What makes a wife happy?

@zeciram (161)
Philippines
January 31, 2011 8:54am CST
A little while back, I started a discussion on how to deal with a stubborn husband. For a while, I've been an unhappy wife of a husband who could not care less. Two weeks ago, I decided to talk to my husband and settle the problem which he thinks I manage to create all by myself. Anyway, it took quite a while to convince him that we have a problem but I succeeded to make him realize what have been happening in our marriage. It was not a smooth discussion at all. There were shouting almost all came from me. Tried to do what was advised... to speak to him nicely but it did not work. I realize that diplomacy does not always work. It depends on the person. Nevertheless, I am glad that he acknowledges our problem and we are now in a happy place in our life. I think what makes a wife happy is knowing that her husband understands and cares about her and the family. What do you think? Have you ever been an unhappy wife?
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13 responses
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
I'm happy with our relationship,but as a couple we can't avoid misunderstanding. Husbands in general are insensitive because they say "they are practical person." They are not aware on every single detail of what was happening in your relationship (based on my experience as a wife). So before we got to sleep, we talk for awhile about the whole day, because i believe that bedroom talk before sleeping is the best way stop gap in our relationship.
• India
1 Feb 11
Hi dear, Understanding each other is the best SIMPLE way to have a better and ever lasting love life between h/b and wife. Yes and I support you that the base discussion on the day to day issues privately get a better knowledge on the subject and it is a base for the mutual understanding. Thank-s
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
yeah correct. Thank you too. I hope couples who are struggling may try this simple way of conversation yet has a marvelous outcome.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
i agree with you. i was also been through similar to this. it was hard because i was suffering and he doesn't even know and was not aware of what i have been going through. we went through hell discussing about it but still we got through it and things are better now :)
@zeciram (161)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Hi! Yes, that is always the problem. Some husbands are so pre-occupied that they become insensitive to the feelings of their wife. Good to know that you are working things out with your man. Thanks!
31 Jan 11
I also believe that you need understanding and to know they care aswell as respect you,i was unhappy for along time and things are still not great but have and still are improving.
@zeciram (161)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Glad that you are working out your problems little by little. Never lose faith! Thanks!
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
i believe one way or another, and at some points and time in their lives, wives felt unhappy. simple, it is because couples compose of two different individuals that grew in different types of families, and lived with also another set of different kinds of people, or friends, or acquaintances, etc, etc. because of that it is, needless to say, not possible for the both of them to be complementing with the same ideas all the time. what i am saying is, there will always be misunderstandings and arguments. what makes a wife and a husband happy is the fact that they know they love each other so much that they are willing to talk things out and save the relationship if it is going rocky. good discussion!
@zeciram (161)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
I totally agree! Thanks!
31 Jan 11
In our two years of marriage, I have not been an unhappy wife. My husband knows how to listen and how to speak. I also understands his being private person. Sometimes, we tend to be sweeter than our husband and we are actually waiting a sweeter response. I know when my husband is tired and needs to rest, this is the time when he is not that sweet. However, when he is in the mood (most of the time), he cuddles me a lot. I love it when he take care of my child. He is a hands on father. He is very vocal when he is not in the mood to play with her. I don't push him to do a thing that he doesn't want to do. We are honest to each other. I am happy that your problem with your husband is settled. At the end of the day, it would be you and your husband that would really fix it.
@zeciram (161)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Hi! You are one lucky woman! I'm happy that you have that kind of relationship with your husband. Like you, I also love it when my husband takes care of our baby. I am not a needy wife, I do not demand anything from him except for him to consider us in every decision he makes and accept the fact that he is married and now a father. I don't even mind if he is not sweet. I'm glad that everything's fine now. Thanks! Happy mylotting!
