What if your elementary crush started communicating to you after so many years?
By kimikohime
@kimikohime (119)
United States
January 23, 2011 2:48pm CST
This is my story. I have this crush when I was in 6th grade. That time, he was in high school already, and he knows I have a crush on him as well. We sometimes talk because we were just neighbors. I really like him that time, but never did have the chance to tell him the fact that, I feel I'm just a kid and he's way older than me. Then came the time he's about to graduate in High School, and worse part is, he's gonna move to a different place. When he graduated, I never did get the chance to see him, nor did I ever get to say good bye to him. That was the year 2000.
I was really sad that time, and wasn't able to move on for 3 years. I tried to find him on social network sites but no luck, until I completely forgot about him. Just last year, I had a surprise friend request on Facebook. It was him! He found me on Facebook! I was a bit excited, but I learned that he is already married. What hurts is that, he told me he also like me way back then but didn't had the chance to tell me too. Constantly, when I'm online, he chats with me on Facebook, but I don't bother reply to him anymore the fact that he's already married.
I was actually dumbfounded. Now we are just friends. But I am happy for him.
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10 responses
@shaggin (71676)
• United States
29 Jan 11
Well if he was in high school and you were only in 6th grade it wouldnt have mattered how much he liked you. You were to young for him to date. It is sad sometimes when you find out that people got married because then they are off limits but you can at least chat and be friends since you cant be anything more. I think it would be fun to reconnect with an old boyfriend from when I was in 5th grade but not for romantic reasons just to be like hey remember me?
@hlgmdt (300)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
I don't see anything wrong with having communications with an elementary crush as long as both of you know that your communication is also for friendship purposes and nothing more. I have said this because the guy is already married but has admitted that he had feelings for you, too, in the past...My point is just to be a little careful not to rekindle so much of what happened in the past...Why don't you just continuing communicating once in a while? After all, you are friends. However, if you think that you're beginning to feel something again for the guy, then that would be the time to assess if you really need to totally stop communicating with him.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Well I think it's okay to reply to him, and it's actually a good thing you saw each other again. After all, you were friends when you were young. However, if communicating with him rekindles old feelings, then I guess it's wise not to do so. You will end up being hurt again. It's good to remind yourself that he's a married man and can only be a friend to you. Childhood crushes really leave a mark. I can still remember mine. I had a crush on him for three years but he told me I was ugly. When we grew up, it seemed as if the situation was reversed: he was quite a good-looking boy but looks entirely different now. I, on the other hand, was a dirty, ugly kid but I think I grew up to be nice-looking. So when we found each other on a social networking site I was very sure he was eating his heart out.
@markroderick (888)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
For sure I will be surprise but it will remain until there. Or maybe if he is still single for sure it would be okay. But if he is married just like your crush I guess I would still chat with him but of course there is a limitation when it comes to being friends with him. Even if he would tell me that he also like me way back then, but it wouldn't change a thing too that he is already married. So being friends is just okay.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Jan 11
It would be a good feeling to be rememebered by a grade school crush after so many years. It would bring a boost of self confidence that could be missing. It doesn't mean you have to give up your life because a past crush is now showing interest. It can bring a positive feeling to your life though.
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
24 Jan 11
Lol. you should not resist talking to him because he is married. Just be grateful that you were able to connect. I recently found the object of my first crush back in 1st grade and she is married. She never knew I had a crush on her but she said she felt flattered. We say hello from time to time on facebook. No harm done. If he is chatting with you and trying to start a romantic relationship with you, then you know that he is not the one you want since he is married and that would be cheating on his wife. So chat with him once a month or so and remember a simpler time. If you concentrate on remembering the people in the school that youi both knew, you would be surprised at how much fun you would both have.
@geonelynn (369)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
if it was me? wow i would be excited and flattered! i mean my crush in 6th grade still is my ULTIMATE CRUSH!! even though i am engaged now, i still have a crush on him and by fiance knows about it. i know he got married and has one child but they separated ways and now he is currently in a relationship. if he would communicate with me it would be awesome, but of course i know the boundaries and i am currently in love so it would not be a problem.. i would not even consider it flirting if we keep in touch in FB. just two old friends catching up. i mean it would be nice to know how what he had been doing the past years.
just communicate with him it will be nice to know what he has been up to and try to reminisce good old days, just know your boundaries.
God bless!!
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
23 Jan 11
What is the harm of replying to a friend??? Be his friend. Life is funny. If you two are true love, he won't stay married long. Sometimes people get married only because they feel it's time. Look at the divorce rate. Regardless, it never hurts being a friend. Chemistry is usually there because you need to learn from each other. Time will tell.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Sometimes our own feeling will push us to be sad but no choice should be accepted the reality that those unreveal love story still unable to be reel. In your part it is better to just a friends relationship than to a deeper one because as you know he has family and don't ever think to be in between with them... see you around
@angel_of_privacy (66)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
it's nice when we reconnect with people we haven't heard from in years.
recently, i've been catching up with people from my elementary and high school days and its been great.
some of these people have been my crush as well and they knew about it. we just laugh about it now that most of us are married or in a relationship.
there is no harm in chatting with your "crush" just learn to set boundaries. when you think the conversation is starting to get a little uncomfortable, raise the red flag and tell him. this way, you will regain your friendship with him but in a straight, non-romantic way.
