in a new year and expecting a fresh start, keep your mind, thoughts fresh and positive. Keep your worries aside, let them not interfere with the current work and spoil it. Just be calm and relax you are going to win this year because you are having a perfect plan to do it and you will execute it perfectly. Never ever think negative in life even in the worst conditions, just think to yourself whatever happened is for the good and that will give you peace of mind. Peaceful mind works effectively and this is my personal experience. Always think luck is just beside and ready to shower on you, by any means you missed an opportunity simply ignore it and get along. Wish and pray you will get all the success you wanted this year. Happy Living Calpro
@SIMPLYD (79655)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
No one really knows for sure when you are to embark on a thing to do if it is the most rightful thing to do. However, when you have done it already, you can already gauge if it is the right thing. If it gives you contentment and happiness , then you know that you did the right thing. However if it did not, then move on and try another thing after carefully examining what went wrong with the first.
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
hello ren1982! I believe that if you are happy where you are going and you think that it will make your dreams come true, then go for it. If you love what you are doing without regrets whatsoever, then you know that you are doing the right thing. Cheers!
• United States
11 Jan 11
Somtimes in order to realize that you are exactly doing the right thing is when you realize your mistakes, and appreciate the good things that happens with your life, remember life is full if struggles, whether you face it or leave it, it works that way sometimes. You just have to make yourself feel comfortable wherever you are and try to think positive of everything that you do and try enjoy and love it, there is no perfect life but we can try make it right the way want to be, how is my words? is it helpful?