HELP! Is it Dual or Split Personality or Astrology or Anything Else?

@thesids (22455)
Bhubaneswar, India
January 23, 2011 9:56am CST
Hi MyLotters, I have a strange question here - Over the days, I think I am more confused than ever. I always remain undecided for long time whenever I have to make a choice or even understand things - no no, the understanding is not related to books or readings - it is in general. I always want perfection but there is some one or thing or whatever you call it, somewhere that tells me perfection is never achievable and only God has that ability. The problem that I face regularly due to this is my work... I always feel I can do better than this and do mess up frequently and that results in delays. But I am rarely satisfied - though everything works out well. Some say it is the Dual Personality or even Split Personality. I read on one of the books from Linda Goodman (Sun Signs) that it is because of Zodiac and Astrology... (I am a cusp Virgo and Libra and Date of birth is 23 Sept, if that can help) And I am more confused as to which/who is correct. Your Suggestions would be appreciated. Cheers, theSids.
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• United States
23 Jan 11
Personally I feel that we all have some form of split personality. I do not believe anyone is perfect. I can be the most loving person in the world and someone step on my toes the wrong way and another side of me may appear to much of a surprise. I think the so many issues in life cause us to be who we are not from time to time. It is knowing how to stop, take a step back, and or control it that I find where people start labeling others when they simply can't.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi HWG, I think defense or retaliating when hurt is a right for all and that should not be considered as a split personality, but whatever, yes, I too would be harsh on anyone who hurts me I have the issues but they are always less as compared to everyone around... People are having so many things to do in 24 hours but if I can be honest, I do not have that much... I dont have to get dressed to be presentable and drive to office or have a botheration that if I do not deliver on time, I would be jobless etc. Maybe the non-availability of these issues makes me too conscious and ignites the problems
• United States
24 Jan 11
First off what happen to GF, no more. Kidding sweetie just wanted to shed a smile. I think where you say: Maybe the non-availability of these issues makes me too conscious and ignites the problems Maybe like me you are your worse critic, in others words for me I always expect more out of me then is necessary, no??
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
The GF is still here close to my heart as always Yes, I believe that I am more a critic when it comes to me and that is one reason I think which is responsible for so much confusion around
@mimoy36 (40)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
i think your a bit of perfectionist, that's why you can seem to be contented on the things you did. and maybe that is why you sometimes, you can't seem to decide because you feel or fear that maybe you can make a better choice later so you'd rather not make any right now, although this is from my experience. i don't know if it is the same with you. but if it is, i try to be contented to what i did. thinking that this is the best that i could do, in this span of time. there is this saying that,(i am rephrasing) "a man's decision represents his best judgment at the time." and so, it is possible that you could have made a better choice maybe later on in life but as of now, that is your best choice, so we should be happy with it. :) so, these are what i learned from my self reflections, i hope i helped even just a little bit. hope you'll find your answer. have a nice day. :)
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi mimoy, Welcome to MyLot You are quite right. I am having so many shades right now - I try to be a perfectionist, then try to be a child (two opposite traits) and this starts the whole set of problems... I think I am still evolving and trying to find exactly what I want to be... I cannot ignore the child in me as it is responsible for my staying happy. Yes, You are very true in this - I must stay contended with what I have at the moment and I should go with it.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
23 Jan 11
I think you just really care about your work. I also think that sometimes when we put a lot of stress on ourselves to be perfect...that is when we sometimes fall our shortest. Pressure can be a hard thing to deal with espceially if you are putting it on yourself. My Libra daughter would sit for hours at a very early age trying to make the toy she just got look just like it did on the box. She would be frustrated if she felt it didn't look the way she wanted it to. She was also very funny about her clothes. She had it in her mind when she woke up what she wanted to wear that day. The toy incidents was when she was two or three and the clothes from the time she was seven. I don't know if it has anything to do with being a Libra but it's similar. Take care.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi JenInTN, As you mention this I realized yes I am getting extra careful about my work and somewhere I realize now that this does add to the stress. "She would be frustrated if she felt it didn't look the way she wanted it to" That is me for sure
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
The horoscope doesn't have anything to do with that. Just focus on getting the job done and you'll get the job done.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi frontvisions, Maybe you are right, it seems I lose the focus at times due to my thoughts and doubts. I will try out to be more focused on getting the things done first and then... Hope that it resolves some of the confusion
• United States
23 Jan 11
First,there is nothing wrong with you. You are just a Libra and it takes you more time to decide. As for striving for perfection? That can be hard. All you can do is your best. Take each task and do it the best way you can and then move on. But Bhai , please don't be hard on yourself.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi behen, I should do my best and that is where the problems arise... I try doing my best for all but once I start nearing the end of a phase/module I feel that this can be done better... then I start off with experimenting and there starts more confusions. I should (I know I should) learn to draw a line and not get much into revision of my work as a critic of it
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• United States
24 Jan 11
I'm your polar opposite. I think of a method , I do it the best I can and I move on. What we have in common is I rarely think I did it the Best Ever! I just did it my best at the time.