@AKRao24 (18317)
• India
31 Jan 11
Dear Zeciram! It is very common to have differences between a wife and husband as these are two different individuals with different physical and mental constitutions and all the while living together for a common cause. I think almost every couple have some or other sort of differences all the while in their lives, which is a normal phenomenon. The art of living is to convert these negative feeling into the positive ones by talking these problems frankly with the spouse! For me any wife together with minimum physical needs required for a comfortable life , requires a mentally satisfying husband, This she anticipate in the form of a caring and caressing husband who has dedication, consideration and sacrificing attitude towards her! A wife with a husband in whom she confers her confidence and is sure that he will take care of her in any situation is one who is most blessed one and she can achieve any thing in her life! Thus I think together with all physical needs a husband should take care of the emotional needs of a wife to have a smooth and purposeful life! This will be reflected in the future of the children who are brought up in such a wonderful environment, as they have tasted the fruit of success from this type of behaviour from the parents, they would definitely try the same in their lives to make it a successful one! We should remember that for most of the children their parents are Role Models! Thanks !
@zeciram (161)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Hi! I super like your response. It embodies every sentiment of a wife. Wives need emotional support above everything else. Thanks for sharing! Happy mylotting!
@nyka08 (411)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
i totally agree with you. i'm not married right now but i am currently in a stable and committed relationship and i'm happy and satisfied. i think mutual understanding is applied in any relationship for it to be a strong and happy one. for a wife to be happy, d husband should acknowledge her wife's feelings and needs. it is also important that both parties should be open to one another so that the problems are looked into and resolved early before it becomes worse.
@zeciram (161)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Yes, you're right. Sometimes some men do not understand because they refuse to communicate openly. They don't appreciate the importance of a good open communication. Thanks! Happy mylotting!
• India
1 Feb 11
Well my situation has been same as yours..sometimes happy sometimes neglected then sad but after a little argument it always turns out to be okay! I think the problem is we women like love and care to be expressed through emotion and the men prefer the women to just guess what is going on in their heads!
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
1 Feb 11
Hi dear, you are true. Normally wife demand will be limited for few things as their major one. If they got a feeling that they are caring and understanding, most of the problems will get over there. The rest of the things we can easily manage. There were people say that we need to 'act' to make her happy. Because many of the people don't want them to be aggressive and a better bahaviour and manarism make it so easy and it is a trick and talent to handle them. However, for me it is not an issue she is so bothered of me and never had a problem in any case, and I think it is a luck for me. Thank-s
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
hello zeciram! i am glad that you have accomplished talking to your husband and you're much happier now that you have come to an understanding. Yes, i agree with you that sometimes diplomacy does not always work from person to person. Anyway, i had been an unhappy wife, so very unhappy in fact that i opted out because there was no other solution. What makes a wife happy is indeed largely dependent on the understanding, love and care that a husband can give his wife. Remember the cliche that goes,"the best thing that a father can do for his children is to love and respect their mother". Wives happiness' are just dependent on small yet very meaningful things in the marriage life, that of being understood, loved, cared and having trust in the family.
@bird123 (10486)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Communication is key in all relationships. Yes, yes, sometimes that takes DRAMA!! I always said that if you never argue with your true love that you probably have the wrong one. Life is about learning and growing as people. DRAMA is almost always a part of that!! I no longer let DRAMA bother me.
@SIMPLYD (79764)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
Yes, truly when a man understands and cares for her wife and the whole family, the wife will be so happy. When a husband understands her wife, he will be able to know if she's already tired and it's time for him to help also in the household chores. He understands why she would sometimes be cranky and would do something to stop her crankiness. Nothing really beats an understanding , caring and loving husband to make her wife happy!
@jellymonty (2358)
1 Feb 11
I'm not a wife yet but I've met loads of unhappy wives and the one thing I've noticed is that women love to be listened too. Nothing annoys women more than a man that doesn't listen and assumes just because she has a roof over her head and food on the table then she's happy. I think real happiness for a married woman is having a husband who you can comfortably communicate with and that he is a good listener and takes into account everything about you as a wife. Most husbands live in assumption land and always think they've figured out their wives when they haven't got the faintest clue on what's really going on inside you. I'm glad you've resolved your issues, and I think you should write a blog about it to encourage other wives..