How to deal with our parents after a long time we no longer live with them?

@mayrah (1037)
Philippines
January 21, 2011 4:10am CST
Honestly, I am still living with my parents up to this point in time. I sometimes long to be independent but I'm afraid I will miss the time I should spent with them during these years. However, I just wonder how does the relationship become affected after a long time of separation with them. Is it really awkward or something when you came back living again with them after those years of separation? How do you adjust with that kind of situation?
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@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
21 Jan 11
It can be of various reasons. Mostly after the marriage, girls will be with the boy or boys parents. Occasionally or based on certain requirements we may visit the parents. In such cases, it is alright. But in rare cases, there may be certain issues or divorce, or any kind of issues, girls may compelled to come back with her parents after separation. In such cases, relationships are the most important matter. Mutual understanding and other family members should have the love to accommodated the separated person. However, for a long period of time, it is not advisable. Still, the girl is working and a portion of income giving to parents expenses and mutual understanding on such matters will reduce the effect. However, as a daughter, I think parents never say not in any case. But all depend on the situation. Thank-s
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@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
hi, actually i am separated to my parents,amd i lived semi-independent, and sometimes i missed them, so every Sunday i always visit them and stay for s whole day with them, i think living with them again after separation is no need to adjust.
@isloooboy (1741)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Jan 11
I must say its very interesting question although I am also living my parents but I know one thing, "Every Mom & Dad Love's there Child's no matter what circumstances they face". So they always welcome you without demanding anything but they want some respect which you must give them by listing there point of view which is based on experienced. So there is more than 70% chances what they are saying to you will be the same way which they described.
@bird123 (10431)
• United States
22 Jan 11
If you are about to leave home to live on your own for the first time, you will not want to go back and live with them after you have been on your own. You will have the freedom to have a life on your own. You will appreciate your parents more. The visits home will become special for you both. Time to leave the nest. It's the way it's supposed to be.
@bird123 (10431)
• United States
22 Jan 11
If you are about to leave home to live on your own for the first time, you will not want to go back and live with them after you have been on your own. You will have the freedom to have a life on your own. You will appreciate your parents more. The visits home will become special for you both. Time to leave the nest. It's the way it's supposed to be.
@Sreekala (18787)
• India
22 Jan 11
Hi mayrah, I think it varies on situations. In case of boys if they got a job in a different place then they have to move and may visit parents once in a year. In case of girls, the jobs also a reason for leaving the parents and relocate but mainly marriage is the ultimate reason for leaving the parents. In my case, I am living away from parents (with my hubby and kids in a different place) and if I get a chance to go back and live with them it will be great for me. I don’t think there will be any particular problem or uneasiness will arise to stay with them. If anybody left their parents after making some issues then it is difficult to get back to the parents and stay with them like earlier.
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
It gets weird after living without them but you'll get used to it. There'll be some adjustments though because I'm sure you've acquired some habits you weren't doing when you were still with them but they'll get used to it. They're your parents after all.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
21 Jan 11
Striking out on our own changes our relationships with our parents. there is nothing we can do to stop this from happening. It means we are growing up as children. Parents need to accept this as much as we do. Sometimes we can even have a better relationship with our parents when we are no longer living with them.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
In the Philippines it's quite common to live with arents until one gets married. I'm one of the few who don't. At 25, people sometimes gets awed at how I live on my own. I am often asked if I ever get lonely because I live alone in my apartment. I am actually enjoying it. However, I make it a point to see my mom every two weeks, at the very least. She lives just two hours away anyway. I find it that my relationship with my family has actually gotten better when we started living on our own. I have two older brothers. We come home to our mom some weekends and on special occasions and whenever we see each other we are more affectionate since we don't see each other most of the time. When we lived together in one house we opften did not pay attention to each other and had fights. I think it would be good for you to be independent but ,aintain a good relationship with your parents and see them regularly.