A New Year A New Chapter

January 13, 2011 3:55am CST
Hi all... it's been a very long while since I've been here. A lot has changed... hence it's a new year and a new chapter. Just moved in with my fiancee and we're getting married next month, we just finished cleaning up our first home together, which is a 2 story apartment good enough for two people and some company. Basically our apartment is bare as of now since we do not have furniture yet and decors. We do not have a bed yet...we sleep on the mattress placed on the floor. No air conditioning unit yet just fan for now. Little by little we plan to buy new things for our little home, guess this is how it is for starters. What I am happy about is that we never asked both our parents to help us out, or borrowed things from them. We are also spending our own money for our wedding and not go asking around from our parents. I guess we could manage on our own. How was it when you first got married? What were the adjustments you made?
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
13 Jan 11
Congratulations on your up coming marriage. Best wishes to you both. Have you tried asking for what you need on free cycle in your area? People offer things they don't want and many times it is really nice stuff. You can ask for what you need as well. We hardly made any changes. My son and moved in with my hubby into his house. He had no furniture to speak of so I took mine. Like you we moved in together just before the wedding. We did not have a big one because the Navy was sending him away for awhile and he wanted us to be married before he left.
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@gabs8513 (48764)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 11
Hi Vandy Congratulations I bought all second hand for the first time round till I was able to afford new which took a few Years lol But it is one thing at time yes it will take a while but you will get there Have a wonderful Wedding and I wish you all the Happiness on this earth
@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
16 Jan 11
My husband and I actually paid for our wedding ourselves. My mother insisted that she be allowed to buy the wedding cake so we let her do that and my husband's parent's gift to us was a trip to Florida. Other than that, we did it all ourselves. When we moved into our house we had furniture that Tom had had from his prior apartment and then some stuff that I'd already had that belonged to me at my mother's house. We've slowly been filling in those things that we don't have. It isn't easy, but it is our lives and we are happy about that fact.
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
Yes you were not visible for a long time; but my hearty Congratulations for your coming wedding. I hope you all the best. When I first get married, well we did not ask from our parents as we both have jobs and we saved for it. Don't worry everything will be alright as long as you both plan it well.
14 Jan 11
Congratulations!!!!! It is not easy when you get started specially when you dont have enough money. but for me it is a good start to get to know each other and buy together that you both like and enjoy when you are together. There are some adjustments but thru respect, patience, love and trust you can live happy even wihout material thing.
@zralte (4186)
• India
13 Jan 11
Congratulations and hats off on making it on your own. I didn't have a 'Wedding' to speak of. Me and my husband were planning to get married in secret due to some personal reasons (No, I was not pregnant), then his grandmother found out - then it became a family affair. Though I must admit, they made it quite nice. As far as making it with a bare home goes, when we first moved to India, we rented a furnished apartment. When we were moving to the house we are in now, we had nothing apart from few bits and pieces of cooking material. It was made worse by the fact that we moved in the day we were leaving for a Christmas Holidays with his family. We came back to an empty house, by empty, I mean bare. We were living in a fully furnished apartment and here we were, couple of suitcases with our clothes and two or three boxes of books and kitchen stuff. That was it. Wait, we also had one air conditioning unit as our living room in the apartment needed one. Slowly, we started getting things, the first being curtains. And then my mother-in-law sent us old furnitures and well, some of them are new - left over from their old business and such. After 5 years, I cannot believe how much stuff we accumulated. If we have to move tomorrow, we will have problems packing everything now. I guess what I am trying to tell you is that you will soon find yourself with more things than you need. It just takes time.
• Pamplona, Spain
13 Jan 11
Hiya candy, Lot´s of adjustments that´s what I had to make. We did not have a Bed of our own for months we had to have a second hand old one to make do with. Me for instance I had to adjust to living in a Country that was totally foreign to me in all aspects of life. The Food, the way they dressed, the way these people were all of it. I could not speak their language very much either so I had to overcome that by myself and I am glad I have. We lived in a very bad run down flat for three years with a Baby Boy who was continually ill because of the very bad conditions. So we went to England and tried to make a new start there that is another Story. But congratulations to you candy I hope you will be very happy together and that is all what counts really all the rest comes later bit by bit.
• Paraguay
13 Jan 11
well good for you both. i know you could manage everything on your own, just like what we did. when we first got married everything was so good, everything felt great. until now. just feel the love for each other and everything will go on smoothly.
@AmbiePam (47333)
• United States
13 Jan 11
When you get married, maybe the wedding gifts people get you will fill some of the needs you have for your apartment. Are you registered anywhere? Or do you find that presumptuous and you just let people get you whatever they want. When my sister got married, she and her husband were already well established on their own. So they didn't have the need for furniture or any big ticket items. My parents on the other hand had nothing when they got married. So I imagine they were excited with whatever anyone gave them. Maybe your guests will save you a lot of trouble, and just give you pure cash! lol Keep us informed on the wedding. It's so exciting!