Do your mother and your mother-in-law get along?
By Porcospino
@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
January 31, 2011 1:25pm CST
Yesterday my mother and my mother-in-law visited us together. They helped us pack some of our things and we talked a lot and had a good time together. It was very nice that they were both here. They get along really well and I am very happy about that. My former mother-in-law was very dominant and critical and we never had a really good time when we were all together, because she always made sarcastic or critical comments about everything. I didn't feel at ease around her, and neither did my family or my friends. My current mother-in-law is different and I really like her.
Do your mother and your mother-in-law know eachother? Are they friends?
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9 responses
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
8 Feb 11
It is not easy to find a good and understanding
mother in law. It is great that you have good
one. It makes life much easier and friendlier.
My mother and my mother-in-law are okay. They
hardly met each other. However, my mother-in-law
has just passed away last month. She is quite
elderly, 10 years older than my mother. They
are kind and loving.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
8 Feb 11
Thanks for your response. I am sorry to hear about your mother-in-law. Your are right, it makes life much easier to have a good relationship to your mother-in-law., and I am very happy that we get along so well. I didn't have a good relationship to my former mother-in-law, and I was never really able to relax around her, because she was so critical. That experience makes me appreciate my current mother-in-law even more.
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
1 Feb 11
I lost my mother years ago, then I lost my husband. But his mother seems like your first mother-in-law. She has a special character, she is a strong person. She is more that 80 year old and sometimes I think that she'll outlive us all. It's very hard to get together with her - even for her daughter. My daughter often fights with her grand mohter but she still wants to visither.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
2 Feb 11
Thanks for your response. Yes, she sounds like a my first mother-in-law. If I had to describe her I would also say that she was very strong. I must admit that I didn't like visiting her, because she was always negative and I was afraid that she would "attack" me and say a lot of hurtful things. I never really felt at ease when I was around her. Even her own daughter didn't visit her much, because she was afraid of her comments.
@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
1 Feb 11
When they both come together, it like a twister in my home, They dont like each other. You are lucky to have such good relations with your in-laws. I always try never to get them together in my house.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
2 Feb 11
Thanks for your response. That sounds like a difficult situation. I haven't experienced something like that. My former mother-in-law and my father didn't like eachother, but they never really showed it. They both tried to be polite when they were together and they did have a conversation when they were together in our apartment.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
Luckily, my mother and mother-in-law get along very well. Though they do not see each other often, on occasions when they see each other, they are both very cordial to one another. My mother-in-law would always bring something whenever they attend a gathering at my parents'house.
Nice to see them like that.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
2 Feb 11
Thanks for your response. It is good to hear that your mother and your mother-in-law get along very well. My mother and my mother-in-law don't see eachother that often either, but when they meet in our home they always talk a lot and they have many hobbies in common. It is nice that they are able to talk and get along, it could be problematic if they hated eachother...
@doggydimon (1369)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
I don't have a mother in law yet but I can tell you how my mother and my brothers' mother in law are. hehehe... Yes, they are close and they are friends. They go shopping together. Sometimes, they go to mass together. Sometimes they go watch a movie or do something together like cooking.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
2 Feb 11
Thanks for your response. It sounds like your mother and your brother's mother-in-law have a very good relationship where they are able to do many different things together, that is great. My mother and my mother-in-law don't do that many activities together, but when they are together they talk a lot and they have many things in common as they are both very interested in crafts and things like that.
@polito005 (5)
• Italy
1 Feb 11
Yes, they do because most time my mother in law visit the home they always stay together and talk and so on. so am proud to let you know that yes they both get along
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
2 Feb 11
Thanks for your response and welcome to MyLot 
It is good to hear that your mother and your mother-in-law get along. It is nice when they have a good relationship. My own mother and my mother-in-law also get along. In the weekend when they were both coming over to help us they drove together and they talked a lot. I am very happy that they have such a good relationship.
It is good to hear that your mother and your mother-in-law get along. It is nice when they have a good relationship. My own mother and my mother-in-law also get along. In the weekend when they were both coming over to help us they drove together and they talked a lot. I am very happy that they have such a good relationship.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
31 Jan 11
My mother and mother in law get along okay I guess. They aren't really around each other much to get to know each other. My husbands family isolates themselves. When they got to a picnic or family gathering they all sit together and talk together like they haven't seen each other in months, but they don't hardly talk to the other people at the gathering. So when my mother in law and mother are around each other, like at my kids birthday parties for example, my mother in law sits in one group and my mother in another. My mom tries to make conversation but it doesn't flow very easily between them.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
1 Feb 11
Thanks for your response. Is your mother-in-law shy? Maybe she feels more comfortable around people that she knows well. She sounds a bit like my former father-in-law. He didn't talk to my family, my parents often tried to strike up a conversation, but it was very difficult and they never really got to know him.
@kevin90az (143)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Yes they get along very well. They actually have a lot in common. But sometimes they get along too well and they start teaming up their motherly powers to wreak havoc! But in all seriousness I'm glad they get along because I couldn't imagine how annoying it would be if they hated eachother!
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
31 Jan 11
Thanks for your response. I am also very happy that my mother and my mother-in-law get along, because I have experienced the opposite situation (in my previous relationship) and that wasn't very nice. Fortunetely my mother and and my current mother-in-law also have a lot in common, they have lived in the same area the past, they share some of the same hobbies etc and they are always able to find something to talk about.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
1 Feb 11
I am happy to say that i get along extremely well with my mother-in-law. This is even after the passing of my husband four years ago. My mother-in-law has always been like a second mother to me over the years. We do have our moments like all mothers and daughters. she knows that i love her very much and i know that she loves me too.@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
1 Feb 11
Thanks for your response. It is great to hear that you and your mother-in-law have such a close relationship. My mother-in-law and I also have a very good relationship, and I really like her. In the past I tried to get a good relationship to my former mother-in-law, but it was very difficult. She made me nervous, because she criticized me all the time and always had something negative to say. My current mother-in-law is so different and she is very friendly, I really appreciate that, because I have experienced the opposite extreme in my previous relationship.
