Do you get mad if your husband looks at pretty, young girls?

Philippines
January 26, 2011 10:41pm CST
Hey wives out there, do you get jealous of this actions of your husband? If he looks at other girls, do you feel annoyed? In the first place do we have to feel annoyed? I used to think that I will not mind this, because often I see him check out pretty girls, but that's alright with me. But of course, everything has its limits. I don't know probably I just woke up at the wrong side of the bed, that's why I suddenly feel jealous when I used to not feel that way at all. I am normal, aren't I? I mean it is not only me who feels this way? I am going to post another question but is answerable by the guys/husband. Feel free to say your opinion on this, wives out there!
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15 responses
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
28 Jan 11
Well I'm not married but if a boyfriend looked at a pretty girl I'd be mildly annoyed but I'd have to keep in mind that its normal to look as long as thats all that he dose, and he doesn't go too far out of his way to check someone else out. its tolerable, but if the boyfriend or husband had a history of unfaithfulness I would feel a bit insecure and angry if he looked at another girl but if we had a stable happy relationship it would not bother me too much if he just took a quick glance.
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@careguarden (5674)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Hello aileen. Well for me, I should think first before getting annoyed to my husband because I know that my hubby is human and of course he might get attract to those pretty girls in the street. Just like me, I get attract also to those handsome boys. But that's only attraction not affection. If I totally see my hubby in the other girls hand, that's the time I get mad and think to kill them...
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@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
27 Jan 11
YES OFCOURSE I DO. I am too possessive and this sucks. I forbid him to look at any chicks in real or online. I know a guy who is hooked to this site with young sexy russian chicks - i think it is datesexychicks (dot) info I am not sure of right url but wotevr it is totally wrong and weird. u r righ to feel jealous and even angry at him .
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@lizmik143 (138)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I don't have a husband but I sometimes see husbands sneaking a stare upon a passing or approaching pretty and sexy girl. And the bad thing is the wife is just right there although she is not aware. I usually see this in the mall. And it irked me every time especially if the husband would really follow the pretty girl with his stare. I know it is normal with men to do that but hope they can be discreet as possible. And of course, it only ended there.
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27 Jan 11
It used to make me mad but i have been with my hubby 11 years and i trust him and i accept that he may look at other women,there is always something in another womans looks that isnt in me and as long as he looks and doesnt touch i happy.also as long as he doesnt do it then when i catch him hes will says eww shes ugly because if i knoe shes not i would be mad as id rather him be honest and positive about her there negative and lie when he is thinking the opposite.this is a agreement me and my hubby have and it works well and keeps us trusting and honest.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Hi there aileen, You are normal.. =) I, myself feel annoyed whenever i noticed my husband staring and checking out other girls especially in front of my face. I felt insulted, i mean why am i there if he is just going to look at other girls while he's with me, right? I already told him i felt bad whenever he does that and he told me that he's just appreciating beauty and joked there is nothing to worry about, that i only should feel annoyed if i find him checking out BOYS instead of girls. hahah.. well, i guess, boys will always be that way. As long as they are not doing anything more than just staring at pretty girls, then everything is still normal.
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@ally12 (1205)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I think its already impossible to tame men from looking at other pretty girls out there, but to feel mad or annoyed is depending on how he did the act.Quick glance is fine he isnt blind after all, but to stare for a minute as if he's waiting for that girl to notice his staring and have an eye contact then thats what will surely drive me so mad. Its like showing total disrespect to your partner especially if the wife is just an inch away from you.
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@EdnaReyes (2631)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Well, I'll put it this way, I'm not mad but a little annoyed. But I also get flattered cause my husband still know how to appreciate youth and beauty. If he will ignore this sight, I will be more disturbed,why, has he lost that ability to appreciate beauty? He's not the man I used to know if that ever happen!
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• Philippines
3 Feb 11
I believe that it is human nature. Before, I used to be mad with my husband looking at pretty girls, but somehow I came to understand that it is really human nature, because I find myself looking too..haha.. Pretty girls are really nice to look at to, so I don't mind my husband at all. He can look at whenever he wants as long as it only ends there. But he really doesn't stare that long, just glancing. Staring for too long is far different story, he might have something going on his mind. I have to intervene if that happens.
@toniganzon (27765)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
I think we can say that it's normal for wives to get jealous when their husbands are checking our pretty young women. So i am actually considering myself as belonging to the not normal category. In fact even when we were just dating i didn't mind him checking out other girls, coz he just looked at them to appreciate their beauty and not to sleep with them. Sometimes i would do the same and try to check out beautiful women and when i see one i tell it to my husband and we both would make our comments. There's actually a difference between appreciating pretty girls and drooling at them. My husband never drools.
@djbtol (5503)
• United States
28 Jan 11
It's not right, but it is as natural as rain for a man's eyes to notice an attractive female. If they are young, with perfect body, tight clothes and showing a little skin it is all the harder to miss. But I fully understand it is not fair for the wife. She should not have to put up with too much of that. The man needs to keep his heart and his eyes focused on the one woman he loves. (By the way, don't assume that the wandering eye means he loves some other woman, or that he would leave you.) The wandering eye is not so much an issue of the heart, as some other place. In addition, I think a lot of wives look at the younger woman and say 'How am I supposed to compete with that?" And of course, the correct answer is, you don't have to compete. Rather that blasting your husband with a fiery tongue or freezing him out with coldness, I would recommend that you have a conversation about it. Be honest, understanding as possible of his ways, but make sure you share how you feel. Keep working on that open communication, and make him want to keep his heart at home.
@shaggin (12279)
• United States
28 Jan 11
No I never had a problem when my ex looked at hot girls. Usually I was looking along with him and we would make a game out of looking through the mall seeing who could find the hottest girl. His taste is terrible though so we never agreed. Usually he looked at girls who were real young and I was like you'd have to check id to see if they were even of age. Nothing wrong with looking as long as they dont touch thats what I think. Theres also a fine line to be talking to women and flirting with them. If your in a relationship with someone and you flirt with someone else sometimes it can lead to other things which isnt a good idea.
@llbo1981 (1242)
• China
27 Jan 11
I don't get mad if my husband looks at pretty and young girls,although i am not a woman.Looking at pretty and young girls is a habit of all the men on the earth.Only the man is trustable to you,give him a freedom
@emine08 (1531)
• Indonesia
27 Jan 11
hi aileen.... it is interesting question. honestly, i will not get mad to my husband. if it is in normal condition. i means if he just see the pretty girl in mall for example. but if he is too far or out of limits, of course i will mad at him. it is normal.
@sender621 (14970)
• United States
27 Jan 11
It used to irritate me when my late husband would look at a pretty girl walking by. It used to annoy me. i guess looking is better than touching though.