What do you do to forget your ex?

@plonka (21)
Canada
January 17, 2011 9:29pm CST
This might be a corrent topic but Im having a really hard time trying to stop thinking about my ex. the tricky thing here is that I still get to see her once in a while as we have lots of common friends, so its not an easy task to just completely cut the links between us, which would probably be the thing to do anyways but it would be stupid as it would keep me from seeing friends... So my question is, how do you manage to change your mind about an ex, in a situation like mine? thanks everyone
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12 responses
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
That's tough. The first thing to do would be to keep yourself busy so that you wouldn't have time to think about her.
@plonka (21)
• Canada
18 Jan 11
Yea i try hard to do this but it always hits me when i have a moment alone or when i go to bed and stuff like that. But yea I guess to give it time is the only solution :(
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
that's sad that you're somewhat not in good terms with your exgirlfriend. i hope that you two will talk as friends in due time. but for now, if there still ill feelings left, try to avoid -- places and gatherings that you both can possibly bump to each other. i know in time, you'll be just fine. finding new friends or interest can help, believe me. i've tried and it worked. try to free your mind whenever she enters your head. it's okay to think about her sometimes but don't spoil your head.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
18 Jan 11
Moving on with your life is the best way to forget an ex. Being bitter and resentful does nothing for helping you through it. It just keeps the anger you feel new. before you know it, you have someone new in your life and your ex is but a memory.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
18 Jan 11
there are many things but the only real one is to give it time, we'll never pass our life loving someone that was not meant to us like forever now thinking about this person's flaws, the bad times together helps to get through cause when we love or miss someone, wanting to get back together i think we make them perfect and we have to remind our selves constantly that they are not perfect
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
You're in a difficult situation especially when you still keep seeing each other. Judging from what you are saying, you might still have feelings for her this person because you are bothered by her presence. Well, I am in the same situation when I was in high school especially that we were classmates and I still liked him a lot. At first, I started thinking all the bad things about him and making myself busy with other stuffs so I don't get to notice him. That helped only a little. But the very things that rid emotions about him is when I started dating again. You should find yourself another woman.
@czylove (33)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
eventually you've got to let go your ex so that you can move on to bigger and better things. it might seem impossible at first, but try flirting with others, even if you don't like them, eventually you'll find one you like.
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
18 Jan 11
" as soon as I kiss the lips of another woman, I'm gonna forget about you "
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
If you really want to forget him, you have to sacrifice some of the things you used to do especially with him, and that is hanging out with your common friends. Though this seems a hard thing to do but you need to do it or else you keep on reliving the past. Avoid going to places or do activities that will specifically remind you of him and the things you shared with him.Develop a new hobby and a new interest. This will help you stop thinking of him. Go and meet other people. It is time to meet other guys. Just like the old adage says 'if you want to forget a man the best thing is to fall for another.; Sounds silly but this works. Not really forcing yourself to fall in love again but at least try to open your heart to someone else. See the goodness in other men. Keep busy. Goodluck.
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
Greetings! I know it feels to be in that kind of situation. Its not easy to forget the person especially if you always see something that has connection to her but its okay. Cry and cry, feel the pain until it hurts no more. That's what I did when my ex boyfriend broke with me. I cried til there no more tears that I could cry. Its okay to see those things that has connection to her, just feel the pain until you'll realize that you're tired of crying. Time also heals wounds. As time passes you'll learn to forget a person. Just do everything that can make you happy. :)
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
18 Jan 11
The thing you should do to forget her is to let yourself get over her and do not think about the things you've been through.Try to contact new more things and do something that you like to let you get out of that trouble.You should start a new life and everybody can't live in the past,life is moving on and i believe that as time goes by,you may start your new life.
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
gud day plonka. it's an uneasy situation ryt? you always get to see you're ex because of common friends.but what i did to forget or cope up with life is that i stopped any form or communication with my ex.in cases you can't avoid to see or meet her,just be civil with her.
• Canada
18 Jan 11
I'd have to say pretty much the same thing as jricky1. I know how hard it is having an ex involved in the same friendships that I had, but luckily, I was younger. Being a younger person (if you are) is very hard when dealing with relationships. Who's side are the friends taking? and Will she be at so-and-so's house? among other questions will stay on your mind for a long time, but try not to let it. Get out! Enjoy something new for a change. Something that, if your ex heard about you doing would make her think, "I lost someone amazing". Don't be hard on yourself and don't let her be hard on you either. Forgive each other and start a better life looking for someone new. Plus, every time that you do see her, approach her and talk to her like you would any of your other friends. Show her it doesn't bother you and eventually it won't.