@vandana7 (57192)
• India
24 Jan 11
Hi thesids, I dont believe in Linda Goodman's Sun Signs, or any other astrological stuff, but yet I do read them off and on because if there is something good in them, I hope it will happen. Whenever they say something bad, I am happy enough saying this is not going to happen to me because the good forecasted a few days ago didnt happen. :) So that is my stand as far as astrology and therefore, dual personality and stuff doesnt make sense to me. Being perfectionist is not always right thesids. It makes us miserable, it makes people we deal with miserable, and it makes people around us miserable. Not to mention there would jealous lot who would try to undermine our perfection. :) Things need to be kept in perspective. When you have time, you can review and make it better than before. But if you dont, stick to the objective and complete the task in time. Since you are already a perfectionist, part of that nature would ensure that the quality of your output is not bad. :)
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi Vandana, So very true - It makes us miserable, it makes people we deal with miserable, and it makes people around us miserable I feel that happening right now and so I started this discussion. I see people around feeling not so good when I try to re-do and get things delayed or anything. I know I am not a perfectionist yet as if I would have been one, things would have been simple and easy on many occasions... the process is on and maybe getting over me many a times. I think I need to tame my instincts and keep them the right way... at the moment they are lost and the focus seems to be something else which is not so correct and good
@piya84 (2591)
• India
24 Jan 11
Thats normal and i think many people face it.Its just not you and no i dont think so it has anything to do with astrology either.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi Piya Thought it is an Indian name and so looked at your profile and hey you are from Pune my favorite place in India - How is life there? I miss E-Square and the food stalls. Yes, many people face such a thing - I am sure of this. As for me, I dont believe in Astrology but yes, I did read that Linda Goodman Book just for finding out if it had anything for me to understand the Why of this
@Hatley (157944)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jan 11
hi thesids it is simply put being a human being and a perfectionist. Being a human we are never perfect but we can sure as h get darned close to it. That streak of perfectionism in you makes you already do much better work than others so you are just trying to over do what is already so close to perfect nobody is upset but you with it. Calm down stop when its as good as you can do and rest on that, Trust yourself that you have done the best you know how to do, turn around and walk away. As a fellow mylotter told me Do your best and God will do the rest. hugs.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Dear Ms. Hatley You are so very right. I should calm down, stop and do as good as I can at the first try... Then leave everything for the client and God. I believe the childishness, impatience get high on me sometimes and they play their role in this. Warm
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
My dear friend,I guess you are just stress out with your work. Maybe you just always seek perfection to your job that is why you are pressured on it. I suggest you take a breather,try to unwind,give yourself a break! You can always do your work but see to it that you are ready and in a peaceful mind to do it. Honestly,I don't believe in those zodiac signs and astrology effects,it is still in our own will on what could be and will be the outcome of what we want to do and achieve. In everything you do,say a prayer,it sure helps! See yah!
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi mtr, Yes, I too realize that I need a vacation now... been almost a year that I went out for a couple of days and that is one of the reasons for this. I agree with you that ultimately it is our own will and determination that gets us the goodies or the baddies
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 11
Hi Sids, i guess you are better if you don't read that forecast just believe in yourself that you don't belong to any sign. you are what you are, and you can have that perfection by practicing not by reading sign. just read the success people's biography. i believe you can motivate yourself to be perfect.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi ifa, i guess you are better if you don't read that forecast Oh, I rarely read any of these because I dont believe the daily ones. I read Linda Goodman's book only to find a reason I thought maybe she has got some goodies that would help me and they did help me add another line on the discussion And also I dont read any of these successful people's biographies they are all to heavy and kind of boring to me - I know I would gain a few bits of knowledge but things that happened with them will not fit me maybe I can derive something fit for me though. You are right I can be perfect by practicing and not by reading the signs.
@jamed28 (1910)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Now I see! You are a perfectionist that why. As the old saying says "Nobody is perfect" my friend, and no one will be. But at least we can push ourselves near to that. I think if you want to be perfect you need to accept your mistakes first. We commit mistakes and if don't want to accept that then from that point already you cannot be perfect.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi Jamed, I think if you want to be perfect you need to accept your mistakes first. You are right my friend, I think I am over-critical of my work and this is one negative shade that I feel about it. I should start with overcoming this first and then re-analyze
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
hello thesids, Focus,you maybe lacking of it. Not dual personality or whatever,thu every individual has it's mood swing. When we lack focus on something/work/project/plan,surely we will mess up on that particular issue that we are facing. Interests- is one factor also that could affect our mood. If you lost interest with your subject,then most probably you won't finish anything in due time. Fun-if you are not happy or not enjoying what you are doing,you feel bored,so,you will lost interest and focus. Why not give yourself some space...relax and breath. Go somewhere and treat yourself ,just for a day do unusual thing that you haven't done in your life (don't rob a bank okay hahahha..) Have a great weekdays dear
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Jan 11
Hi Jaiho, It is not that I dont love my assignments. I do love them and am happy to do them. But yes, as you mention I need a break and a vacation coz its been a long long time that I went on one
@jamed28 (1910)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Now I see! You are a perfectionist that's why.... As the old saying says "Nobody is perfect" my friend, and no one will be. But at least we can push ourselves near to that. I think if you want to be perfect you need to accept your mistakes first. We commit mistakes and if don't want to accept that, then from that point already you cannot be perfect.